Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

After listening to your podcast today (Oct 6th) re Syd’s quote about Free Will and then listening to some of these podcasts below. I am once again confused as to wether what you are sharing is aligned with The Three Principles? 

Sydney Banks said that 'when you live in a beautiful feeling, it will teach you everything you need to know. ' 

Is this ‘beautiful feeling’ something completely different from 'sitting in the feeling' that you encourage us to do?

Is one Universal beautiful feelings and the other personal difficult feelings?

Is what you are sharing the same as the Three Principles? It seems to me that although you never contradict the Three Principles you are adding an ‘addendum’?

Hi Clare,

Can you speak more to the idea that this conversation isn't attempting to get rid of the self, or if it is? The more inquiry that happens, the more it seems that suffering IS the self. For example in one of your books you point out that feeling grief is not the self, it's the resistance to  it or a belief that it's wrong to feel grief is where the self is. 

As more practice at 'being with sensations' is happening, it feels like the suffering isn't there when the inquiry goes into the body. Then, when the mind drifts somewhere else out of attending to bodily sensations the suffering returns. It's bizarre.

Thank you!

I have some trouble to see how faith and trust fit into this conversation.

I always had a strong knowing that I am guided, and all will just work out in some way. Like being part of a benevolent universe. 

So if we are life living, and there is no me, then there is also no me some universe may care about. Life moves towards thriving, but as I see it, not in a particular way, when we look at biology, like plants and animals. It seems the one particular tube is not important in the big picture. 

So now what, are those body-mind systems just randomly held in life or not, depneding if it serves the thriving?  If yes, how can the human psychology get along with that?

Or am I misunderstanding everything?

I seem to have created a situation on my life including a romantic relationship which exactly mirrors the painful feelings of abandonment  from childhood. I am triggered constantly inbetween some brief periods of feeling secure and safe. 

I could eliminate some of triggers by ending the relationship but then I know I will be seeking again to fill that void.

It is really difficult and I often feel unhappy to constantly get triggered so I want this to end but I’m very scared and maybe I will recreate it again and 

I think the real question for me is how did you come to be teaching the way you do?

Is this something you have developed yourself from your personal work? Are there other 3P teachers pointing to the same thing? 

Is this what non-duality is pointing to?

We have tried everything to get rid of suffering. We have gone everywhere to get rid of suffering. We have bought everything to get rid of it. We have ingested everything to get rid of it. Finally, when one has tried enough, there arises the possibility of spiritual maturity with the willingness to stop the futile attempt to get rid of it and, instead, to actually experience suffering. In that momentous instant, there is the realization of that which is beyond suffering, of that which is untouched by suffering. There is the realisation of who one truly is.

Gangaji

This question keeps returning to me

So thought I’d ask again!

I am feeling safer gradually but I do find that when a person/situation triggers the child in me I still cannot move one way or another either in out away. It’s like I’m stuck there

What to do?

I’m leaving in just over a week to be with my dying dad. He left us when I was 6 and I didn’t see him again until I was 31.

Something I’m aware of is a programme acquired around not being enough and things being my fault and I’ve wondered recently if this comes from a small child’s mind creating associations and innocent beliefs about that situation.

I would like to directly ask my dad if he left because I wasn’t good enough or whether I did anything wrong. I feel that perhaps hearing his response will bring more reality.

But I don’t know if this is just a separate self seeking more security.

Any thoughts would be so gratefully received.

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I am loving the ‘do the thing’  theme  and have a question that I hope you can help as I sense that at the root of this will be a huge shift.

My father and I have had a difficult relationship for many years and we maintain the peace by keeping our conversations fairly superficial and avoid any ’sticky’ subjects.

I call him every week to 10 days and notice myself getting uptight leading up to the call and then feeling completely relieved when it is over. He always thanks me for calling but also complains to other family members that I should be calling more frequently.

So when I heard the podcast about it sometimes being about not ‘doing the thing’ I wondered  wether that would apply in this situation?

On one hand I really do not enjoy the calls and would not miss them, but on that seems unkind and to be honest I am not sure I could not make them.

Looking forward to whatever you have to offer me, I am up for a challenge after having some days off…

[I asked - In what way is it difficult?] 

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Wow, I am not sure if you meant for this question to send me spinning in the way it has, but if so that was brilliant!

I sat down last night to try to elaborate and give you some examples.

I wrote about 5 different emails going over some past issues, and each time I went to send them, I realised that all those situations are no longer true….and even more disconcerting, I am not sure they ever were.

So I shall sit with this a while longer and see if I can come up with something that is other than a story I have been telling myself for a very long time, but right now things seems to be evaporating before my very eyes!

Now what??

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Wow, who knew much a simple question could unravel my whole life story?!

Your questions have been keeping me up at night and waking me in the am.

At first I was happy to get into the stories of my father and I, that are quite interesting and colourful, however as I began writing them out, and feeling all these old emotions they began to lose their lustre and grip on me.

So here is what I am left with, and even this, that felt so solid, is starting to look questionable.

A little background…..I come from a culture that expects the women to centre their lives around everyone else’s needs (husbands, children, parents..) and my father and I have clashed regarding these expectations since I was a teenager. I finally realised that I would never be able to meet those expectations, so stopped trying.

I no longer attend the multiple extended family get togethers and am considered the black sheep of a large multi-generational family.

I do feel a desire/obligation/duty to maintain a relationship with my father especially since my mother passed away, however I think if we were both to be honest we do not really enjoy each others company. He likes for me to phone or visit, but mostly so that her can tell the rest of the family that I did so.

We have tried to work out our differences over the years even with the help of a psychologist, who ultimately suggested that we do not get into conversations where we had different opinions. So that limits our conversations to the weather as he has very strong opinions that are not up for discussion.

He speaks quite negatively about most other people and I am aware that he does the same about me to others.

He refuses to give up his drivers licence even though he is not longer safe on the road.

I absolutely can see where we are similar in many ways, however this does not seem to shift the fact that I find it really hard to spend any length of time with him.

So I guess to sum it up, I feel he has un-reasonable expectations of me, and we disagree on most topics, yet feel I want to maintain some sort of a relationship with him especially as he ages and is going to need he

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