She Wasn't Born Yesterday

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Teenagers earning money and paying you board? What about adult kids living under your roof?

Joni asked Pete and Ben to get stuck into the family affair of working out if your kids with jobs need to stump up. So they did, diving deeper than their kneejerk response of "YES". Growing up with the expectation of paying board, Pete and Ben acknowledge the changed landscape of home ownership and accessibility. But the life lesson of paying board remains, as well as the opportunity to live out biblical principles of respect.

Key Takeaways:

• Financial Responsibility: Charging board teaches young adults to manage finances and prepares them for independent living.
• Family Dynamics: Open communication about finances and responsibilities can reduce tension and foster understanding among family members.
• Economic Landscape: Rising costs of living and rental rates contribute to adult children staying home longer.
• Adapting Traditions: Modern families may need to adjust traditional approaches to rent and board, weighing financial necessity against educational opportunity.
• Value-Based Discussions: Families can leverage biblical principles, such as honouring parents, to guide discussions about board.

Notable Quotes:

• "Shouldn't they, in a sense, contribute to the cost of the house? And I think the answer is yes." – Pete Burrows
• "In adulthood, spoiler alert, you're going to cop 100% of the cost of living." – Pete Burrows
• "We're trying to prepare you for adulthood. And in adulthood…you need to pay a percentage of those costs." – Pete Burrows
• "Is it more about while you're here, we're trying to teach you a lesson?" – Ben McEachen

 

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Pete Burrows is an accountant for small business and individuals with Lower Russell and Farr in Penrith, Western Sydney, Australia.

Ben McEachen hosts Hope Mornings on Hope 103.2FM in Sydney, Australia.

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Colin Buchanan is a celebrated Australian music artist known for his contributions to country music and Christian children's entertainment. A nine-time Golden Guitar Award winner, he’s also recognised for his role as a presenter on the beloved children’s show Play School. Buchanan has produced numerous albums across genres, bringing a unique storytelling style to his music. As a Christian artist, his work resonates with families across Australia. His career spans decades, showcasing his versatility and ability to connect with both adult and young audiences.

Key Takeaways:

• Colin Buchanan's career is marked by a blend of country and Christian music, showcasing his ability to weave storytelling into his songs.
• His involvement in children's television, particularly Play School, reflects his genuine connection and playful engagement with young audiences.
• Buchanan's musical journey, influenced by his faith, underscores the theme of seeking opportunities through open doors.
• He emphasises authenticity, joy, and truthfulness as critical elements in his creative processes, resonating across audiences from children to adults.
• Buchanan hints at future endeavours, including new musical projects that continue his legacy of impactful and heartfelt storytelling.

Notable Quotes:

• "Music laminates itself to experiences, to joys and losses and holidays and seasons."
• "Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness… the Lord opened the doors and that's how I feel about what happened."
• "The key to entertaining others, I think, is to entertain yourself."
• "There's something intriguing about the one who is intrigued."

 

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She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.

Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

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Margaret Crothers is an advocate with Seniors Rights Service and has an excellent understanding of aged care.  For almost 20 years she has worked for the non-profit community organisation dedicated to ensuring older people in NSW are safe and properly cared for. 

Seniors Rights Service is available to help anyone in NSW who is using, or seeking to access, aged care services. This includes services in your own home as well as residential aged care homes.

You can also contact them if you have questions or concerns about the care of a family member.

Seniors Rights Service helps recipients of aged care services by:

• Listening to your concerns
• Providing information about rights and responsibilities
• Helping resolve problems or complaints with your aged care service providers
• Speaking with your service provider if required
• Referring you to other agencies that can provide additional support, if necessary

Their service is 100% free, independent and confidential.
Do you have concerns about your aged care, or the aged care of a loved one? There’s someone you can call…
Phone: 1800 424 079 or 02 9281 3600

Web: SeniorsRightsService.org.au

 

Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team!

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.

Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show, a product of Hope Media: https://hope1032.com.au/donate/2211A-pod/

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About the Guest:

Reverend Dr. Michael Jensen: Pastor at St. Mark's Anglican Church, Darling Point, Dr. Michael Jensen is known for his deep insights into the dynamics of marriage and remarriage from a faith-based perspective. With his rich experience in pastoral care, he has guided many through complex personal issues, emphasising grace, forgiveness, and thoughtful decision-making. Dr. Jensen is committed to blending theological knowledge with practical wisdom to support his congregation and beyond.

Michael also can be found hosting another brilliant poddy - With All Due Respect of which he co-hosts with the wonderful Megan Powell du Toit. Do check it out! 

Key Takeaways:

• Remarriage in Churches: Breaking down the taboos and understanding the complexities associated with remarriage, especially within religious contexts.

• Higher Divorce Rates in Second Marriages: Analysing why second marriages are more likely to end in divorce compared to first marriages.

• Pastoral Guidance in Remarriage: The role of the pastor in helping couples navigate their relationships, both in the context of separation and remarriage.

• Forgiveness and Healing: The nuanced approach required for forgiveness in cases of marital unfaithfulness and the impact of past abuses.

• Marital Counselling Recommendations: Encouraging couples to invest in their marriages through counselling and shared experiences to rekindle joy and companionship.

Notable Quotes:

• "One of the interesting things about marriage in the contemporary world is that it's become more precious and idealised, often seen as a fulfilment of personal desires."
• "We believe perpetrators deserve love as well as victims, and forgiveness doesn't always mean letting the perpetrator do it again."
• "Marriage is a commitment that requires constant work and patience, not just expectations of perpetual happiness."
• "It's vital for people to have realistic expectations about marriage to avoid simply repeating past patterns."
• "Particularly in their 40s and above, people should invest in their marriages now because there's so much to work for if you're willing to work for it."

 

Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team!

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.

Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show, a product of Hope Media: https://hope1032.com.au/donate/2211A-pod/

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About the Guest(s):

Dr. Patricia Weekaroon: is a celebrated sexologist, author, and speaker renowned for her expertise in sexuality and relationships. With decades of experience, Dr. Pat has dedicated her career to educating others about sexual health and intimacy. Her works, which include various published books, have made significant contributions to how society addresses topics of sexuality, especially relating to family dynamics and education across different generations.

Key Takeaways:

• Grandparents, due to their life experience and time availability, can be key figures in educating younger generations about healthy sexuality and relationships.
• Intimacy is broader than just physical interaction; it includes emotional connectivity and demonstrations of love in everyday life.
• Sex education is often "caught" rather than "taught," meaning that children learn about intimacy and relationships through observed interactions and everyday life.
• Age-appropriate discussions are crucial when teaching children about sex, ensuring that information is delivered in a timely and suitable manner.
• Breaking down taboos and developing comfortable communication channels within the family can create a healthier environment for sex education.

Notable Quotes:

• "We say sex education is caught more than taught, and that catching can happen so much in the family home with grandparents."
• "Grandparents can actually role model intimacy to the young ones." 
• "Be informed, educate yourself and be ready because kids are going to ask you questions."
• "A hug in the morning, a kiss when you return from work, and a pash before bed—you've had sex three times for the day."
• "Be braver than comes naturally." 

 

Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team!

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.

Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show, a product of Hope Media: https://hope1032.com.au/donate/2211A-pod/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

About the Guest:

Dr. Naras Lapsys is a distinguished consultant dietitian and a longevity medicine practitioner. With a dual focus on nutrition and promoting long-term health, Dr. Lapsys has dedicated his career to helping individuals live healthier and longer lives through informed dietary choices. His expertise spans across heart health, inflammation, and cognitive decline, making him a notable figure in the conversation about proactive health management.

Key Takeaways:

• Women are significantly impacted by heart disease, and it is crucial to understand heart health as not just a "man's disease."
• Omega 3 fatty acids play several roles, including impacting heart electrical signaling, reducing inflammation, and thinning blood, which are all crucial for heart health.
• Understanding personal risk factors and maintaining a clear awareness of one's lipid profile and genetics are critical steps in managing heart disease risks.
• Dietary fiber, beyond its gut health benefits, can also influence cholesterol levels and support heart health.
• A rigorous examination of personal health markers such as LDL cholesterol and triglycerides can guide effective dietary changes for better heart health.

Notable Quotes:

1. "Women are 10 times more likely to die from heart disease than from breast cancer, which is a really good starting place for understanding the risks involved."
2. "Omega 3s can have an impact on the electrical impulses that control how the heart beats, so that was… to answer your first point."
3. "Heart disease is a disease of inflammation, and cognitive decline and dementia have an inflammation aspect to them."
4. "Know your risk factors and know your lipid profile. Empower yourself with this information to take proactive action."
5. "It's really about understanding where your risks are and making informed choices with your diet and lifestyle."

Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team!

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.

Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show, a product of Hope Media: https://hope1032.com.au/donate/2211A-pod/

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About the Guest:

Jenni Woodhouse is the Pastoral Care Coordinator for the Church Missionary Society of New South Wales and ACT. She previously held the position of Chaplain for the Sydney Anglican Church's Professional Standards Unit, where she played a crucial role in supporting and documenting complaints of abuse. With extensive experience in addressing sensitive and difficult situations, Jenny has dedicated her career to walking alongside survivors of abuse and helping them navigate the complaint procedures within church institutions. Her work has contributed significantly to raising awareness and improving responses to child sexual abuse in religious settings.

Key Takeaways:

• Child sexual abuse in churches often involves significant grooming by the perpetrator, who gains trust from church leaders and parents before targeting children.
• Statistically, child sexual abuse is not more prevalent in churches than in other parts of society, but the religious context can add layers of guilt and shame for survivors.
• There is a long delay, often 25 years, before many survivors come forward due to shame, fear, and confusion about their experiences.
• Safe ministry training and working with children checks are essential practices in churches to prevent and detect abuse but need further reinforcement and community watchfulness.
• Congregations are encouraged to be observant and report any concerns to help protect the community's children.

Notable Quotes:

• "It takes on average about 25 years for someone to speak up about child sexual assault." – Jenny Woodhouse
• "Most the men who are sexually abused children who are extra familial abusers are not usually opportunistic; they are deliberately targeting institutions like churches." – Jenny Woodhouse
• "It's about educating the pew sitters in the churches who may not think they have anything to say or anything to see, but the people sitting in the pews can see things that are suspicious." – Jenny Woodhouse
• "Human beings, may I say, are really overrated. We just do things to each other so much of the time." – Jenny Woodhouse
• "Expect a beautiful, happy life and world, but we’re going to be bitterly disappointed." – Jenny Woodhouse

 

Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team!

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.

Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show, a product of Hope Media: https://hope1032.com.au/donate/2211A-pod/

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About the Guest:

Michelle Dubé is a talented hair and makeup artist with a vast array of skills honed through extensive work with actors, TV presenters, and private clients. With a career spanning red carpet events, commercials, and weddings, Michelle is dedicated to helping individuals feel their most beautiful while remaining authentic to themselves. Her approach emphasizes enhancing natural features rather than transforming appearances, making her a trusted figure in the beauty industry. Additionally, Michelle is the founder of Lash Armor, a company focused on creating accessible, age-appropriate magnetic eyelashes that empower women to feel beautiful and confident.

Key Takeaways:

• Michelle Dube believes in empowering women over 40 to enhance their natural features rather than conform to strict beauty standards.
• Key makeup tips include opting for a good-quality foundation, using brow gels for definition, and embracing lip colors that boost confidence.
• Michelle advises against age-restrictive beauty rules, encouraging women to express their individuality through makeup choices.
• Lash Armor, Michelle's company, aims to make false eyelashes accessible for women who wish to enhance their natural beauty easily.
• Sun protection and quitting smoking are emphasized as crucial steps in preserving skin health and delaying signs of aging.

Notable Quotes:

• "I'm not about changing people… I just want to make everyone feel as beautiful as they possibly can in their own skin." – Michelle Dube
• "There are no rules… I question why someone would rather die than wear a red lip." – Michelle Dube
• "People are going to judge you anyway, so you might as well just do it." – Michelle Dube
• "We don't want to cover [skin]; we want it to glow. Splurge on a good foundation that covers but still glows." – Michelle Dube
• "My goal is that when [people] leave your chair, they're happy, comfortable, and confident." – Michelle Dube

Resources:

• Michelle Dube's Company: Lash Armor 
• Lash Armour's Instagram handle here
• Lash Armour's TikTok

 

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About the Guest:

Dr. Terry Lim is a consultant psychiatrist and director at the Mindsight Clinic. With a growing focus on diagnosing and helping those on the autism spectrum, Dr. Lim has seen a significant rise in patients seeking clarity in this area over the past five years. He is dedicated to providing compassionate care, helping people understand their mental health challenges, and supporting individual growth. Dr. Lim advocates for broader mental health access via innovative solutions like the mental health GP program, recognizing the need for more inclusive and knowledgeable mental healthcare practices.

Key Takeaways:

• Autism can be diagnosed at any stage in life, and increasing awareness is contributing to more adults seeking evaluation.
• Understanding autism involves recognizing its spectrum of presentations and individual challenges, particularly around social and cognitive rigidity.
• Access to accurate information and compassionate care can empower individuals with autism to embrace their strengths and work on their challenges.
• Cultural and societal expectations greatly influence how autism presents in women versus men, impacting diagnosis rates.
• The mental health GP program aims to expand high-quality mental health services, ensuring earlier and more effective intervention for individuals.

Notable Quotes:

1. "The problem is that people don't really know what [autism spectrum] means for them." – Dr. Terry Lim
2. "There is a debate around whether autism is a mental illness, a condition, or just a variant of the normal population." – Dr. Terry Lim
3. "It's meant to be the start of a growth process." – Dr. Terry Lim
4. "Knowledge is power. And I think if you can understand yourself in as deep a way as you can, that gives one the power to improve." – Dr. Terry Lim
5. "40 plus is a real time of change for a lot of women." – Dr. Terry Lim

Resources:

• Mindsight Clinic - Discover more about Dr. Lim's practice and the mental health GP program.
• Autism Spectrum Australia - Information about autism prevalence and resources.

Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team!

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.

Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show, a product of Hope Media: https://hope1032.com.au/donate/2211A-pod/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

About the Guest:

Kirk Patson, PhD: Kirk is an esteemed director of the Sydney Missionary and Bible College Centre for Preaching and Pastoral Ministry. With a profound commitment to addressing the needs of marginalized communities, Kirk has been instrumental in pioneering innovative housing solutions for people with disabilities through their project, "Our Place Christian Community."

Lisa Patson: With a BA Dip Ed, Lisa has diverse experience as an art teacher, public servant, deaconess, teacher's aide, and in chaplaincy with Anglicare. Her dedication to community service and improving the lives of persons with disabilities shines through her collaborative work with her husband, Kirk, in developing "Our Place."

Key Takeaways:

• Innovative Housing Solutions: "Our Place Christian Community" offers a novel model for accommodating people with disabilities, focusing on faith-based, inclusive living environments that prioritize community integration and autonomy.
• Challenges of Caregiving: The episode sheds light on the substantial challenges and emotional complexities faced by families caring for individuals with disabilities, stressing the need for supportive networks and forward planning.
• Mutual Benefits of Inclusive Living: Living in a community with individuals with disabilities enriches both caregivers and residents, offering reciprocal learning, joy, and companionship.
• Visionary Leadership: Kirk and Lisa's work is a testament to visionary leadership in disability inclusion, highlighting the need for sustainable and replicable community models backed by governmental and charitable support.
• Community and Faith as Pillars: Emphasizing the role of faith and community, the initiative underlines the potential for religious institutions and local communities to actively engage in creating supportive, welcoming spaces for all.

Notable Quotes:

1. "We wanted to serve in the world in some way, probably through Christian mission." - Kirk Patson
2. "If we're going to put creativity and work into that for him, can we do something that will benefit more than just him?" - Kirk Patson
3. "Having meals together is a real unifier across cultures and across abilities." - Lisa Patson
4. "Discover the blessing of an open door, and you'll find a pace of life you didn't even know you needed." - Kirk Patson
5. "It's an option for people with faith who want to live with others and have some stability for the future." - Lisa Patson

Resources:

• Our Place Christian Community: Learn more about the project and how you can support at ourplacecc.org.au
• Christian Blind Mission’s Luke 14 Program: Offers resources for enhancing disability inclusion in churches.
• Book: "Everyone Welcome" by Louise Gosbell: A resource for disability inclusion, available for download.

Click here to contact Janet & Amelia or ask them a question or click here to contact the She Wasn't Born Yesterday team!

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next.

Visit Empty Nest Chicks for more resources, click here for their book, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Support the show, a product of Hope Media: https://hope1032.com.au/donate/2211A-pod/

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.