How do we find the heart to heal those who have hurt us? We will explore what it means to forgive people who hurt you deeply. Do you need to forgive them? Should you? What does that look like? Let’s talk about this.

I was asked in my private Facebook group of my Unmothered women, what to do when they are having a hard time wanting to heal a relationship with their mom and sometimes with their siblings. This can be a tricky, touchy subject. I want to be sure we are always doing something that will begin OUR OWN healing process and not focus on revenge or bitterness.

Our healing depends on getting real about what the situation is and how we can work through it. 

• Your own healing is THE most important part of the healing relationship. It doesn’t matter if they want to join you on this journey. Oftentimes they probably won’t. You must not stifle the progress you need to make in order to heal. 
• The way they accept the process will tell you a lot about whether you should continue a conversation about this or not.
• Are you wanting the healing to make yourself feel better (comforted temporarily), or do you really want to change the relationship, when is it time to take a break or walk away in love?

Always decide whether the thing you want is moving you towards your own healing process and God’s healing or if it is just a temporary fix.

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*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.