Raising Elite Competitors

Simple Strategies to Help Your Daughter Come Back from Mistakes


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Mistakes are part of every athlete's experience. It's the root of how they learn, improve, and get better. 

However, they can be super tough to navigate! Especially because these mistakes are often happening on a large scale in front of people! Failing publicly (over and over) isn't something adults typically experience, yet it's part of an athlete's every day life. 

And what separates average athletes from the confident, elite ones is the ability to come back from these mistakes quickly!

The faster an athlete can move on, the more likely she'll play better. The best athletes respond to mistakes, rather than react and let them spiral out of control. 

Here are some strategies that athletes can be using, and how you can help as well!

#1: Utilize the breath

Athletes need to access the simplest tool they have with them always - their breath! 

An intentional deep breath in through the nose and out through the mouth is one of the most powerful tools your athlete can use. 

It's what we teach athletes to do in ECP. Their mindset routine has daily, intentional breath incorporated so that they have it with them when the mistakes happen. It's key that this is trained before the mistake!

#2: Have a Recovery Method

The best athletes have some intentional way to recover after a mistake. It's a routine or ritual that they can fall back on to help them. 

It's important that athletes have practiced their recovery method before the mistake happens! 

#3: Visualize a Response to Mistakes

Instead of avoiding tough situations, identify what it is and come up with a plan on how to get through it. Then, visualize that plan! 

This will prepare the athlete ahead of time for the moment and increase the chances she'll get through the mistake faster. 

#4 (For Parents): Normalize Mistakes

Be aware of your response, reaction, and language around mistakes and failures. 

Ensure that your body language after she makes a mistake is positive. 

When you're talking to her post-game, don't point out all the mistakes she's made. Many times, athletes are fearful of mistakes because they don't want to let their parents down. 

Make sure she knows you love her regardless of what she does out there. 

#5 (For Parents): Focus on the Process Over the Outcome

This goes for any outcome (positive or negative!)... focus on the process that lead to it. 

Remember, mistakes are part of your athlete's experience. In fact, they are normal and expected. How she moves from them and becomes stronger after is a combination of your support and language around mistakes and providing her with the tools she needs for recovery!

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  • Join our Confidence Boost Text Membership to build your daughter's mental game
  • Download the free resources we've created for you
  • Join us inside our FREE Facebook Group - The Elite Competitor Society - for weekly Q&A, periodic trainings and challenges, and the support of an amazing community of moms, coaches, and the men who partner with us!

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