We read and respond to emails, letters, and packages. Trigger warning for an email that asks about therapy ruptures and to which we struggle to respond about friendships and relational trauma and therapy ruptures.

We share a dream we had, and what we learned from it in therapy. Trigger warning for discussion of Littles and early neglect and developmental trauma, but no details or in-depth disclosures.

We share what we learned from a workshop by Dolores Mosquera about working with parts. We share what she explained about why trust can be such an issue even when there is a solid therapeutic alliance in therapy. We redefine the “Adult Self” based on her definition of “emerging and not yet defined”. We discuss ideas for increasing awareness and cooperation. Trigger warning for passing reference to parents as abusers, but no details or disclosures.

We read and respond to listener emails.

Our guest this week is Jackie Burke, PhD, from Australia. She is working on policy and legislation and with organizations and agencies regarding vicarious trauma. She differentiates between vicarious trauma and counter-transference, and normalizes it as happening to anyone exposed to the trauma of others. She gives practical applications for organizations and agencies to empower workers to be human and cared for as humans.

The Nestor System is our guest this week! They share their lives experience with dissociation, including growing up in a family of medical trauma. They also discuss the intersectionality of autism. They introduce the System Speak resource list, and explain how it is specifically from a lived experience perspective.

The Nestor System is our guest this week! They share their lives experience with dissociation, including growing up in a family of medical trauma. They also discuss the intersectionality of autism. They introduce the System Speak resource list, and explain how it is specifically from a lived experience perspective.

We read and respond to listener emails.

We share a therapy update about how we are learning to orient ourselves to time. We explain how and why we added “Kelly Time” and “Pandemic Time” to the list with Memory Time and now time. I talk about why “Now Time” changed to “New Now Time”.

We discuss therapy trauma with a friend who is also a clinician with lived experience. We explore the impact of previous therapy trauma on new therapeutic relationships, and how therapy trauma makes it so difficult to re-engage with a new therapist. We discuss how relational wounds can still hurt, even when the person wasn’t doing it maliciously like our abusers did. We discuss how the most technically skilled therapists are not always the best therapists. Trigger warning for therapy trauma discussion, with passing reference to examples, but no disclosures made in depth or detail.