Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Hi Clare, hope it's OK to message you here. I have a problem I'd like you to discuss on your podcast if that's appropriate.  It's about my 13 year old son who's " friends" have over a number of weeks , dropped him. They don't reply to his messages and don't invite him to join them any more . I have many scenarios in my head for why this has happened and I realise none of them are real..pure fabrication. I suppose my question is, how can I help my son deal with this rejection, my heart is breaking for him . Thanks x

What does it mean to be safe for other people? Listener question

 I definitely navigate through my feelings (I am a Myers Briggs Feeler rather than a thinker) and I can definitely see how this deep identification with whatever emotional response arises sustains and perpetuates the existence of “me” and keeps me unconsciously plunging back into full identification with the content of experience and attempts to secure “myself” within it. How can such a strong conditioned  identification (it feels so dense and multi-layered) with the world and the strong emotional sensitivity towards what is perceived within it ever shift for any longer than fleeting moments of awakening ?  

So grateful for any further clarity in this area. 

I wondered if you could please speak more around how we might recognise when our knowing is derived from a need to secure a separate self (impossible) and the knowing that is absolutely without question in support of thriving as life itself.  I sense that really being able to recognise the difference between these two types of knowing as they arise on a daily basis is helpful to bring into the light. 

It can be terrifying to listen to a subliminal if the body reacts extremely heavy. I was ‘lucky’ to recognize these reactions – because they are part of my life already for several years. It was the first time, straight from the beginning of this subliminal (not during the subliminals of THEM and GOLD).  This heavy reaction IS the proof for me because thís subliminal hit me right in the core of the defence- and beliefsystem.

It is what I need to regain faith in what I feel. With faith and trusting the body, all these anxious stressfeelings begin to feel no longer like a real danger for me. My high build up defencesystem can more and more calm down and so reveil more and more of who  I really am – ‘An all tollerent loving peace- Home’. I can feel somethimes this beautiful peace in an acceptance moment of a stressfeeling.(can be grief, fear, distrust, lonelyness, resistance, anger..) 

It helps me(babysteps by babysteps) to trust to embrace everything I feel, and stay with ‘me’ instead of running away, as I did all my life. I don,t judge this running anymore because it is my believed only way ‘out’. I begin to see that a way ‘out’ does not exist . It is all-in.  THAT was the neverending fight of which I can see more and more the uselessnnes. It exhausts me and causes physical problems I told you about. On the 2nd day I listen to the subliminal, my body was much calmer. I’m curious to see what the next period will bring.

So all these words mean: I just say YES to the subliminal  that helps me to trust the many reactions in the body and reveil who I really am. The body knows what it is doing . The emotions just want to feel alife. And therefore, I will feel alive again – at last 😊

We've been talking about boundaries and inner yes and no in a previous podcast and I've been wondering about that in relation to friendship and connection with people who we want a romantic relationship with but when that is seemingly not possible. The tension between wanting the person in our life still but not being able to have them in our life in the way that we would really desire. What do we do with that? What does an exploration of reality and 'no other' have to say? 

Lifting consciousness is profoundly important - yet today very possibly far too slow and too late to stop this crazy juggernaut of distress, greed, bellicose tribes, fast negative judgement, bad thinking, closed hearts and minds, unthinking innovation combined with wild, untamed capitalism combined with often powerless global institutions - from crashing and killing maybe all our children – so - such lifting of consciousness is just not enough, nor will it happen fast enough.

So, a question:

You are doing some of the best work I have seen – but you and others like you just don’t have the time or scale to stop the crash – so what else to do as well – fast enough, profoundly enough?

I cannot even express my gratitude to allow me to be part of this course and I am thrilled I reached out, that I was pointed into your direction.

I have seen so much from day one and today I understood every word you said, it resonated, because I have just been through a serious of very painful (the bodymind expressed it as stress and anguish) experiences in a relationship.

I did not turn away from it. By blaming the other (as we do) and at the same time being open and curious about it I was shown where I was coming from: my need to be wanted, my perceived lack, the excruciating pain that comes from not  having this need met by the other (who claims he loves me with all his heart but needs to get on with his life dating other women due to us not being able to be together- we live on different continents). 

More than that I was taken to my childhood to see where some of those believes originated and how I have been continually reinforcing those believes in all areas of my life, not just in relationships.

Regarding him.....I woke up one morning and I simply did not want him anymore in that way after seeing where it all came from. I am seeing him totally different now, able to communicate on a very different level to before.

I am at peace for him to do what he clearly has to do, get on with his life (I always understood this intellectually but inside me the lack and jealousy were tearing down bridges between us).

It also caused me to judge myself for being so silly.

So, I need to shout out a Huge Thank You. I am soooooooooooooo grateful to your course, for my insights engendered by it.

I do have a question. 

I am now putting up boundaries between myself and the other. In his mind it would be totally ok for us to continue seeing each other when we have the opportunity. I don't want to do that. 

Partly because I really do not feel the need anymore (wow), though what we had was very beautiful. But I suspect there is more behind it. 

My question is? Why can I not just be open to that? Why does it make me feel used? Is this a reality or am I making this up? 

Perhaps I should just be open to continue exploring  this question?

I was interested in your work because it seems you are a kind of bridge between the 3 Principles and Non-duality worlds.  I spent many years in the non-duality worlds, and have worked closely with a very kind hearted teacher and friend for the last 3 or so years. There were many profound and beautiful seeings and experiences, but somehow my work with him would always get me kind of stuck in very heavy mental structures.  My sense is that the depth and profundity of his "transmission," if you will was so profound and loving and deep that is would stir up all my resistance at once,, cause the mind to spin out after really big openings or "popping throughs"   So I my housemate brought me the 3 Principles around the beginning of the Pandemic, something eventually took with that, and it did help lighten things, and it did continue the work I was doing with the non-dual teacher.  What I felt was lacking in the 3 Principles community was the embracing and empathy of the pain in the human experience.  So in a way I found both paths lacking and excelling in separate areas. 

   Mostly I was able to kind of do both, but I ran into some issues with this too, and it's been a source of confusion and some temporary mental illness.  It's like my thinking mind kind of split and got confused about what's true etc etc... and a lot of fear and confusion have come up. 

    I think where I'm at now is underneath it all I get to trust me, and if I oscillate between the two, then that is what I need to do for now.  I think I do realize they are essentially pointing to the same place, with a slightly different approach.  We are all so unique from one another, there must be a wide variety of ways to reach freer and freer understandings of being in the human condition.  Anyways, I was hoping you could at least briefly comment on your understanding of the difference and similarities between the 3 Principles and Non-duality. I am curious if you consider yourself more in the non-duality world, or neither and what you got out of your time in the 3 Principles and what lead you onto your work you do now? 

   Thank you so much for your offerings, you are truly offering a positive service to humanity.