Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

A rat in a maze is free to go anywhere, 

as long as it stays inside the maze.

Margaret Atwood

Hi Clare,

I have a question about the 'do the thing' thing.😂

This is quite a topic at the moment in the group and also you mentioned it in one Play video again in the context of looking for a good feeling. 

I get the concept intellectually, and I also 'do the thing' for many years now, about seven or so, I feel the sensations, survive the thing, and on it goes again. Next time: same debilitating symptoms, same freeze, nausea, not being able to concentrate on anything else, like the life is on hold until it's over. 

So maybe you say that I want it to go away: Yes I do! How could I not, it's such an intense suffering, I would also remove my hand from a hot stove and not put it again and again and again back for years. As a biological system we are wired to avoid pain, so it seems to me unavoidable to want it to go away. I still face it when it's there and want it to go away at the same time.

Ironically not doing the thing doesn't feel right eather. So tricky. I could easily stop but for some weird reason I just don't. And when the next offer comes, yes is beeing said, although I wanted to not accept those offers anymore.

It seems like a lifelong sentence to suffering.

What I am not seeing?

Thank you for any thoughts. 

Is what we are talking about dangerous? 

Dear Clare

I wonder if you could shed some light on the area of indecisiveness. I have been in a relationship for around 18 months  and for about the last 6 months am unsure whether to continue with it or not. I seem to change my mind on this constantly. It’s a push pull feeling and I watch my mind go back and forward with the dilemma. I am going around in circles and I feel like I am 50/50 and unable to decide. It feels quite unfair on my partner as he can sense me pulling away or having cold feet about our relationship and then other times I am open and loving -  understandably it’s confusing and difficult for him to be in a relationship with someone who’s not sure about him.   I’d be really grateful if you could speak to what’s really going on here around being stuck with indecision.

Thank you Clare

A quick report. I have listened to snippets of Play and some of this weeks webinar. It’s all been too much to take on. I have had a deadline to meet this month ending next Friday. Completing paintings for an exhibition. I’ve been overwhelmed and gripped by fear. Im “trying” to remain calm and feel comfortable with being in the space where I am feeling shaken, swamped and inadequate. Completing tasks fills me with dread, navigating things to do in a timeline is a crushing stress. All I want to do is disengage. Play is at the end of a long dark tunnel, unreachable.  I guess it’s a blessing that all this is coming up. 

I seem to have got myself to a point where I am asking myself, simply...what is the purpose of life?  Why bother?  If all I am is awareness, what is the point? Why put up with the hassle of everyday existence?  I'm alive now, doing what I do, then at some point, I won't be! It's inevitable.  People come, people go. 

In amongst all the emotions of the Queen's dying, I was prompted to look up an old friend on the internet.  We were VERY close between my marriages, so about 21 years ago.  We didn't stay in contact but I sometimes wondered what she was up to, how she was getting on etc. I'd had no contact since she called me out of the blue about 17 years ago to let me know her mum had died.  So my google search led me to find out that my friend had actually died in 2012.  In my mind, she had been alive until two weeks ago, but in reality, had been gone for more than 10 years. It really hit me for six.  I was shocked, sad, and even felt a bit guilty (no reason I should feel guilty, but we were like soul-mates for a while). She was 53 or 54 years old...way too young. I've since learned that she went into a spiral of depression after her mum's death and died of alcohol-related illness.  Two weeks later I'm still trying to understand. When I knew her she was full of life. Vibrant.The life and soul of the party. Now she isn't anything but a memory.

So I'm questioning what it's all about.  What, really, is the point of my being here? Even if I get to the point of enlightenment, so what?

Any thoughts?

p.s. I'm not feeling depressed. Definitely not suicidal. Just at a loss as to the 'why' of it all.

Many spiritual people are involved in a radical denial of what is happening. They want to transcend it, get rid of it, get out of it, get away from it. There's nothing wrong with that feeling, but the approach doesn't work because it's escapism in spiritual clothing. It's wearing spiritual clothing and spiritual concepts, but it is really no different than a drunk in the gutter who doesn't want to feel the pain anymore. When you abide and accept everything completely and fully, you automatically go beyond.

Adyashanti

Thank you for all your amazing courses.  I continue to listen and learn every day and am finding what you teach invaluable in so many ways. 

I was listening to your podcast a couple of days ago entitled 'resistance, acceptance and choice' and the idea of ultimate accountability resonates with me (this also links with the story you told about the young girl working with Byron Katie who said her Dad bullied her. Byron Katie asked the girl that if her father was holding a gun to her head and said 'clean the shoes or be shot' and the girl chooses to be shot, who really pulled the trigger?  Byron Katie says, the girl.   

So I'm intrigued by ultimate accountability/responsibility. 

My question is, can this be applied to any situation?  Say for example, a young person comes to me to say they are being bullied. If we explore what the young person's options are to try and resolve the situation and it comes to light that there are options that they haven't fully considered or followed through on, can it be right to say that the young person is choosing to be bullied?  And what if they have explored all of their options and there is still bullying happening? 

And then there's the part of exploring with the young person where they too might be displaying bullying behaviour somewhere in their life towards someone/something else. (the inner reflecting outwards). 

It feels harsh to suggest all this to a vulnerable young person, but at the same time, if this is their route to truth and freedom then it needs to be spoken. 

If there is no doer how does anything get done? And why do you suggest doing things like therapy or no-brainers.