Sexology

Welcome to Episode 500 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by some of my most memorable guests, who speak to me about the biggest lessons on pleasure, desire, intimacy, and connection from the past nine years.

In this special milestone episode, I revisit conversations that challenged common assumptions about what fulfilling sex is supposed to look like. We explore why foreplay often begins long before anyone enters the bedroom, how every human body experiences pleasure differently, and why there is no single correct way to orgasm. We also look at what research can teach us about sexual positions, pelvic floor contractions, stimulation, and the importance of adapting sexual experiences to our individual bodies.

I also reflect on the deeper lessons these 500 conversations have taught me about becoming a more attentive and connected partner. We discuss moving beyond sexual autopilot, questioning techniques learned through pornography, understanding our fantasies without shame, and keeping desire alive in long-term relationships. Thank you for making these 500 episodes possible and here’s to the next 500!

In this episode, you will hear (In Order Of Appearance)

• Sebastian Harris
• Emily Nagoski
• Lauri Mintz 
• Amir Marashi
• Anna Lee
• Miranda Houston
• Jason Julius
• Justin Lehmiller
• Ian Kerner
• Peggy Kleinplatz

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Welcome to Episode 499 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Michelle Sands, who speaks to me about the connection between hormones, stress, the nervous system, and women’s sexual desire.

In this episode, Dr. Sands explains why a loss of desire is not always a libido problem. We discuss how changes in estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, circulation, sleep, and vaginal health can affect arousal and sexual comfort, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. We also talk about why pain during sex can naturally reduce desire and why women should not assume that they are broken or failing their partners.

Dr. Michelle Sands, ND, is a #1 bestselling author, licensed naturopathic physician, speaker, female hormone expert, and epigenetics coach. She is passionate about helping women harness the power of nature to elevate their genetic expression and live vibrant, fulfilling lives by supporting their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Libido As A Vital Sign
• Hormonal Changes During Menopause
• Understanding Painful Sex
• Stress And Cortisol Dysregulation
• Advocating For Hormone Care
• Rethinking Hormone Replacement Therapy
• Scheduling Intimacy Without Pressure
• Supporting Arousal And Blood Flow
• Restoring Nervous System Balance
• Sexual Health And Longevity

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Welcome to Episode 498 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda Dames who speaks to me about soft dom dynamics, masculinity, and communication in kink.

In this episode Amanda and I discuss what it really means to be a soft dom and how this style of dominance is different than the harsh, controlling stereotypes often associated with dom-sub dynamics. We talk about the basis for soft domination, on care, attunement, emotional safety and the desire to bring out the best in a partner, as opposed to control, punishment or ego. 

As a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach and Certified Sexologist, Amanda helps clients uncover a holistic and balanced relationship with intimacy. She understands that there is no one-size-fits-all approach, which is why she developed her own consulting method to support each person in discovering their unique path to fulfillment. Amanda’s work as The Kink Consultant is rooted in the path she took to embrace her own sexuality. Understanding the source of her kinks and core desires was the first step in her journey toward self-acceptance. She now uses this same approach to help individuals and couples embrace their kinky side with curiosity, confidence, and compassion.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Understanding Soft Domination
• Healthy Power Exchange
• Care Versus Control
• Masculinity And Safety
• Toxic Manosphere Culture
• Emotional Attunement
• Foreplay Outside The Bedroom
• Building Erotic Polarity
• Communication And Safe Words
• Aftercare And Feedback

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Welcome to Episode 497 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Shoshanna Blanca who speaks to me about bridging sexuality and spirituality, healing sexual shame, and reclaiming the body as sacred.

In this episode, I speak with Shoshanna about her provocative and deeply personal project, Jesus Christ Pornstar, and the spiritual journey that inspired it. She shares how psychedelic experiences helped her reimagine the relationship between the body, pleasure, faith, and divinity. Together, we also discuss how sexuality and spirituality do not have to exist in opposition, especially for people who have grown up with shame-based messages about desire, pleasure, and the body.

Shoshanna Blanca is a feminist writer, sex educator, performance artist and model who deconstructs shame-based narratives around sexuality through body liberation, spirituality and visual storytelling. Through her work, she inspires audiences to reject limiting ideas of beauty, modesty and self-expression and reclaim confidence, authenticity and ownership of their bodies.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Bridging Sexuality And Spirituality
• Healing Sexual Shame
• Reclaiming The Body As Sacred
• Jesus Christ Pornstar
• Psychedelics And Spiritual Awakening
• Religion And Erotic Freedom
• Women’s Desire And Empowerment
• Sexual Repression And Pain
• Reinterpreting Biblical Messages
• Finding Sex-Positive Faith

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Welcome to Episode 496 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by David Chambers, who speaks to me about male sexual performance anxiety and creating more connected sexual experiences.

In this episode, David and I talk about the pressure many men feel to perform during sex. We discuss how focusing on erections, penis size, orgasm and technique can disconnect men from their bodies and partners, turning intimacy into something they must successfully deliver.

David Chambers, known as The Authentic Man, is a UK-based dating, relationship and intimacy coach for men. With more than a decade of experience, he helps men build deeper relationships, develop healthier masculinity and create more fulfilling sexual lives. His approach centres on self-awareness, emotional intelligence, authenticity and self-leadership.

In this episode, you will hear:

• The Pressure To Perform During Sex
• Why Sex Is Not A Competition
• Anxiety Around Penis Size
• How Shame Affects Male Confidence
• Overcoming The Fear Of Losing An Erection
• Communicating Sexual Anxiety With A Partner
• Moving Beyond Penetration
• Building Greater Sexual Presence
• Maintaining Intimacy As Men Age
• Co-Creating More Connected Sexual Experiences

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Welcome to Episode 495 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Debra Durst who speaks to me about biohacking sexual health, hormone optimization, and libido after 40.

In this episode, Dr. Durst and I talk about how sexual health can shift during perimenopause, menopause, and midlife, but why that does not mean people have to simply accept a decline in desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasmic strength, or overall sexual satisfaction. We also discuss how hormone changes, low testosterone, stress, burnout, medication, childbirth, and aging tissue can all play a role in sexual concerns, and why many women are often left without enough clear answers from traditional healthcare settings.

Dr. Debra Durst, MD is a nationally recognized physician, entrepreneur, and thought leader in sexual wellness, hormone optimization, regenerative medicine, and longevity care. She is frequently featured across television, podcasts, YouTube, print, and digital media for her bold, science-based approach to modern healthcare. Dr. Durst spent her early career working as a clinical pharmacist. She then utilized her pharmacy foundation to further pursue her Medical degree at Thee Ohio State University. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• Biohacking Sexual Health After 40
• Why Libido Can Change With Age
• Hormones And Sexual Desire
• Perimenopause, Menopause, And Intimacy
• Advocating For Better Care
• Female Sexual Health Beyond Reproduction
• Regenerative Sexual Wellness Treatments
• The O-Shot And Laser Therapy
• Peptides And PT-141
• Finding The Right Provider

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Welcome to Episode 494 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda McCracken, who speaks to me about breaking the cycle of infatuation, limerence, perfectionism, and longing for emotionally unavailable love.

In this episode, Amanda shares the deeply personal story behind her book When Longing Becomes Your Lover and how writing the book helped her understand the dating patterns that kept pulling her toward unavailable partners. We speak to the difference between real love and the emotional intensity that often pretends to be love, particularly when anxiety and fear and the chase become familiar aspects of attraction.

Amanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist passionate about experiences that highlight the intersection of wellness, travel, and relationships. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Washington Post, Guardian, Vogue, National Geographic, NPR, Elle, Outside, Self, Runner's World, ESPN, and many others. She published her first essay about longing in 2013 which led to additional articles featuring anecdotes and deep research and interviews with the BBC and Katie Couric. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• Understanding Limerence And Infatuation
• Chasing Emotionally Unavailable Partners
• Mistaking Anxiety For Love
• Purity Culture And Sexual Boundaries
• Hookup Culture And Uncertainty
• The Role Of Social Media
• Listening To The Body
• Building Trust Before Love
• Choosing Consistency Over Intensity
• Breaking The Cycle Of Longing

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Welcome to episode 493 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Rosa Campbell, who speaks to me about Shere Hite, The Hite Report, and the ongoing struggle to centre women’s sexual pleasure.

In this episode, Rosa introduces us to Shere Hite’s groundbreaking 1976 book, The Hite Report, which gathered women’s honest experiences of sex, orgasm, desire, and dissatisfaction at a time when their voices were rarely included in sexology research. We discuss how Hite challenged the assumption that penetration should define sex, revealing how many women felt trapped inside sexual scripts that prioritised male pleasure over their own.

Rosa Campbell is a writer and historian based in London. She works on the global history of feminism and is a Leverhulme Early Career Fellow at King's College London and holds a PhD from the University of Cambridge. Beyond academia, she writes often for a public audience. She is the author of the The Book that Taught the World to Orgasm and then Disappeared: Shere Hite and The Hite Report out now with Melville House in the US/UK and New South in Australia/NZ.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Understanding The Hite Report
• Shere Hite’s Groundbreaking Research
• Listening To Women’s Sexual Experiences
• Challenging Penetration-Centred Sex
• The Politics Behind Sexual Pleasure
• How Feminist Work Was Silenced
• Why The Orgasm Gap Persists
• Faking Orgasm And Emotional Safety
• Learning Beyond Sexual Scripts
• Creating More Fulfilling Sex Lives

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Welcome to episode 492 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Susanna Brisk, who shares with me her insights on reconnecting to desire, the energetic body and sexual intuition.

In this episode, Susanna and I talk about how sexuality is much more than just technique. We discuss the energetic body, the unconscious agreements we bring to our relationships, and how shame, religious guilt, trauma, gender roles and cultural expectations can subtly impact desire.

Susanna Brisk is a Sexual Intuitive® who teaches people how to trust what they feel, even when it contradicts what they believe. Her work centers on restoring self-trust by translating the body’s intuitive signals into clear, actionable insight. Born in Estonia and raised in Australia after emigrating through the U.N. Refugee Program, Susanna has lived a wide-ranging life—from being scouted as a model and booking national TV commercials to working as a writer, stand-up comic, actor, and solo performer. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• Understanding The Energetic Body
• Desire And Body Connection
• Shame, Guilt, And Sexuality
• Toxic Masculinity And Femininity
• Power Dynamics In Relationships
• Submission, Choice, And Consent
• Abandoning Yourself Sexually
• Wants, Needs, And Turn-Ons
• Rethinking Intimacy And Pleasure
• Self-Intimacy Touch Practice

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Welcome to Episode 491 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Alexander Giebel, who speaks to me about the history of lubricants, how to choose the right lube, and why quality is important for sexual health.

In this episode, Alexander shares how his interest in sexual health started during the HIV crisis of the 1990s, when condoms became a cornerstone of safer sex education. Working on those, he became fascinated with the silicone lubricant used on condoms, and eventually helped bring silicone-based personal lubricant to the broader market.

Alexander Giebel is the founder and CEO of pjur group, one of the world’s leading manufacturers of premium personal lubricants. As the inventor of the first silicone-based lubricant, he established a completely new category in sexual wellness when he founded pjur in 1995. Today, pjur products are available in over 70 countries across five continents, with the company remaining proudly founder-owned. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• The History Of Lubricants
• Silicone-Based Lubricants
• Lubricants And The HIV Crisis
• Medical-Grade Product Standards
• Reading Lubricant Labels
• Water-Based Vs Silicone Lubes
• Avoiding Irritation And Discomfort
• Choosing Lube For Anal Play
• Lubricant And Toy Compatibility
• Genital Skincare And Marketing Claims

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