Julie Ciardi is a Shameless divorced and remarried mom of 3 kiddos. She divorced when her oldest two kids were 2 and 4. She remarried and now has a third child, age 4, with her new husband. She has a very modern blended family. She recently took a flying leap from corporate, leaving behind a high paying multi-six figure salary to be an entrepreneur with 2 businesses. She launched a brick and mortar women’s boutique, Haven Boutique, where she styles women for their daily hustle. Then she launched her podcast, Divorced Mommy to help divorced moms with their mindset and long-term vision to create the life they want and their children need. 

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I recently polled our Shameless Mom #everydamnday Facebook group, asking what you all needed help with right now. I got over a tons of responses and many of those responses had a lot of likes – letting me know that a lot of you are facing the same obstacles. But the most liked response was, “How to protect energy and boundaries so you still have joy during the holidays.” 

This response was the most liked comment by a landslide.

Here’s the deal about the holidays – you have every right to create the experience you want. 

You have every right to say NO. 

You have every right to create space to rest. 

You have every right to create more joy and less stress.

You have every right to make it all about you and your immediate family and not about a million other people. 

You have every right to unapologetically set boundaries, protect your energy, and enjoy the heck out of yourself.

Here are 4 ways to protect your energy and build better boundaries so your next month can be more of a fairy tale and less of a nightmare. I’m going to dive into how to make space for the things and people you love, how to prioritize things that bring you joy, and how to actually RELAX over the holidays. Sound good?!?

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Heather Boorman lives an intensely joy-filled and full life as a homeschooling mom to 3 fringy kids and the executive director and therapist with Boorman Counseling. She passionately advocates for differently wired kids and adults through her work as a national speaker, writer & podcaster at The Fringy Bit. Heather’s also the author of The Gifted Kids Workbook, which provides mindfulness-based activities to help kids reduce stress, balance emotions, and build confidence.

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Last week I gave a talk to Moms In Finance in Seattle and it was pure FIRE and GOLD. It was basically a combination of FIVE podcast episodes I’ve already done wrapped up into a 30-minute talk that will totally change how you turn your struggles into strengths and take power in your life to rewrite ALLLL the stories that are keeping you stuck as all get out.

Listen, we all have our “stuff”…..

And most of us let our “stuff” dictate our struggles. We let our “stuff” create stories in our heads that keep us stuck. We allow our “stuff” to hold us back from finding and thriving in our strengths. 

How about we just stop?

Stop sitting in your stuff. 

Stop settling for stuck.

Start shining your story.

Start standing in your strengths. 

Listen in to hear exactly how.

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Rachel Rodgers is a woman of color, a mother of four and a seven-figure business owner -- in that order. Rachel started her career working as a lawyer with nonprofits, federal judges and Hillary Clinton.

Rachel is founder of Million Dollar Badass, a high-level Mastermind for women looking to take their businesses from 6 to 7 figures. She firmly believes all women should desire to become millionaires – because of the profound impact a woman’s money can make on the world. 

Rachel is also my business coach. I adore her, even though she terrifies me on the reg by pushing me to think WAY bigger than I am comfortable with. Everyone woman needs a Rachel in her life. I can’t to share my Rachel with you.

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It was pointed out to me a few weeks ago that I might be the kind of person who makes up BIG stories in my head that are often UNTRUE. 

This happens when I think someone might be mad at me or when I think I’ve been wronged or when anything feels unjust in my world. 

I’m quick to make assumptions, jump to conclusions, and sometimes downright freak the heck out. And it’s often all for nothing. The story I created in my head was just that – a story – with no basis in reality.

Can anyone else relate?

So, the reason this happens is a thinking process called the Ladder of Inference. This is where we take in an experience or some sort of data and then filter it, determine it it’s a threat or a benefit to us, make assumptions, jump to conclusions, form beliefs and take action based on these beliefs. 

I’m really good at climbing that damn Ladder of Inference super fast, which can totally mess up my head and sometimes my interactions with others. I know I’m not alone here. Listen in to hear how you might be climbing this ladder with me and how it’s potentially damaging your relationships and maybe even your upcoming holidays. 

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Taryn Perry is a Shameless Mom of 4 and a 6 figure earner as a Beachbody coach. She became a Beachbody coach 10 years ago to prove the infomercials were a big fat lie and she lost 25 pounds and built a whole new career, replacing her 6 figure commercial real estate salary in just 3 years. Since then she has worked with multiple MLMs and in multiple fitness spaces as a Turbo Kick instructor, a CrossFit coach, a Boot Camp coach and a Core de Force instructor. She recently added nutrition credentials to resume as well. She never stops showing up for herself (at 4am) or her business, which has taken her to the top ranks of Beachbody and landed her on QVC with Tony Horton.

I’ve known Taryn for years and I’ve watched her do more in her MLM than any other woman I know. Given how many moms I know test the network marketing waters, I had to ask Taryn to come on the show and share her secrets.

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If you’re listening to this episode, you have been a part of my journey to 1 million downloads in some way and I can’t thank you enough. I did not get here alone. I got here because YOU listened, downloaded, subscribed, reviewed and shared this podcast. For that, I am beyond grateful. 

Over the course of almost 300 episodes and over 1,000,000 downloads, I have learned some truly valuable lessons that apply to so many areas of life. I think you’ll be surprised at how much some of my lessons may apply to your life - today.

So, listen in as I share what I’ve learned when it comes to consistency, gratitude & grace, asking, and connecting. And then go practice these things in your own life #everydamnday. You might be blown away by the amazing places they take you.

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Courtney Shorter is the Owner and Event Designer at RyanMorgan Events and Soul Free Mamas, where she plans memorable events and retreats that bring people together… Courtney has always loved planning gatherings, parties, and yes...meetings! Fascinated by all the details in dressing up, dancing, the music, lights, the food, and the glamour. Much like a stylist helps her clients find the best garments to showcase the greatest versions of who they are; Courtney helps her clients throw the best party or event to exhibit the very best of what they have to offer. 

Over the last few years, life has been a world wind of joy and pain but Courtney’s mission is always to find the joy... She loves to bring fun and help families find their joy.  Her company, named after her twin angel babies, Ryan and Morgan, is built on a bedrock of love, a passion for what’s possible and a commitment to be an unstoppable force for good! As a way to honor her babies, after many years of event planning and heartbreak, she recently extended her business to empower women who have experienced infant loss, miscarriages, and/or women who are living with infertility. Courtney has created a powerful space for women that crave to be heard and supported along this lonely journey. 

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A recent conversation in our Shameless Mom #everydamnday Facebook group stopped me in my tracks. 

One Shameless Mom posted that she only got a couple hours of time to herself each month. And that her partner thought this was an appropriate amount of time – he didn’t see why she might need anymore. 

I found this disconcerting.

But more disconcerting was the chorus of moms who commented saying they too didn’t get much if any, time to themselves on a regular basis.

MAMAS. 

This is NOT ok. 

Time to yourself is essential. Time spent serving no one but you is crucial.

Sacrificing regular time to yourself is sacrificing your true self and your basic need to cultivate your identity outside of the roles of mother and wife.

Whether its taking a bath, going out with girlfriends, getting a massage, sitting alone reading in a coffee shop, going to book club, taking a photography class, joining a knitting circle – you need time just for you. 

And this time should not be a gift from your partner. This time should be a requirement of your relationship. 

In this episode, I dig into these 4 steps to getting more time in your life:

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