Resistance, acceptance and choice

In the 3 principles understanding, it's seen we feel our thinking in the moment - is this also part of your teaching and if it isn't what do you see that's different? Thank you.

I have a question about today’s podcast (Friday 16th Sept)

What you said is so true, I love it. The only thing not clear is what you mean when you say ‚remove or put in the barriers‘. 

I sounds to me like you need willpower and effort to do that. If we could just remove the barriers we would have done it long ago. 

My personal experience with food and exercise and substances is, when you fully feel the effects it has on the system the behavior changes by itself over time. You don’t have to remove or put in anything, you just do it or don’t do it anymore. Happened to me with several things from alcohol to fast food to other substances. 

Is that what you mean by removing the barriers or something else? I would love to hear a clarification. 

Thank you for reading 🙏

There’s no such thing as overreacting; it’s just that what someone is reacting to may no longer be what’s in front of them.

Terrence Real

We’ll continue to lose what completes us until we realise we are already complete. That’s what pain teaches you— that you’ll always have a wound when your wholeness depends on another… and your love will always be conditional when it comes with the condition that you are incomplete without them. 

Mark Groves

The body 

Sorry for asking this again, you have spoken so much about this and still it‘s not really clear here what you mean by no self accountability. 

The no self part seems clear, there is no doer, life just lives and expresses through us shaped by our individual systems build of many things like genetics and conditioning. Maybe this already is wrong?

So what is the accountability part besides noticing what happens and acknowledging it happens in this unit. If I follow the logic even if there is noticing or acknowledging happens or not, so there is no one deciding to notice etc.  If there is no doer, what is accountable for anything and what decides to be? It seems accountability just happens or not. Can we call it accountability then?

Sorry for this chaotic explanation, even formulating the question is not clear. I hope I could make myself a bit understandable. Happy for any thoughts. 

I am a little hesitant to ask this question as I suspect that I am not going to like the answer, but here goes anyway….

I was raised in a family that was very ‘reserved’ we did not raise our voices, express emotions openly, disagree with anyone in public etc.

Of-course I married someone who’s family is quite the opposite ,lots of arguments, yelling, cutting off relationships over minor disagreements etc.

At first I found this quite refreshing and if I were to be honest, was quite intrigued and enjoyed the drama.

That novelty has now worn off and I find myself being resentful of the amount of time and energy that is spent, caught  in the middle of all this conflict.

I have been looking at where I do the same thing as well as sitting in the suffering and although this has been so helpful in almost every other relationship I have. I am stuck on this one. HELP. 

I just find myself wanting to avoid family get togethers or if I attend find a way to distract myself or withdraw from the conversations. Is there ever a time when it is better to just avoid/walk away from the whole situation?

Thank you,

Loads of love as always, (even if you send me back in)

I am at an in-between stage in my life, retiring from a very fulfilling and fun career as a veterinarian and looking at what is next for me.

I feel I am in a place where I would like to make some kind of contribution to this world of chaos that seems to be ramping up, yet am hesitant to jump into  trying to 'fix the world’  out there that is just made up of my projections.

I  do not have many limitations or restrictions on what I could do but as a result feel somewhat overwhelmed by the courses/choices/options available.

Do you have any suggestions about how to go about finding the ‘right’ thing to do?