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Superhero Syndrome: Why Giving the Answer Isn’t the Answer


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Our clients show up with a multitude of problems, questions, and difficult dilemmas. And the truth is, we’re tempted to offer a solution or an answer because it’s faster, easier, and eliminates our client’s distress. Today we want to talk about that urge to tell clients what to do - or what we call superhero syndrome.

One of the most difficult things to navigate as a divorce coach is that we can see the road ahead, have knowledge and insight the client doesn’t have, and want desperately to help them avoid mistakes and problems. It’s tempting to want to put on that superhero cape and rush to the rescue. But it’s not effective.

Giving the answer isn’t the answer. The best solution for our clients is to help them develop skills to make their own decisions and take their own best next action steps and we have 4 tools to do that.

  • Active/Reflective Listening
  • Powerful Questioning
  • Reality Testing
  • Impact Assessment

This work with your clients takes discipline. Every coach has to occasionally fight that urge to tell or just hand our client the solution. But, trust that your client has it in them. It’s your job to help them find it.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
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LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: [email protected]


Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: [email protected]

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