There’s a stage of sobriety that doesn’t get talked about enough. Life can be getting better after you stop drinking, while at the same time you start questioning who you are, where you belong and whether parts of your old life still fit.

In this Friday Ramble, I explore what I call the dark night of the sober soul — the strange period when an old version of you is falling away but the new version hasn’t quite formed yet.

I talk about the sober cull, friendships and environments changing, losing old identities, starting again, learning to trust your intuition, and why familiar doesn’t necessarily mean right.

I also share what I’ve been going through personally after changing golf clubs and stepping away from old environments, and why that experience has reminded me so much of early sobriety.

Sobriety gives you clarity, but clarity can be uncomfortable before it becomes peaceful.

Sometimes getting sober isn’t simply about removing alcohol.

Sometimes it’s about finally being able to hear yourself again.

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Sean Alexander — author of Sober On A Drunk Planet

Production note: This episode uses my AI-generated digital double and cloned voice. The words, ideas and experiences are entirely my own.

Nick didn’t have a dramatic rock bottom—he just knew alcohol was quietly holding him back. In his 60s, he made the decision to stop drinking and start living with more purpose.

In this episode, we talk about how marathon training gave him the focus to quit, how getting into the gym helped him build structure in retirement, and how he’s found new energy and meaning without the booze.

With decades of experience in the police, Nick also shares his perspective on how alcohol affects frontline services like policing and the NHS—and what life could look like if alcohol stopped draining the systems we all rely on.

A powerful conversation about alcohol recovery, personal growth, and proving that change is possible at any age.

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In this episode, we talk about what to expect when attending your first Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting.

We break down how AA meetings work, why they can feel intimidating at first, and how support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous have helped millions of people around the world recover from alcohol addiction.

A helpful conversation for anyone thinking about quitting alcohol, seeking support, or attending their first AA meeting.

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A simple starting point if you’re questioning alcohol or trying to stay sober.💪If you’re enjoying the podcast, make sure to follow the show on Spotify so you don’t miss future episodes.

In this episode, we talk about the difference between sobriety and recovery and why quitting alcohol is often just the first step in a much bigger personal journey.

We explore how recovery involves deeper lifestyle changes, emotional growth, and developing healthier ways to deal with life without alcohol.

A thoughtful conversation about addiction recovery, sobriety mindset, and building a sustainable alcohol-free life.

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In this episode, we talk with Warren about quitting alcohol, how Alcoholics Anonymous helped him in early recovery, and how his sobriety journey evolved over time.

Warren shares how nature, fishing, and therapy later in life became important tools for maintaining his sobriety and improving his mental health.

A thoughtful conversation about recovery, personal growth, therapy, and building a sober life that works for you.

✅If this episode made you think about your own drinking, you can download my free guide here:

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A simple starting point if you’re questioning alcohol or trying to stay sober.💪If you’re enjoying the podcast, make sure to follow the show on Spotify so you don’t miss future episodes.

In this episode, we talk with Heather about getting sober in Hull, navigating holidays without alcohol, and experiencing your first sober Christmas.

Heather shares her experience of learning to enjoy celebrations, holidays, and social events without drinking, and how sobriety helped her build healthier habits and a more fulfilling lifestyle.

A great conversation about sobriety, alcohol-free holidays, and creating new traditions without alcohol.

✅If this episode made you think about your own drinking, you can download my free guide here:

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A simple starting point if you’re questioning alcohol or trying to stay sober.💪If you’re enjoying the podcast, make sure to follow the show on Spotify so you don’t miss future episodes.

In this episode, I speak with Ben Ward from Orange Goblin about sobriety, quitting alcohol, and navigating the music industry without drinking.

Ben shares how alcohol became part of the culture while touring and performing, and how deciding to get sober transformed his energy, mindset, and stage performance.

A great conversation about sobriety, personal growth, and building a better life without alcohol.

✅If this episode made you think about your own drinking, you can download my free guide here:

📘7 Sober Secrets You Can’t Ignore: https://www.soberonadrunkplanet.com/start

A simple starting point if you’re questioning alcohol or trying to stay sober.💪If you’re enjoying the podcast, make sure to follow the show on Spotify so you don’t miss future episodes.

In this episode, we talk about the sober ego, managing anxiety after quitting alcohol, and improving family relationships in sobriety.

We explore how sobriety can bring emotional growth but also new challenges, including learning how to handle anxiety, stay humble in recovery, and rebuild trust with the people around you.

A thoughtful conversation about sobriety mindset, personal development, and building stronger relationships after giving up alcohol.

✅If this episode made you think about your own drinking, you can download my free guide here:

📘7 Sober Secrets You Can’t Ignore: https://www.soberonadrunkplanet.com/start

A simple starting point if you’re questioning alcohol or trying to stay sober.💪If you’re enjoying the podcast, make sure to follow the show on Spotify so you don’t miss future episodes.

In this episode, we talk with Vicki about getting sober in Guernsey, losing 8 stone after quitting alcohol, and discovering a passion for running in sobriety.

Vicki shares how giving up alcohol helped her transform her health, mindset, and lifestyle. What started as a decision to stop drinking eventually led to major weight loss and running a half-marathon, something she never imagined doing before sobriety.

A really inspiring conversation about sobriety, health, fitness, and building a better life without alcohol.

✅If this episode made you think about your own drinking, you can download my free guide here:

📘7 Sober Secrets You Can’t Ignore: https://www.soberonadrunkplanet.com/start

A simple starting point if you’re questioning alcohol or trying to stay sober.💪If you’re enjoying the podcast, make sure to follow the show on Spotify so you don’t miss future episodes.