Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Are you struggling with grief that feels like it won’t let go, whether it’s from losing someone or ending a relationship?

In this episode, we talk with  Chelsea Ohlemiller about the many faces of grief. From losing her mother and the journey to healing, to understanding how grief can affect every aspect of your life—Chelsea brings both vulnerability and practical wisdom. Together, we dive into how grief isn't just about loss through death but can also show up when relationships end, and how to navigate those emotions while still honoring yourself.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel stuck in grief after losing a loved one or relationship.
• You struggle with guilt over moving forward while still holding on to your pain.
• You're looking for a way to process difficult emotions without getting overwhelmed.
• You want to understand why grief can feel like a never-ending process.
• You’re in need of practical, compassionate advice for healing from loss, whether it's recent or from years ago.

About Our Guest:
A wife, mother and educator who has Indiana roots and a passionate spirit. Chelsea is a sappy romantic, coffee junkie, book collector, and person who wears her heart on her sleeve. She’s sarcastic, full of jokes, full of tears, and enjoys writing most when life gets messy or complicated. In 2017, Chelsea's mother passed away. Through her grief journey, she decided to take her mother’s advice and share her writing with the world. One day she gained the courage to honor her mother's wishes and write. It turned out to be one of the best decisions she's ever made.

• Website: https://hopeandharshrealities.com/
• Book: Now That She's Gone

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• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
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DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Why do we tell ourselves stories that only bring us pain? In this episode of Speak Honest, I dive deep into some gut-wrenching listener questions about love, breakups, and why it feels like your ex is thriving while you're stuck in heartache. We break down the stories we tell ourselves, challenge those limiting beliefs, and shift the focus back on you—because healing starts with understanding your own truth.

You might want to listen if:

• You're stuck wondering why your ex seems happier than you.
• You feel unworthy after a breakup and question your value.
• You're battling with deep-rooted attachment wounds and need guidance to move forward.
• You keep getting dumped "out of the blue" and wonder why it's a pattern.
• You’re ready to start rewriting your story and reclaim your happiness.

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• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
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• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Are you ready to unlock the power of movement for healing and self-discovery? In this episode of Speak Honest, I chat with Cheryl Killilea , a certified personal trainer and trauma-informed yoga instructor, about how yoga and movement can help release stored emotions and improve our mental and emotional health. Cheryl shares insights on how different attachment styles might affect our approach to exercise and wellness and offers practical tips on finding balance and peace through trauma-informed practices.

You might want to listen if:

• You’ve experienced trauma and are looking for new ways to heal.
• You feel stuck emotionally and need tools to help you move forward.
• You’re curious about how attachment styles affect exercise preferences.
• You want to learn how simple movements like walking can transform your emotional health.
• You’re seeking a supportive, non-judgmental approach to yoga and wellness.

About Our Guest:'

 Cheryl Killilea is a seasoned personal trainer and trauma-informed yoga instructor with over 12 years of experience in the health and wellness industry. Passionate about empowering others, Cheryl believes that the strength gained from working out is often the very strength needed to get through another day. She specializes in creating safe, inclusive spaces where clients can explore movement, heal from trauma, and connect more deeply with themselves. Cheryl’s approach combines physical fitness with mindful practices, guiding her clients toward holistic well-being and resilience.

Want to Learn More?  Download Cheryl's Free 12-page Guide to Find Balance and Reclaim Your Inner Peace
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LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Ever feel like setting boundaries makes you the "bad guy" in your relationships? Let's change that!

In this episode of "Speak Honest," we're diving into the real talk about boundaries—what they are, why they matter, and how we can set them without feeling like we're letting everyone down. We get into the nitty-gritty of setting boundaries in our everyday lives—whether it's with our time, emotions, or even our personal space. Together, we'll explore practical, relatable ways to say "no" when we need to and "yes" to what truly matters. We’ll also share some honest stories (because we’ve all been there) and give you steps to start reclaiming your energy and peace in your relationships.

You might want to listen if:

• You find yourself saying "yes" when you really mean "no."
• You're feeling drained from taking on others' emotional baggage.
• You're tired of your personal space being invaded in social settings.
• You're constantly overcommitting at work or with friends and feeling burned out.
• You're looking for ways to stand your ground when it comes to your financial choices.

Grab a cup of coffee (or tea, or wine, or a whiteclaw!—no judgment here!) and join us as we figure out this boundaries thing together. Let's build those stronger, healthier relationships one step at a time!

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WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Ever catch yourself wondering if you’re missing some major red flags in your relationships?

Or maybe you’ve noticed a few but weren’t quite sure what to do next? In today’s episode, we’re diving into the world of red flags—what they really mean, how to spot them, and most importantly, how to handle them like a pro without all the stress!

You might want to listen if:

• You’ve ever looked back and thought, “How did I not see that coming?”
• You’re curious about how your body signals red flags before your brain catches up.
• You want to stop second-guessing yourself and start tackling red flags head-on.
• You’re ready to ditch the guilt and treat yourself with compassion when it comes to past relationship patterns.
• You’re all about learning practical steps to make your current and future relationships healthier and happier.

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• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Ever find yourself torn between two conflicting desires? In this episode, I sit down with Lena, who beautifully navigates the complexities of wanting both certainty and adventure in her life. We explore how understanding your individual needs can help you create balance, even when those needs seem to pull you in different directions.

You might want to listen if:

• You’re struggling to balance stability and spontaneity in your life.
• You often feel conflicted between different desires or goals.
• You want practical tips on identifying and meeting your needs effectively.
• You’re curious about how to align your actions with your core values.
• You’re interested in learning strategies for communicating your needs in relationships.

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• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
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LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Have you ever wondered how your attachment style might be shaping the way you give and receive love? 

In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn dives into the fascinating connection between attachment styles and love languages. Whether you're familiar with these concepts or just getting started, Jenn explores how understanding both can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. She breaks down the five love languages and links them to different attachment styles, offering practical advice on how to better communicate your needs to your partner.

You might want to listen if:

• You're struggling to voice your emotions, needs, and boundaries without conflict.
• You're curious about how your attachment style influences your love language.
• You want to better understand your partner's love language and attachment style.
• You're looking for ways to foster deeper emotional connections in your relationships.
• You keep facing the same frustrating patterns in your relationships and want to break the cycle.

STAY CONNECTED

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WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

 Ever wondered what it takes to land a TEDx talk and own that red dot 🔴?

In this episode, Jenn Noble dives into her TEDx journey alongside her friend, Jordan Harmon. They share their unique experiences from the initial application to the aftermath of their talks, highlighting how Toastmasters played a crucial role in their preparation. Whether you're dreaming of giving your own TEDx talk or curious about the behind-the-scenes process, this episode is packed with insights and practical advice.

You might want to listen if:

• You’re curious about the TEDx application process.
• You want to learn about different experiences of TEDx speakers.
• You need tips on preparing for and delivering a TEDx talk.
• You’re interested in public speaking and building confidence through Toastmasters.
• You want to hear inspiring stories of personal and professional growth.
  
  

About our Guest:
Jordan is an artist, illustrator, author, graphic designer and mother of 3 living in the Bay Area. She has an AA from Mission College in Creative Arts and a BA from SJSU in Graphic Design. She’s currently studying psychology at SJSU to receive her Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling.

• Jordan's TEDx Talk
• So Many Animals by Jordan Harmon

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LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Have you ever felt a knot in your stomach because you fear you've upset someone?

In this episode of Speak Honest, I have a heartfelt conversation with Jo, a long-time client, about her ongoing struggle with the fear of upsetting others. Despite doing extensive work on her self-worth and understanding her core wounds, Jo still finds herself trapped in cycles of overthinking and anxiety. We delve into the importance of somatic processing—getting out of our heads and into our bodies. Jo shares her vivid experience of feeling a fluttering bird with a sharp beak in her stomach, a metaphor for her anxiety. Together, we explore how recognizing and giving compassion to these bodily sensations can lead to deeper healing. Tune in to discover practical steps to shift from overanalyzing to somatic awareness and learn how to give yourself the compassion you deserve.

You might want to listen if:

• You often worry that you've said or done something wrong.
• You find yourself overanalyzing texts or conversations, fearing you've upset someone.
• You struggle with feelings of anxiety and a fluttering sensation in your stomach.
• Your childhood experiences with unpredictable caregivers still affect your relationships.
• You want to learn how to move from overthinking to recognizing and addressing bodily sensations.

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WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions and struggled to manage intense feelings?

In today's short episode of Speak Honest, we dive into the fascinating world of somatic experiencing. Discover the history behind this powerful technique, why it works, and how you can start practicing it to better manage your emotions.

You might want to listen if:

• You find it challenging to control your emotions in stressful situations.
• You want to understand the connection between trauma and physical sensations in the body.
• You're curious about how somatic experiencing can help you feel more grounded and present.
• You're looking for practical steps to release stored emotions and reduce stress.
• You want to learn a simple yet effective method to manage intense emotions.

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
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• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.