Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

In this honest and empowering episode, I break down the stigma around erectile issues and the myth that a hard penis is the only key to great intimacy. Whether you or your partner struggles with maintaining an erection, this episode offers a fresh perspective on redefining intimacy, practical tips to keep the connection hot, and how to explore pleasure beyond penetration. From medical insights to creative intimacy tips, Karen shares how couples can stay connected — soft or hard.

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Timestamps:

00:00 – The Truth About Erectile Challenges in Midlife

02:15 – Why Soft Doesn’t Mean the End of Your Intimate Life

04:45 – Medical Causes: When to See a Doctor

07:10 – The Testosterone Factor + Heart Health Connection

09:40 – How Performance Anxiety Can Make It Worse

12:00 – Redefining Intimacy: It’s Not All About Penetration

14:20 – Erotic Massage, Touch, and Non-Penetrative Play Ideas

17:30 – Using Toys, Hands, and Connection to Stay Close

19:50 – How the Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass Helps Couples Reignite Desire

22:00 – Final Thoughts: Expand Your Menu of Pleasure

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Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles to break the silence around painful sex, vaginal atrophy, menopause, and the damaging scripts of ‘duty sex’. Dr. Sophocles shares:

• Why so many women endure painful sex silently
• The difference between vaginal atrophy, vulvodynia, and other causes of pain
• How treatments like vaginal estrogen, lubricants, and dilators can help
• Why sexual pain should never define your worth as a partner
• The importance of communication with doctors and partners
• Her upcoming documentary HOT! exploring midlife women’s sexuality
• Her personal definition of sex: joy, curiosity, and humor

This episode is a must-listen for any woman wanting to understand her body, break free from shame, and embrace a sex life defined by her own needs and desires.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro & Guest Welcome

02:10 – The Reality of Painful Sex Globally

05:50 – Dr. Maria Sophocles’ Work & TED Talk Impact

09:20 – Mercy Sex, Duty Sex, and The Bedroom Gap

14:00 – Why Women Feel Obliged to Endure Pain

17:50 – Common Causes of Painful Sex in Midlife

21:40 – Treatments: Vaginal Estrogen, Lubricants, Dilators

26:10 – How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex

31:30 – Communicating With Your Partner About Pain & Pleasure

38:00 – The Importance of Sexual Check-Ins

43:20 – Dr. Sophocles’ Upcoming Documentary HOT!

47:10 – Her Personal Definition of Sex

49:00 – Closing Thoughts & Next Steps

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Dr. Maria Sophocles has been a leader in women's healthcare for nearly 30 years, specializing in menopause management and female sexual health. She founded Women’s Healthcare of Princeton, a progressive gynecology practice, and has been a visiting professor and NIH researcher in Switzerland. A board-certified ob/gyn and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she has pioneered innovative treatments, including CO2 laser therapy for vaginal atrophy. She serves as CMO of EMBR Labs, Director of Women’s Health Services for Curia Health, and is an advocate for women’s health policy. Dr. Sophocles is also an author, TEDWomen2023 speaker, and frequent media contributor on women's health topics.

Connect with Dr. Maria Sophocles:

Website: https://mariasophoclesmd.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmd

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

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In this milestone 100th episode, I’m celebrating by launching my  Hotter, Wiser, Wilder adult sex ed masterclass and revisiting the 10 most unforgettable moments from Taboo to Truth. 

Inside this episode:

• Why younger men pursue older women
• The 5 secrets of desire: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, attunement
• Testosterone myths & benefits for women
• Why fantasy is essential for getting turned on
• Reframing foreplay to coreplay
• Sexual snacking to reignite connection
• The anatomy and purpose of the clitoris
• The truth about midlife dating insecurities
• Why communication is the foundation of great sex
• How to keep sex creative and fun in long-term relationships

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome & Celebrating 100 Episodes

01:12 – Launching Hotter, Wiser, Wilder: Adult Sex Ed Masterclass

02:47 – Cougar Dating: Younger Men Want Older Women

05:14 – The 5 Secrets of Desire Revealed

08:36 – Do You Even Like The Sex You’re Having?

11:02 – Testosterone: Myths, Benefits & Libido for Women

15:55 – Why Fantasy is Essential for Women’s Turn-On

19:27 – Midlife Dating Insecurities vs Male Perception

23:44 – Sexual Snacking: Reigniting Connection in Daily Life

28:19 – Rethinking Foreplay: Why Coreplay Matters

33:12 – The Glorious Clitoris: Pleasure, Anatomy & Purpose

38:05 – Communication, Creativity, & Keeping Sex Exciting

41:20 – Closing: Pleasure Does Not Have an Expiration Date

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this special on-location episode, I visited Babeland, the iconic sex shop in Brooklyn, NY, for an educational and eye-opening walkthrough of the latest in adult toys and accessories. Joined by certified sex educator Lisa Finn, we explore a wide range of products—from vibrators and anal plugs to BDSM gear and positioning pillows.

Whether you're new to sex toys or looking to expand your toolkit, this episode delivers a shame-free, inclusive, and curiosity-driven look at what pleasure can truly be.

👀 This is a highly visual episode—watch the full tour on YouTube for the complete experience:

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Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth

0:30 – Filming at Babeland in Brooklyn

1:00 – Watch the full tour on YouTube

1:20 – Get 10% off at Babeland.com

1:45 – Big Announcement: New Masterclass!

2:40 – What You’ll Learn in the Course

3:30 – Sign Up Now for 50% Off

4:00 – Wrap-Up & Final Thoughts

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Laurie Mintz (Becoming Cliterate), we unpack some of the biggest myths around women's intimacy, including the idea that satisfaction should come from one kind of experience alone.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Missed Part 1? Go Back!

0:45 – Why Vibrators Are Game-Changers

2:30 – Debunking the Biggest Myths About Toys

4:30 – How Vibration Supports Pleasure and Healing

6:15 – Do Vibrators Replace Partners? Let’s Be Real.

8:00 – Rethinking ‘Foreplay’: The Four Plays That Work

10:16 - Announcing My New Masterclass - Hotter, Wiser, Wilder!

10:30 – Sexual Guilt & The Orgasm Gap

12:10 – Attachment, Casual Sex & Cultural Myths

14:00 – BDSM, Boudoir & Owning Your Curiosity

16:00 – What Is Sex? Dr. Laurie’s Definition

17:40 – Advice for Women Struggling With Orgasm

19:20 – Final Thoughts + Join Dr. Laurie’s Live Coaching

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

‪@drlauriemintz‬ is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators.

Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz:

Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz

Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becomin...

Instagram: / drlauriemintz

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

To celebrate the 100th episode of the Taboo to Truth podcast, I’m launching something BIG:

🎉 Hotter, Wiser, Wilder — a s/x-ed masterclass for adults

💡 6 packed modules

📹 Bite-sized videos & guided exercises

🎯 Real tools for solo & partnered pleasure

You’ll learn:

✔️ The truth about your anatomy (yes, yours!)

✔️ How to navigate aging & s/xual dysfunction

✔️ Communication that actually works

✔️ Games, fantasies, toys & more—because fun is part of the homework 💃

🚨 Sign up now at https://www.taboototruth.com to get 50% off if you join before July 1

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: / taboototruth

YouTube: / @taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Laurie Mintz—author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex—to debunk the most harmful lies women are told about pleasure. From the myth of orgasm through penetration to the overlooked power of the clitoris, this conversation covers the real truth behind the so-called "pleasure gap." Get ready for a candid, empowering anatomy lesson, personal revelations, and a fresh take on vibrators, vulvas, and voice. This is Part 1 of a must-hear two-part series.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome & Guest Intro: Dr. Laurie Mintz

01:26 - The #1 Lie Women Are Told About Pleasure

03:44 - Why Penetration Alone Doesn’t Cut It

06:10 - Busting the Wetness Myth: Lube is Your Friend

09:18 - The Orgasm Gap Explained

13:12 - Hookups vs. Relationships: The Numbers Don’t Lie

16:33 - What Lesbian & Solo Sex Teach Us About Female Pleasure

18:57 - Vulva vs. Vagina: Why Language Matters

22:19 - Anatomy of the Clitoris (and Why You’ve Never Been Taught This)

26:07 - Where Female Pleasure Really Lives

29:32 - The G-Spot Debate: Magic Spot or Misdirection?

33:11 - Why Guys Need to Ask, Not Assume

35:49 - Karen’s First Vibrator: A Game-Changing Moment

38:41 - Vibrators Are Not Replacements, They’re Tools

42:14 - Wrap Up & What’s Coming in Part 2

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest: 

Dr. Laurie Mintz is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It  and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.  Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology.  In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators. 

Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz:

Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz

Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becoming-cliterate

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

In this episode I  welcome Tanya Griffin, founder of “oOYes,” an ecstatic intimacy and cannabis lifestyle brand. Together, we dive deep into how cannabis can elevate female pleasure, the science behind multi-orgasmic experiences, and how to use both systemic and topical products to enhance your sensual life—especially in midlife and beyond. From THC-infused lube to breaking down barriers around oral, nothing is off the table. You’ll laugh, learn, and leave feeling liberated.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome + Meet Tanya from Oh Yes

01:15 - From Cannabis to Climax: Tanya’s Entrepreneurial Journey

04:28 - Cannabis & Female Pleasure: How They Work Together

08:40 - Karen’s Wild Weed Story (And Accidental O!)

12:10 - Why Women Think Too Fast for Good 🍑

15:02 - Dosing THC for Newbies: Start Low, Go Slow

18:50 - Practicing Pleasure: Why Self-Love is Essential

21:34 - Topical vs. Systemic Cannabis: What to Know

26:55 - What is Edible Sex Play?

29:10 - How Hormones Affect Cannabis & Climax

33:48 - Cannabis for Oral Anxiety & Better Blood Flow

38:22 - Daily O’s, Mastery & Why Practice is 🔑

42:14 - What to Do If You Get Too High

45:18 - Creating Ritual: Turning Pleasure Into a Lifestyle

49:30 - Introducing the “Oh Yes Sex Quiz” for You + Your Partner

52:40 - Tanya’s Definition of Sex

54:35 - Final Thoughts + Upcoming Collaborations

About The Guest

From colostrum to cannabis to cum, Tanya Griffin has spent over three decades building businesses focused on women’s health, plant medicine, and sexual wellness. A lactation consultant turned cannabis pioneer, she founded and scaled multiple health and cannabis ventures, including the first national cannabis franchise and a REGTech/FINTech platform for cannabis payments. Now the founder of oOYes and Uh Huh Honey, Tanya combines her passion for ecstatic sex, education, and harm reduction into luscious, cannabinoid-infused products and experiences. She’s on a mission to help people have more and better sex—consciously, joyfully, and fully present.

Yes to Sex newsletter: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7166601342721982464

20% off OoYes products use code TABOO20: https://www.ooyes.love

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I dive deep into the often-overlooked world of delayed ejaculation—a condition that affects up to 10% of men and becomes more common with age. I break down the physical and psychological causes, including hormone shifts, nerve damage, porn habits, and emotional trauma. With candid reflections from my own experience with orgasmia, I offer a compassionate and practical guide for men (and their partners) to reclaim pleasure, confidence, and connection.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction: Why This Topic Matters
• 01:20 – My Personal Journey with Orgasmia
• 03:00 – What Is Delayed Ejaculation?
• 04:15 – Defining “Normal” Timing vs. Clinical Diagnosis
• 05:30 – How Common Is It? (Stats + Aging Impact)
• 06:30 – Physical Causes: Surgery, Alcohol, Nerve Damage, Testosterone
• 09:15 – Psychological Causes: Shame, Anxiety, Trauma, Porn Habits
• 12:45 – The Impact on Relationships + Emotional Disconnect
• 14:10 – Key Questions to Ask Yourself About the Pattern
• 16:00 – How to Start Treating Delayed Ejaculation
• 18:30 – Adjusting M@sterbati*n, Increasing Sensitivity, Using Lube
• 20:00 – When to Seek Therapy or Medical Help
• 21:30 – Final Words: You’re Not Broken—You Can Heal

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

In this candid episode, I sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin—emergency physician turned sex tech innovator—to talk erectile fitness, aging erections, and why the humble c*ck ring might just be the unsung hero of midlife pleasure. From horse accidents and centaur metaphors to revolutionary wearable tech, this episode explores the real (and often overlooked) science behind erections and the emotional toll of performance anxiety. If you're ready to shift shame, embrace better tools, and reignite connection with your partner—this one's for you.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction
• 01:40 – Meet Dr. Elliot Justin & his journey from ER to sex tech
• 04:00 – The horseback accident that changed everything
• 06:15 – What erectile dysfunction really means (and doesn’t)
• 08:20 – Why most cck rings don’t work — and how FirmTech changed that
• 11:00 – The confidence-erection connection no one talks about
• 13:30 – Why your partner’s erection is a health signal
• 15:50 – Can data actually improve erections? (Yep.)
• 18:00 – RingMate: The pleasure product designed for her
• 20:10 – Redefining what counts as sx
• 22:00 – Final thoughts on pleasure, performance & partnership

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Elliot Justin, MD, FACEP, is the CEO and Founder of FirmTech, the first sex tech company dedicated to improving men’s erectile fitness. He has a background in Emergency Medicine and healthcare technology consulting. Dr. Justin is also a serial healthcare entrepreneur, having founded and sold Pegasus Emergency Group and Swift MD. He has provided guidance to various services, telemedicine, and tech startups. Dr. Justin pursued Slavic Studies at Harvard University and studied medicine at Boston University. Happily married for 35 years, and father of three children, Elliot and Ann live in Montana with three energetic mares and a flock of chickens.

Connect with Elliot Justin, MD:

Instagram: @doctorelliotjustin @myfirmtech

Website: https://myfirmtech.com

Enjoy 15% off with code TABOO15 using this link: https://myfirmtech.com/karenbigman

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook

We’ve all heard them—the whispered “rules” about how sex should be. Be spontaneous. Always want it. Orgasms are everything. Sound familiar? But what if I told you these so-called truths are actually myths… and they’re killing our sex lives behind closed doors? These myths sneak into the sheets with us. 

In this episode, I’m breaking down five myths that could be ruining your sex life—and offering a fresh, honest look at how to bring the pleasure back. One of them might even surprise you (myth #4 is a game changer).

Let's dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) - Introduction

(00:01:11) - Myth #1: "Sex drive should be constant"

(00:02:05) - Myth #2: "No desire means a bad relationship"

(00:03:27) - Myth #3: "Real sex requires penetration"

(00:04:05) - Myth #4: "Orgasms are the goal" (this one will shock you)

(00:04:30) - Myth #5: "Relationship sex is always better"

(00:05:50) - Upcoming adult sex education masterclass

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!