In the last episode of WANT (day 19) you spoke of money not having any meaning, just a means to buy what you need. And it was a lightbulb of revelation to me.

I do not have an issue with money but with wanting a relationship (as you know ;-)) But the same is true for a relationship! If a relationship would not mean all that stuff I put into it (security, belonging, being lovable, being normal and so on)… what would it mean? it would mean a (male in my case) person I like spending most of my time with and love to be close physically - and it would develop into that organically over time. If there is no such person in my life - no big issue and no worries.

You cannot imagine how big that insight was for me - I love WANT. And I am so grateful for your work and your generosity in sharing it!

What does it mean 'the phobia is on its way out'? Listener question

Also, unfortunately, I'm someone for whom the subliminals don't seem to have any effect, so it seems like something has to be revealed in a different way.

Any thoughts on  this would be so appreciated.

I've been listening to your recent recordings on the "Want"course.  You speak about parenting that comes from the true nature of ourselves, to understand, or release our patterns, conditioning etc which you say are held in the subconscious. It seems fundamental then, that one comes into who they really are to be able to do this.  If one hasn't, then what?  I'm guessing the answer would be to start with seeing who we are before we can progress?

I am wondering if my current experience is ‘normal’

I have been diligently moving into and towards all discomfort as you encourage us to do.

I have found many things changing easily or just simply dropping away as well as some ‘sticky’ areas that I know I have more to learn from.

I am also noticing that as I have less self created drama and trauma in my life, I seem to be floating in a space of what feels like ‘no mans land’ just a rather vague sense of purposeless as so many of the things that I am used to expending my energy on no longer have such a grip on me.

I am hoping this space is going to open up and allow other possibilities, but wanted to check to see I am not off track here.

What if the behaviour of another that is impacting us is one we want to say 'this needs to stop' but we can't ask it because it's impossible for them to stop no matter how clear the ask (eg addiction)

Hi Clare, hope it's OK to message you here. I have a problem I'd like you to discuss on your podcast if that's appropriate.  It's about my 13 year old son who's " friends" have over a number of weeks , dropped him. They don't reply to his messages and don't invite him to join them any more . I have many scenarios in my head for why this has happened and I realise none of them are real..pure fabrication. I suppose my question is, how can I help my son deal with this rejection, my heart is breaking for him . Thanks x

What does it mean to be safe for other people? Listener question

 I definitely navigate through my feelings (I am a Myers Briggs Feeler rather than a thinker) and I can definitely see how this deep identification with whatever emotional response arises sustains and perpetuates the existence of “me” and keeps me unconsciously plunging back into full identification with the content of experience and attempts to secure “myself” within it. How can such a strong conditioned  identification (it feels so dense and multi-layered) with the world and the strong emotional sensitivity towards what is perceived within it ever shift for any longer than fleeting moments of awakening ?  

So grateful for any further clarity in this area.