Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Are you constantly sharing your "feelings" with your partner, but find they seem overwhelmed and shut down every time you do? Maybe it's not your feelings you're sharing—it could be your perceptions. This episode unravels the subtle yet significant differences between emotions and perceptions and their impact on communication. Discover how to clearly articulate true emotions and understand the real messages behind what you and others say, avoiding the pitfalls of miscommunication and misunderstanding.

This episode is for you if:

• The harder you try to be vulnerable, the worse it gets.
• You're afraid to share your feelings because your partner tends to shut down.
• You want to learn the distinction between expressing feelings and conveying perceptions.
• You seek deeper, more empathetic understanding in your relationships.
• You are interested in strategies that enhance clarity and reduce conflict in communication.

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• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
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DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

In this heartfelt episode, we dive into the emotional complexities of maintaining a friendship with an ex. Our guest, Grace, shares her personal struggles with deciding whether she can be just friends with someone she previously had romantic feelings for. After a tumultuous relationship marked by on-and-off communication and unresolved feelings, Grace and her ex attempt to forge a platonic relationship following his significant life changes, including sobriety.

This episode is for you if:

• You're struggling with the decision to remain friends with an ex.
• You've experienced emotional triggers related to past relationships.
• You are interested in personal growth through difficult relationship dynamics.
• You value expert insights on relationships and emotional health.
• You seek support and understanding in navigating relationship changes.

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• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
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• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Are you caught in a cycle of conflict and misunderstanding in your relationships? This episode takes you through the Drama Triangle, a psychological model that highlights the roles of victim, persecutor, and rescuer that we often unconsciously adopt. Learn how these roles restrict us and discover a path to empowerment by transitioning into the roles of creator, challenger, and coach. By embracing these new identities, you can foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships and personal growth. Through real-life examples and actionable advice, find out how to break free from old patterns and write a new, empowering narrative for your life. Embark on a journey from drama to empowerment, reshaping how you view yourself and interact with others.

This Episode is for you if...

• You often find yourself trapped in recurring conflicts and misunderstandings in your relationships.
• You’re curious about the Drama Triangle and the roles of victim, persecutor, and rescuer that may be influencing your interactions.
• You want to transform into the roles of creator, challenger, and coach to cultivate healthier and more rewarding relationships.
• You’re looking for actionable advice and real-life examples to help you break free from detrimental patterns.
• You're ready to embark on a journey of empowerment, rewriting a more positive and proactive narrative for your life

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Ever found yourself tangled in friendship drama that feels like a never-ending soap opera?  In today's episode of Speak Honest, we dive deep with Sarah into the murky waters of friendship conflicts, uncovering the roles we play in the drama triangle. With a sprinkle of laughter, a dash of wisdom, and a whole lot of heart, we explore the importance of treating our friendships with the same care we do our romantic relationships. 

Sarah shares her story of feeling betrayed and the knee-jerk reaction to cut ties. But is blocking always the best solution? We dissect the dynamics between victims, persecutors, and rescuers, and how stepping out of these roles can lead to healthier and more empowered connections.  Plus, we get real about setting boundaries and the magical art of not being an orange bush (you'll get it when you listen).

Join us as we navigate the complexities of friendship with humor, vulnerability, and a touch of coaching magic. Whether you're looking to mend fences, set boundaries, or simply want to feel seen and heard, this episode is your cozy chat with friends who've been there, done that. 

This Episode is for you if...
• You struggle with how your friends perceive you
• You've ever been stuck in a Drama Triangle

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• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

On this episode of "Speak Honest," we explore the essential topic of grounding techniques and their significant impact on managing emotional triggers and stress. We discuss what triggers mean, how they can act as catalysts for personal growth, and the importance of grounding techniques in turning these moments from potential setbacks into opportunities for mindfulness and presence. Sharing personal stories and offering practical tips, like the color-spotting method and deep breathing exercises, we provide you with the tools to remain grounded and present, promoting a sense of calm and clarity amidst life's challenges. Join us for empowering truths and honest conversations about healing and thriving in our relationships.

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

In this heart-to-heart episode, we dive deep with Sonja, a fellow coach who's navigating the tricky waters of perfectionism and the weight of responsibility in her coaching world. Together, we peel back the layers of Sonja's relationship with herself, her amazing clients, and the heartbeat of her business. It's all about finding that sweet spot between growing personally and shining professionally, easing the pressure of marketing, and untangling the web of responsibility and codependency that sometimes tangles up her work.

With some gentle somatic exercises and thought-provoking questions, I guide Sonja towards spotting and soothing the physical cues of her stress and anxiety. It's a journey towards empowering Sonja with greater self-awareness and a refreshed perspective on her coaching practice. Our chat shines a light on the beauty of vulnerability, the healing power of self-compassion, and the never-ending path of blossoming both personally and professionally.

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Ever had a moment when something small made your emotions skyrocket? We all have, and it's not just about big, scary stuff from our pasts. Today, we're taking a cue from Gabor Maté, an awesome psychologist, to look at triggers in a cool new way. Think of it like finding secret messages from your emotions, showing you ways to grow and get better at handling tough moments. We're going to share some simple tips on how to work through those feelings and make our relationships stronger and more understanding. Ready to get started on this journey? Let's make sense of those triggers together and learn how to turn them into something good. 

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Dive into the heart of love's ebbs and flows with our latest episode, with the wonderfully open and insightful Alex. We peel back the layers of her tumultuous on-again, off-again relationship, examining how this constant cycle is impacting her well-being and sense of self-worth. Our conversation delves deep into the importance of understanding personal desires and the power of recognizing one's worth beyond the instability of intermittent relationships. Alex's journey is a powerful reminder that figuring out what we truly want is the first step towards healthier, more fulfilling connections. Tune in for an episode filled with heart, resilience, and the pursuit of self-discovery in the landscape of love.

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
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• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Today we're getting into the nitty-gritty of how our attachment styles—be it secure, anxious, avoidant, or even disorganized—shape the way we juggle needing others and standing on our own two feet in our relationships. We're talking about what it means to lean on someone just the right amount, how to spot when it's tipping into codependency, or when we're pulling away too much because of our attachment vibes. I've got some real-life stories to make sense of all this and to show why getting a handle on our attachment styles can seriously up our relationship game. We're also diving into this cool Theory called relational dialectics—think of it as the push and pull between wanting to be super close and needing our space. Plus, I'm here to cheer you on to explore your own attachment style and find ways to smooth out the ride in your relationships with a big dollop of openness, respect, and, you guessed it, honesty. Let's get to it!

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Conquering Perfectionism and Imposter Syndrome: A Journey into Casual Teaching

In our latest episode, join me, Jennifer Noble, as we dive deep with Dee, a dedicated casual teacher navigating the choppy waters of perfectionism and imposter syndrome in the teaching world. Dee opens up about the high stakes of living up to full-time teacher standards, her relentless pursuit of improvement, and the weight of workplace perceptions. Together, we unravel the significance of drawing boundaries and shifting mindsets to face these challenges head-on. This heartfelt discussion sheds light on the teaching profession's demands and underscores the pivotal role of personal growth and self-reflection in one's professional journey.

00:06 Introduction and Welcome
00:44 Podcast Recording Challenges and Guest Introduction
01:12 Dee's Struggles with Perfectionism and Impostor Syndrome
02:23 Dee's Teaching Journey and Challenges
04:13 Dee's Self-Doubt and Fear of Making Mistakes
07:17 Dee's Desire for Growth and Improvement
10:05 Dee's Fear of Being Judged and Misunderstood
12:48 Dee's Struggle with Work-Life Balance
13:47 Dee's Fear of Being Incompetent
16:58 Dee's Desire for Transparency and Feedback
20:51 Dee's Fear of Being Misunderstood and Judged
24:28 Dee's Reflection on Her Teaching Experience
30:23 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Embracing Mistakes
31:05 Understanding the Role of a Casual Teacher
31:53 Challenging Expectations and Setting Boundaries
32:23 Navigating the Public and Private School Systems
33:39 Staying Rooted in Reality and Rejecting Negative Narratives
36:01 Defining the Ideal Casual Teacher Role
36:35 Maintaining Emotional Health in the Workplace
39:25 Setting Boundaries and Embracing Progress
45:27 Reframing Mistakes as Learning Opportunities
48:12 Staying Grounded and Celebrating Success
55:57 Final Thoughts and Reflections

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.