Welcome to episode 296 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Mary Jo Rapini to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the difference between intimacy and sex, analyzing intellectual intimacy and how you can gain better access to your emotions. 

 

Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist specializing in intimacy, sex and relationships. She lives in Houston, Texas and maintains a private practice as a relationship, intimacy/sex psychotherapist. 

  

Rapini is a renowned lecturer, author and television personality. Currently, you can find Mary Jo on Fox 26 Houston with her segment on healthy relationships on Mondays and “Ask Mary Jo” on Thursdays. She has been a contributor on air for CNN’s Prime News and has been on CBS Up to the Minute, Fox National Morning News, Montel, Steve Harvey, the Today Show and Dateline.  

  

Rapini contributes and writes a love/relationship expert page for Your Tango. She also contributes to magazines including Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Playboy, First, Seventeen, Teen, Redbook and Self. She has written for Huffington Post and the New York Times. 

  

Rapini is the author of Is God Pink? Dying to Heal, and a co-author of Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom about Health, Sex or Whatever and Re-Coupling; a Couple’s 4 Step Guide to Greater Intimacy and Better Sex. 

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• Looking at the difference between intimacy and sex 
• Understanding the different types of intimacy  
• How you can gain better access to your emotions 
• The importance of not rushing to find solutions if you’ve been emotionally hurt  
• Analyzing intellectual intimacy  
• How you can manage different religious and political beliefs in a relationship  
• The difference between physical and sexual intimacy  
• How men and women engage differently with intimacy 

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Welcome to episode 295 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jenny McGrath to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss her study Transnationalizing Purity, understanding purity culture and how purity shows up in the bedroom for adult women. 

 

Jenny McGrath (She/Her) MA, LMHC, is a somatic psychotherapist, movement educator, and researcher based out of Seattle. She works primarily with white, cisgender women who grew up in fundamentalist Christianity who are healing from religious sexual shame and sexual abuse. She researches purity culture and its impact on individual and collective bodies.  

  

Her current study, Transnationalizing Purity, looks at the intersections of those socialized within purity culture and their decisions to do development or ministry work internationally.   

  

She recently released an online course, Embodied Sexuality, that offers comprehensive teachings about the impact of purity culture as well as sex education that most folks who grew up in abstinence only education never learned.  

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• Insights into Jenny’s recent study  
• Understanding Transnationalizing Purity  
• Looking at Jenny’s story of purity and the impact it had on her  
• The common themes that emerged from the study  
• Looking at the experience of going on purity missions  
• Understanding purity culture  
• The role that shame plays around purity culture 
• The consequences women face for breaking their purity  
• How purity shows up in the bedroom for adult women  
• Looking at sexual embodiment 
• Learning to tune into your body and be curious   

 

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Welcome to episode 294 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Sheila Wray Gregoire to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the inspiration behind her book, The Great Sex Rescue, how you can honor religion with a great sex life, and how men can empower women to say no. 

 

Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com, the largest single-blogger marriage blog. A sought-after speaker, she’s also an award-winning author of nine books, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex and The Great Sex Rescue. Sheila has a Master's in Public Administration and Master of Arts in Sociology both from Queen’s University. 

 

Sheila built the successful blog, To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, with traffic of one million page views a month. Her email list is 45,000 strong and her social media reach is over 100,000. Her podcast, Bare Marriage, has more than 5,000 downloads each week. She is an award-winning author with seven royalty published books. A sought-after speaker, Sheila has spoken at churches and conferences around the globe. She is a frequent contributor at Family Life Canada events. 

 

Her latest book, “The Great Sex Rescue” was featured in the New York Times Book Review, Publishers Weekly, and the Washington Post. She has bylines at Religion News Service, Relevant Magazine, and other news sources. Sheila and her husband Keith, a pediatrician, live in Belleville Ontario. 

 

They have two grown daughters and one very adorable grandson and granddaughter who live down the road. She enjoys hiking, birdwatching, RV camping trips, and board games. And she knits - even in line at the grocery store. 

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• The inspiration behind the book, The Great Sex Rescue 
• Looking at the common beliefs that hurt sex  
• Understanding sex isn’t just vaginal penetration  
• The difference between sex and intimacy  
• The dynamic between sexual and relational satisfaction  
• Ways in which couples can find good resources to educate themselves  
• How you can honor religion with a great sex life 
• Overcoming orgasm anxiety  
• Tips for women on how to better communicate with male partners 
• How men can empower women to say no 

 

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Welcome to episode 293 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr Kristian Leisegang to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the issues around erectile dysfunction, analyzing the studies conducted around this issue and looking at the ways in which lifestyle changes such as a better diet can help with erectile dysfunction. 

 

Dr Kristian Leisegang is currently the Director of the School of Natural Medicine (SoNM), University of the Western Cape (UWC), Cape Town, South Africa, with over 12 years academic and clinical experience. He is a clinically trained and registered homeopathic Doctor in South Africa, and further obtained a PhD in Medical Science.  

  

His learning and teaching focus in on clinical science modules and diagnostic training to natural medicine students, as well as research supervision for post-graduate students in Masters and PhD programs. 

  

Kristian is actively involved in medical research, with a broad focus on obesity and underlying phenomenon such as insulin resistance, chronic inflammation and oxidative stress within the context of male reproductive function. This includes hypogonadism (low testosterone in males), sexual function and fertility potential. He also actively researching natural medicines within this context.  

  

Kristian has published more than 38 peer-reviewed scientific papers in international journals, alongside 10 invited academic book chapters. He has presented his research at international scientific meetings. 

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• How Dr Kristian became involved with natural medicine  
• What is erectile dysfunction and how is it defined? 
• Looking at studies conducted around this issue 
• The ways in which lifestyle changes such as a better diet can help with erectile dysfunction 
• How things like smoking, drugs and alcohol can impact erectile dysfunction 
• Is acupuncture effective in treating erectile dysfunction? 
• The importance of relaxation and reducing stress 

 

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Welcome to episode 292 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we’re doing something a little bit different as we seek the advice of sexual experts on the best tips for men to have better sexual experiences.  

 

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In this episode, you will be hearing sex tips from: 

 

Michael Castleman 

https://www.mcastleman.com  

 

Michael Castleman is a journalist and novelist, author of more than 2,000 newspaper, magazine, and Web articles, 14 consumer health books, and four mystery novels. 

  

He is "one of the nation's leading health writers" (Library Journal). For 35 years, he has been a prolific freelance medical journalist focused on optimal health, mainstream medicine, alternative therapies, nutrition, fitness, and sexuality.  

 

Dr. Jed Kaminetsky 

https://www.universityurology.com 

 

Recognized as a Top Urologist in NYC, Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, M.D. is a Clinical Assistant Professor at NYU Medical Center and a Board Certified Urologist at University Urology, one of the largest urology practice in the New York City area. 

 

He pioneered the minimally invasive Rezum BPH treatment, is highly skilled in treating all urologic disorders and excels in minimally invasive prostate surgeries and penile implants. 

 

Katie Ziskind 

https://wisdomwithinct.com 

 

Katie Ziskind is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Florida and Connecticut, a yoga therapist for complex trauma, and she is Gottman level two certified. 

 

Katie Ziskind runs, Wisdom Within Counseling, a group practice, and is passionate about helping distant couples who have stopped expressing themselves emotionally and have stopped sexually connecting. 

 

Tim Norton 

https://www.timnortontherapy.com 

 

Tim Norton is a Los Angeles-based sex therapist working in private practice, and host of a podcast on erectile issues and male sexuality - Hard Conversations. 

 

He obtained his bachelor’s and master’s degrees from the University of Southern California. 

 

Erik Everhard 

https://www.erikeverhard.com 

 

Erik Everhard is one of the top paid and most recognized performers in adult films of the last two decades. He has won numerous Male performer awards and been enshrined in the hall of fame of the AVN and XRCO organizations. 

 

Caitlin V 

https://www.bettersexcoach.com  

 

Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Formerly a sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she was catapulted into internet stardom after a video featuring her went viral. 

 

Fredrick Zal 

http://www.tantrickink.com 

 

Fredrick’s sexuality education work has focused upon erotically marginalized communities, partnerships, and individuals since 2006 by "Teaching the Art within Sexual Acts" in private lessons, semi-public and private events, and workshops in Oregon, Washington, California, British Columbia, and via Zoom worldwide. 

 

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Welcome to episode 291 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr Lauren Walker to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how recovering from prostate cancer can take 3-5 years, the common sexual changes after recovering from prostate cancer and looking at useful sex toys that are available and appropriate. 

 

Dr Lauren Walker is a therapist, researcher, author and entrepreneur. Dr Walker translates science about sexuality into real life and helps people grow in the areas of sexuality, intimacy, relationships and self-care. Dr Walker is passionate about reducing the stigma associated with sexuality, mental health and health. 

  

Dr Walker completed her PhD in 2013, she completed a specialized clinical fellowship in sexual dysfunction after cancer treatment. Dr Walker received mentorship from nationally recognized experts in sexual medicine. 

  

Dr Walker recently received Calgary's Avenue Magazine's Top 40 Under 40 award. This prestigious award distinguishes recipients as rising stars; high achievers who are impacting their field and the broader community, and who are moving the city of Calgary forward. 

  

She has also developed several innovative sexual health programs for cancer patients and also directs the Oncology Sexual Health Lab at the University of Calgary. There she is on the faculty as an Adjunct Associate Professor where she conducts research on sexuality. Dr Walker has over 40 scientific publications on the topic of cancer and sexuality and is co-author of a book for prostate cancer patients - Androgen Deprivation Therapy: A Guide for Prostate Cancer Patients and Their Loved Ones. 

  

Though not sure the "perfect balance" really exists, she tries to balance her career, with being a wife and also a mom to a vibrant toddler. Dr Walker loves skiing, golf, and working out, listening to music, and enjoying food with her friends. 

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• How did Dr Walker become interested in this line of work? 
• Analyzing the findings of Dr Walker’s research  
• Ways in which Dr Walker helped partners navigate the journey back into sex 
• How recovering from prostate cancer can take 3-5 years 
• Does pumping help to re-engage sexual activity?  
• The common sexual changes after recovering from prostate cancer  
• Is pain during sex common for prostate cancer survivors? 
• Do implants work and are they effective? 
• Is caregiver actually a useful term to give to partners?  
• Looking at useful sex toys that are available and appropriate  

 

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Welcome to episode 290 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Gavin Vance to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss erectile dysfunction, how he became interested in this area of work, and the roles jealousy and infidelity play around this issue. 

 

Gavin Vance is a Ph. D candidate studying evolutionary psychology under the supervision of Dr Todd K. Shackelford. Gavin received his Bachelor of Science in Psychology from The University of Michigan – Flint in the Fall semester of 2017, and his Master of Science in Psychology from Oakland University during the Summer semester of 2020 after defending his master’s thesis. 

  

Gavin's research interests, broadly, focus on human evolved psychology, patterns of romantic relationships, and human mate preferences. In particular, he is interested in studying men’s evolved sexual psychology and the consequences of these psychological adaptations on men’s behavior in romantic relationships.  

  

Gavin has published two manuscripts investigating the relationship between ED and men’s abusive, partner-directed behaviors, with several additional manuscripts currently submitted to various research journals. He has also published a manuscript investigating mate preferences in older men and women. Gavin's dissertation work focuses on women’s physiological adaptations to prevent pregnancy during rape and assesses vaginal acidity and lubrication in response to sexually coercive audio stimuli. Gavin hopes to eventually become employed as a tenure-track faculty member at a research university. 

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• How Gavin became interested in erectile dysfunction  
• How do you define erectile dysfunction? 
• Looking at the hypothesis of what causes erectile dysfunction  
• Analyzing the recruitment process for getting people involved in the study  
• How they made sure respondents answered honestly   
• The way relationship dynamics can affect erectile dysfunction 
• Looking at the connection between infidelity and erectile dysfunction 
• The ways in which jealousy can show up around erectile dysfunction 
• Analyzing personality traits that may lean toward erectile dysfunction 

 

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Welcome to episode 289 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Melissa Dumaz to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common issues for parents and intimacy, being creative with your ideas for having sex and how you can adapt your sex life around your kids. 

 

Melissa Dumaz is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, best selling author, and podcaster. She specializes in guiding clients through the complexities of overcoming trauma, grief & loss, improve their relationship satisfaction, and supportive therapy for moms in all stages of motherhood.  

 

Melissa passionately supports high-achievers that hide their pain and neglect themselves with the everyday stressors of their personal and/or professional lives. As a big advocate for self-care she weaves that component into her work with all of her clients. Melissa sees clients through her Practice, U Help You, where she offers EMDR therapy; and believes that a healthy you starts with you making new (healthier) choices to live your best life! 

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• What are the common issues for parents and intimacy? 
• How parents may unconsciously weaponize sex 
• Why communication is so important to keep your sex life healthy  
• Ways parents can find time for sex 
• Being creative with your ideas for having sex  
• Understanding that successful sex doesn’t always have to mean penetration 
• How you can adapt your sex life around your kids 
• Tips to maintain your sex life in your kid shares your bed with you 
• Ways in which to overcome issues of sexual frustration 
• How you can keep your sex life great whilst not going out much  

 

 

 

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Welcome to episode 288 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Greg Matos to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss erotic love maps, how challenges outside the bedroom can affect your sex life and how you can re-connect with your partner if there’s a disconnect.  

 

Dr. Greg Matos is a board-certified Couple and Family Psychologist who served over a decade in the U.S. Marine Corps and Navy, becoming a Lieutenant Commander. Greg was awarded the Bronze Star with Combat Valor and the Department of State’s Award for Heroism. He’s the author of Shattered Glass: The Story of a Marine Embassy Guard. 

  

After the military, Dr. Greg began specializing in systems work and Gottman-Method Couples Therapy. He founded a charity on TikTok @abetterloveproject to share science-based advice on love and life with his 40,000 audience members. You can join him for a casual chat and mindful breathing every day on TikTok. 

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• How Dr Greg became interested in this line of work 
• The ways in which trauma affects relationships  
• Why it’s so important to be able to connect emotionally 
• Looking at erotic love maps and how they work  
• How you can keep improving communication with your partner
• Analyzing the success of great sex in long term relationships 
• How challenges outside the bedroom can affect your sex life
• Ways in which you can devise rituals for initiating sex 
• The importance of sexual attunement
• How you can re-connect with your partner if there’s a disconnect
• The importance of curiosity and staying open to new experiences  

 

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Welcome to episode 287 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Aditi Paul to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Dr Aditi became interested in hook-up culture, looking at the dating anxiety that exists within Gen Z and ways we can create successful hook-up dates. 

 

Aditi Paul is a professor and mixed-methods researcher based in New York City. 

  

She uses her multidisciplinary background in computer science and communication studies to examine the impact of using human-centered technologies like social networking sites and online dating services. 

  

Aditi’s research has been published in top academic journals and has been featured in prominent media outlets such as The Washington Post, Women’s Health, The Telegraph UK, Huffington Post, NBCNews. 

  

Her new book, "The Current Collegiate Hookup Culture: Dating Apps, Hookup Scripts, and Sexual Outcomes," is out on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & Walmart. 

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

• How Dr Aditi became interested in hookup culture
• How are dating apps changing hookup culture?
• Do dating apps help cultivate positive sexual experiences?
• Looking at the dating anxiety that exists within Gen Z
• The ways in which hookup sex is being re-defined
• Analyzing the ways dating has evolved over the past 10 years
• How we can create successful hookup dates
• How only 19% of straight women are being reciprocated with oral sex
• The ways in which porn is damaging our sexual expectations 
• Looking at the use of recreational drugs as a sexual enhancer
• How Sugar Daddy’s and Sugar Babies are very much a thing in 2022 

 

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