Everybody has an opinion about your life, but they are not the ones who have to live with the consequences of your choices.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn talk about self-trust, discernment, projection, people-pleasing, intuition, and what it actually looks like to stop asking other people to approve a life they will never have to live. We get into the subtle ways people sow doubt, why success can change relationships, protecting big dreams before they are ready to be shared, and learning to be okay with being misunderstood.We also get into:• How to tell the difference between wise counsel and projection• Why some people cheer for you until you start to pass them• Being willing to be misunderstood as you grow• The line between protecting your plans and shrinking yourself• Why big dreams can scare the people you tell• Trusting your intuition and listening to your body• A relationship dream that kept sending the same warning• Why the highest form of peace may be letting go of the need to be understood• Being unapologetic about your standards• Why not every opinion deserves weightToday's Soft Landing:You do not need everyone to understand the life you are building. Some people will doubt you because they cannot see it yet. Some will project because they never tried. Their fear does not have to become your ceiling. Everybody with an opinion does not have wisdom.Whose opinion have you been giving too much power over your life?📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!Vist softlyunfiltered.com

Everybody has an opinion about your life, but they are not the ones who have to live with the consequences of your choices. In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn talk about self-trust, discernment, projection, people-pleasing, intuition, and what it actually looks like to stop asking other people to approve a life they will never have to live. We get into the subtle ways people sow doubt, why success can change relationships, protecting big dreams before they are ready to be shared, and learning to be okay with being misunderstood. We also get into: • How to tell the difference between wise counsel and projection • Why some people cheer for you until you start to pass them • Being willing to be misunderstood as you grow • The line between protecting your plans and shrinking yourself • Why big dreams can scare the people you tell • Trusting your intuition and listening to your body • A relationship dream that kept sending the same warning • Why the highest form of peace may be letting go of the need to be understood • Being unapologetic about your standards • Why not every opinion deserves weight Today's Soft Landing: You do not need everyone to understand the life you are building. Some people will doubt you because they cannot see it yet. Some will project because they never tried. Their fear does not have to become your ceiling. Everybody with an opinion does not have wisdom. Whose opinion have you been giving too much power over your life? 📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify! Vist softlyunfiltered.com

Everybody has an opinion about your life, but they are not the ones who have to live with the consequences of your choices.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn talk about self-trust, discernment, projection, people-pleasing, intuition, and what it actually looks like to stop asking other people to approve a life they will never have to live. We get into the subtle ways people sow doubt, why success can change relationships, protecting big dreams before they are ready to be shared, and learning to be okay with being misunderstood.We also get into:• How to tell the difference between wise counsel and projection• Why some people cheer for you until you start to pass them• Being willing to be misunderstood as you grow• The line between protecting your plans and shrinking yourself• Why big dreams can scare the people you tell• Trusting your intuition and listening to your body• A relationship dream that kept sending the same warning• Why the highest form of peace may be letting go of the need to be understood• Being unapologetic about your standards• Why not every opinion deserves weightToday's Soft Landing:You do not need everyone to understand the life you are building. Some people will doubt you because they cannot see it yet. Some will project because they never tried. Their fear does not have to become your ceiling. Everybody with an opinion does not have wisdom.Whose opinion have you been giving too much power over your life?📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts &amp; Spotify!Vist softlyunfiltered.com

Stop Caring What People Think They Don't Live in Your Shoes

Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.The glow up after a hard season is rarely just about how you look. It is about the boundaries you finally set, the patterns you stop repeating, the peace you protect, and the version of yourself you become after life forces you to tell yourself the truth.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn talk about what really changes after heartbreak, betrayal, burnout, disappointment, or any season that forces you to rebuild. We get into why women are praised for surviving but rarely supported while they heal, what it means to stop healing for other people, and why accountability is one of the biggest parts of a real comeback.We also get into:• Why the real glow up starts internally• The same man, different font dating pattern• Why women are praised for surviving in silence• Healing for yourself instead of healing for a man• The therapy session that changed a relationship• How accountability and stronger boundaries change your life• Why staying too long is something you may have to own• Why a 10-step glow-up routine cannot replace inner work• Nervous-system regulation, trauma, stress, and the physical glow• Why your vision board matters less than who you need to become• How showing up for yourself consistently creates the real comebackToday's Soft Landing:The real glow up is not always what people can see. Sometimes it is quieter than that. It is stronger boundaries, deeper peace, clearer standards, and finally becoming someone you can trust. Pain may have changed you, but that does not mean it wasted you.What hard season changed you for the better, even if you didn't understand it at the time?📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!

Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women. The glow up after a hard season is rarely just about how you look. It is about the boundaries you finally set, the patterns you stop repeating, the peace you protect, and the version of yourself you become after life forces you to tell yourself the truth. In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn talk about what really changes after heartbreak, betrayal, burnout, disappointment, or any season that forces you to rebuild. We get into why women are praised for surviving but rarely supported while they heal, what it means to stop healing for other people, and why accountability is one of the biggest parts of a real comeback. We also get into: • Why the real glow up starts internally • The same man, different font dating pattern • Why women are praised for surviving in silence • Healing for yourself instead of healing for a man • The therapy session that changed a relationship • How accountability and stronger boundaries change your life • Why staying too long is something you may have to own • Why a 10-step glow-up routine cannot replace inner work • Nervous-system regulation, trauma, stress, and the physical glow • Why your vision board matters less than who you need to become • How showing up for yourself consistently creates the real comeback Today's Soft Landing: The real glow up is not always what people can see. Sometimes it is quieter than that. It is stronger boundaries, deeper peace, clearer standards, and finally becoming someone you can trust. Pain may have changed you, but that does not mean it wasted you. What hard season changed you for the better, even if you didn't understand it at the time? 📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!

Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.The glow up after a hard season is rarely just about how you look. It is about the boundaries you finally set, the patterns you stop repeating, the peace you protect, and the version of yourself you become after life forces you to tell yourself the truth.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn talk about what really changes after heartbreak, betrayal, burnout, disappointment, or any season that forces you to rebuild. We get into why women are praised for surviving but rarely supported while they heal, what it means to stop healing for other people, and why accountability is one of the biggest parts of a real comeback.We also get into:• Why the real glow up starts internally• The same man, different font dating pattern• Why women are praised for surviving in silence• Healing for yourself instead of healing for a man• The therapy session that changed a relationship• How accountability and stronger boundaries change your life• Why staying too long is something you may have to own• Why a 10-step glow-up routine cannot replace inner work• Nervous-system regulation, trauma, stress, and the physical glow• Why your vision board matters less than who you need to become• How showing up for yourself consistently creates the real comebackToday's Soft Landing:The real glow up is not always what people can see. Sometimes it is quieter than that. It is stronger boundaries, deeper peace, clearer standards, and finally becoming someone you can trust. Pain may have changed you, but that does not mean it wasted you.What hard season changed you for the better, even if you didn't understand it at the time?📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts &amp; Spotify!

The Glow Up After the Hard Season | Why Women Come Back Differently

Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.Your feelings are valid, but that does not mean every emotion needs to become an immediate reaction. This week Blake and Ashlyn are talking about emotional maturity, anger, hurt, boundaries, self-awareness, and what it actually looks like to process your feelings before they control how you move.From needing time before a difficult conversation to deciding what does and does not need to be addressed, this episode is about learning how to feel deeply without handing your emotions the steering wheel.In this episode:· Why adults struggle to name what they are actually feeling· When anger is covering hurt, embarrassment, rejection, or fear· Why taking time to process can be healthier than reacting immediately· Why nobody owes you anything and how that can change your expectations· How emotional reactivity shows up in relationships, friendships, and work· Why Black women often have to regulate differently in corporate spaces· What lashing out can permanently change in a relationship· Why not everything that bothers you needs to be addressed· How being constantly outside or in relationships can become a way to avoid yourself Today’s Soft Landing: You do not have to suppress your emotions to be mature. You just have to stop handing them the steering wheel. Feel it, name it, sit with it, and then choose a response your future self can live with.What emotion do you usually react from before you understand what is underneath it?📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify! Visit softlyunfiltered.com

Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women. Your feelings are valid, but that does not mean every emotion needs to become an immediate reaction. This week Blake and Ashlyn are talking about emotional maturity, anger, hurt, boundaries, self-awareness, and what it actually looks like to process your feelings before they control how you move. From needing time before a difficult conversation to deciding what does and does not need to be addressed, this episode is about learning how to feel deeply without handing your emotions the steering wheel. In this episode: · Why adults struggle to name what they are actually feeling · When anger is covering hurt, embarrassment, rejection, or fear · Why taking time to process can be healthier than reacting immediately · Why nobody owes you anything and how that can change your expectations · How emotional reactivity shows up in relationships, friendships, and work · Why Black women often have to regulate differently in corporate spaces · What lashing out can permanently change in a relationship · Why not everything that bothers you needs to be addressed · How being constantly outside or in relationships can become a way to avoid yourself Today’s Soft Landing: You do not have to suppress your emotions to be mature. You just have to stop handing them the steering wheel. Feel it, name it, sit with it, and then choose a response your future self can live with. What emotion do you usually react from before you understand what is underneath it? 📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify! Visit softlyunfiltered.com

Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.Your feelings are valid, but that does not mean every emotion needs to become an immediate reaction. This week Blake and Ashlyn are talking about emotional maturity, anger, hurt, boundaries, self-awareness, and what it actually looks like to process your feelings before they control how you move.From needing time before a difficult conversation to deciding what does and does not need to be addressed, this episode is about learning how to feel deeply without handing your emotions the steering wheel.In this episode:· Why adults struggle to name what they are actually feeling· When anger is covering hurt, embarrassment, rejection, or fear· Why taking time to process can be healthier than reacting immediately· Why nobody owes you anything and how that can change your expectations· How emotional reactivity shows up in relationships, friendships, and work· Why Black women often have to regulate differently in corporate spaces· What lashing out can permanently change in a relationship· Why not everything that bothers you needs to be addressed· How being constantly outside or in relationships can become a way to avoid yourself Today’s Soft Landing: You do not have to suppress your emotions to be mature. You just have to stop handing them the steering wheel. Feel it, name it, sit with it, and then choose a response your future self can live with.What emotion do you usually react from before you understand what is underneath it?📩 Email us: Softlyunfiltered@gmail.com📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts &amp; Spotify! Visit softlyunfiltered.com

Feel It, Don’t Become It | How to Manage Your Emotions Without Letting Them Control You

This week on the Suburban Black Girl Podcast we are discussing microagressions and code switching in the work place, navigating opinions on our hair and becoming more confident in who we are despite judgment or criticism.<hr>

This week on the Suburban Black Girl Podcast we are discussing microagressions and code switching in the work place, navigating opinions on our hair and becoming more confident in who we are despite judgment or criticism.

Microagressions & Code Switching

This week on the Suburban Black Girl Podcast we are discussing our past toxic relationships, the lessons we have learned and how we have grown since leaving those exes behind. Tune in this week to hear some tragic but true relationship stories, dating tips and lots of laughter as we reflect on our journey navigating modern dating.<hr>

This week on the Suburban Black Girl Podcast we are discussing our past toxic relationships, the lessons we have learned and how we have grown since leaving those exes behind. Tune in this week to hear some tragic but true relationship stories, dating tips and lots of laughter as we reflect on our journey navigating modern dating.

Reflecting On Toxic Relationships

Join Blake & Ashlyn this week as they discuss the ups and downs of finding and maintaining friends in adulthood. The ladies also share their thoughts on dating, relationships and hopes for finding their future partner. Tune in for funny and relatable friendship, dating and life advice. <hr>

Join Blake & Ashlyn this week as they discuss the ups and downs of finding and maintaining friends in adulthood. The ladies also share their thoughts on dating, relationships and hopes for finding their future partner. Tune in for funny and relatable friendship, dating and life advice.

Join Blake &amp; Ashlyn this week as they discuss the ups and downs of finding and maintaining friends in adulthood. The ladies also share their thoughts on dating, relationships and hopes for finding their future partner. Tune in for funny and relatable friendship, dating and life advice. 

Navigating Adult Friendships

Join your hosts Ashlyn and Blake weekly, for The Suburban Black Girl Podcast as they discuss self improvement, dating, relationships and so much more. You don't want to miss out on this relatable and inspiring podcast. New episodes every Monday.<hr>

Join your hosts Ashlyn and Blake weekly, for The Suburban Black Girl Podcast as they discuss self improvement, dating, relationships and so much more. You don't want to miss out on this relatable and inspiring podcast. New episodes every Monday.

Welcome To The Suburban Black Girl Podcast

Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences.

Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing.

If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕

New episodes every Wednesday.

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Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.

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