Dr. Shyamala is a Clinically-trained Leadership & Relationship Coach and has spent the last two decades helping people master their emotional intelligence. Her mission is to help women build High-Performance Relationships in every area of their life. She is the founder of The EQ Code, a high-touch coaching program designed to help high performers transform the way they think, communicate, and lead.

 

Shyamala is also the founder of the Kiru Wellness Clinic, a mental health practice dedicated to the entire family system. She spent several years on the Board of Directors for the Ontario Association for Marriage & Family Therapy. As a speaker, Shyamala provides frequent talks and workshops on a local, national, and international scale. Shyamala is a media expert, having appeared on a national television show for nearly a decade and makes guest appearances on CTV, CP24 as well as frequent pieces of print media.

 

Today, Dr. Shymala and I have a deep conversation about women, the patterns of our childhoods that model our current decisions, our symptoms and their root causes, the different styles of communication, and how important is to take a look at our boundaries and relationships since these are the ones that are directly linked to the quality of our lives.

 

Here are the main topics of a great conversation:

• Shymala talks about her backstory.
• The raw reality of burnout.
• The moment when you realize that the tools that used to work for you are not sufficient anymore.
• Do you feel that you don’t have “permission” to renegotiate your boundaries and relationships?
• The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your relationships.
• The difference between a symptom and a root cause.
• The templates that we experienced in our families of origin, are the patterns that we will subconsciously try to replicate.
• Women tend to over-function and subsequently end up promoting under-functioning family members.
• You are responsible for your happiness.
• The four primary communication styles.
• The fifth style of communication: The Alternator.
• CASE: A frame that can help you to guide a difficult conversation (Context, Ask, Specify, ReEmbrace and let go).
• Relationships are systemic: if one part of the relationship changes the other parts will have to change.
• Who are you looking for permission from?

 

Hoping this conversation helps you to move in the direction of strengthening your skills in the emotional intelligence arena. These are guidelines for you to start showing up to your life and relationships, you deserve it! Wishing more simplicity and ease in all that you do!

 

You can connect to this episode on iTunes, Spotify, or Stitcher by searching The Simplicity Sessions, or visiting www.jennpike.com/podcast.

 

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Quotes:

“Our backstories are really powerful indicators of where our passion lies.”

“When you know what you know you can't unknow it.”

“The quality of your life is linked to the quality of your relationships.”

“Often the symptoms of depression and anxiety are rooted in the inability to navigate relationships.”

“Things get worse before they get better.”

“If you make a change, everyone in your family will try to bring you back where you used to be.”

“You are radically responsible for your happiness”

“In a healthy relationship there are constant renegotiations of boundaries.”

 

Additional Information About Jenn:

Jenn studied and graduated with honors in Human Anatomy and Physiology with such a passion that it propelled her to continue her education over many years. Jenn is a Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Medical Exercise Specialist, Registered Yoga Instructor and Faculty of the Toronto Yoga Conference, Pre & Post Natal Yoga Expert, STOTT Pilates trained instructor, Twist Sport Conditioning Coach, Spin Instructor Crossfit Level 1 Coaching, among other certifications she got along the way. She is also a guest Holistic Expert for Breakfast Television, Global, CHCH, Rogers Tv and writes columns for STRONG Fitness Magazine, iRun magazine, Savvy Mom and contributes to Inside Fitness Magazine, The Toronto Star and Sun. She is also a proud educator and ambassador to Genuine Health, Nature’s Emporium, and Juice Plus.

Jenn is a proud mama to two beautiful souls and her best teachers of life. She resides on Lake Simcoe in Keswick with her husband and two children