Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

Menopause isn’t a disease. So why does the world treat it like one? The whispers start early. Get ready—your body is about to betray you. The fear. The shame. The idea that once you hit a certain age, you’re less vibrant, less desirable, less… you. But what if that’s all a lie?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, a renowned OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and author of Menopause Bootcamp, to break down the myths, misconceptions, and truths about menopause. From the science behind hormonal changes to the emotional and societal impacts, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating—or preparing for—this life stage.

We explore why menopause isn’t a disease, how hormone therapy can be a game-changer, and why the fear of breast cancer shouldn’t overshadow the benefits of treatment. Plus, we tackle the buzzwords like “natural” and “bioidentical,” and discuss the role of lifestyle, diet, and community in thriving through menopause.

This isn’t just a conversation about hormones—it’s about reclaiming power, understanding our bodies, and embracing the wisdom that comes with age. Are you ready to redefine menopause? Let’s dive in!

About the Guest:

Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is a board-certified OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and advocate for integrative medicine. She is the author of Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Yourself, and Flourish as You Age and a frequent media contributor, including as the Chief Medical Correspondent for The Drew Barrymore Show. Dr. Suzanne is passionate about empowering women to take control of their health and embrace menopause as a transformative life stage.

You can find Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz here:

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Timestamps:

• (00:47) Introduction to Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz
• (01:46) What is perimenopause and menopause?
• (05:13) The wide-ranging symptoms of perimenopause
• (08:02) The rise of antidepressants during menopause
• (09:41) The truth about hormone therapy
• (20:23) When to start hormone therapy
• (25:33) Busting the biggest myths about breast cancer risk
• (27:59) Hormone therapy and osteoporosis
• (29:07) The overlooked cancer risks you should know about
• (32:52) Natural vs. Bioidentical Hormones: What’s the real difference?
• (39:42) Can lifestyle choices make menopause easier?
• (43:03) Menopause Boot Camp & what’s next on the journey

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Is squirting the ultimate out-of-body orgasmic experience, or just another overhyped sex myth? Some women swear it’s euphoric, others feel indifferent, and some want nothing to do with it. But what is squirting, really? Is it just pee? Is it something every woman can do? And how can you (or your partner) experience it?

In this episode, I break down the science and psychology behind squirting, from the anatomy of the female body to techniques that can lead to female ejaculation. Plus, we talk about the mental blocks that might be holding you back—and why preparation (hello, waterproof sheets!) is key.

Are we too caught up in the mechanics of it all? Or is squirting just another way to explore pleasure without shame? Let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

• (00:00) What people really think about squirting
• (00:58) What is squirting? Breaking down the myths
• (02:47) Female anatomy: Understanding the Skene’s glands
• (03:47) The technique: How squirting happens (and how to try it)
• (04:41) The psychological side: Overcoming mental blocks and shame
• (05:37) Final thoughts: Is squirting worth the hype?

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

What if your most intimate moments were weaponized against you—and no one cared?

At 19, Norma Buster thought she was just ending a relationship. Instead, she became the target of relentless stalking, threats, and the ultimate violation: her private photos exposed online. She turned to the law for justice. It failed her, but she didn’t back down. Now, as Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg and host of Oral Arguments, Norma is fighting tech-facilitated abuse, exposing legal loopholes, and demanding change.

In this episode, we dive into her harrowing journey from victim to advocate. Why do abusers get more protection than victims? How do tech platforms keep enabling harm? And what can we do about it?

We’ll also explore the blurred lines between online sex work and exploitation, the problem with calling it “revenge porn,” and how Norma found power in the unlikeliest of places—including OnlyFans.

This isn’t just a story. It’s a wake up call. Are you ready? Let’s get into it!

Timestamps:

• (00:39) Introduction to Norma Buster
• (01:50) Norma’s story: Surviving stalking and image-based abuse from ex-boyfriend
• (04:48) The legal fight: How laws fail victims of revenge porn
• (09:04) Tech-facilitated abuse: When the internet becomes a weapon
• (11:03) Why sex workers need legal protection/Sex Work and Decriminalization
• (14:44) Is OnlyFans legal?
• (15:00) The difference between legalization and decriminalization
• (16:36) Norma's journey to OnlyFans
• (20:12)The therapeutic aspect of sex work
• (24:07) How her advocacy impacts dating and relationships
• (27:01) Norma's definition of sex

About the Guest:

Norma Buster is a sex-positive victim’s rights advocate and the Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg, a law firm specializing in tech-facilitated abuse. Once a victim of image-based sexual abuse, she now fights for others in similar situations, advocating for stronger legal protections and digital safety. She’s also the creator and host of Oral Arguments, a podcast that explores the intersections of sex, tech, and the law.

You can find Norma here:

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CA Goldberg Law Firm

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

You spot a red flag, and what do you do? Run. Someone’s still obsessed with their ex? Gone. Talks only about themselves? No thanks. Financially unstable in their 50s? Hard pass.

We’ve trained ourselves to scan for every possible warning sign before we even give someone a real chance. But here’s a thought—when was the last time you actively looked for green flags? The little signs that someone might actually be worth your time?

In this episode, I flip the script on dating and relationships. Sure, avoiding red flags is important, but what about spotting the signs that someone is actually worth your time? From emotional stability to simple acts of kindness (like holding the door or sending a thoughtful text), we’re diving into what makes a partner a keeper.

Are we so focused on running that we forget to notice when we should stay? Let’s talk about it.

Timestamps:

• (01:07) The biggest red flags in dating after 50
• (02:16) Why dating someone who’s “almost divorced” is a risky move
• (02:16) The self-absorbed dater: how to spot them fast
• (04:01) Why financial security matters more than ever
• (05:01) The top green flags to look for in a potential partner
• (06:03) How small gestures (like opening a door) say a lot
• (07:05) Why a good relationship with an ex isn’t a bad thing

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Let’s cut to the chase: relationships are hard. And let’s be honest, keeping the spark alive? Even harder. Between work, life, and the endless to-do list, intimacy often takes a backseat. But what if there was a way to flip the script? A way to not just save your relationship but make it hotter, deeper, and more exciting than ever?

In this episode, I sit down with Nicholas Velotta, head of research at Couples Wellness for the app Arya.fyi and a PhD student at the University of Washington. We dive into the world of Arya.fyi, this incredible couples' wellness platform that’s all about helping partners explore and deepen their connection. Nicholas shares how Arya.fyi combines entertainment with education, offering everything from playful quizzes and customizable erotica to expert-led videos on topics like sensory play and even the history of kink.  We also talk about how the app uses a mix of AI and human experts to guide users through personalized experiences. Ever felt nervous about bringing up a new idea with your partner? Or maybe you’ve struggled to find the right words to talk about what you want? Arya.fyi’s got your back, making those conversations easier and way less awkward.

So, why is this app the talk of the town? And could it be the missing piece your relationship has been waiting for? Let’s just say, your bedroom might thank you later. Let's dive in!

Timestamps:

• (00:00:00) Introduction to Nicholas Velotta
• (00:01:22) What is the Arya.fyi app?
• (00:02:55) How couples find Arya.fyi
• (00:06:18) The AI and human concierge
• (00:07:34) Fun and educational activities on Arya.fyi
• (00:10:57) 80% of users seek relationship advice
• (00:12:47) Can technology enhance intimacy?
• (00:14:36) The future of intimacy and technology
• (00:17:42) Sensory play is the #1 request
• (00:20:43) Sexual confidence and exploration
• (00:21:49) The importance of safety in relationships
• (00:23:31) AI in relationships: friend or foe?
• (00:25:22) What is sex, really?
• (00:26:34) The future of AI and human interaction

About the Guest:

Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist whose work examines the intersection of technology and IRL intimate relationships. As the Head of Relationship Research at one of the world's first "relationship wellness" apps, Arya, Nicholas develops psychological profiles of our intimate and erotic selves using a vast archive of user data. In addition to investigating the nuances of intimate relationships using never-before-available data, he crafts AI-enhanced algorithms to curate digital content and physical goodies that increase relationship satisfaction. Nicholas is also a Ph.D. student at the University of Washington who, somehow, finds time to post explainer videos on social media...as well as the occasional meme. :)

You can find Nicholas here:

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

We all know orgasms feel incredible, but how often do we actually stop and explore what they really mean?

In this episode, I walk you through the science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm—the heart-racing, muscle-contracting, hormone-releasing magic that feels so good. We also take an honest look at how men and women experience orgasms differently: why women often need more time to get in the mood, and how men can experience orgasms without ejaculation.

But this isn’t just about anatomy or science; it’s about YOU. I share personal stories, including one about a friend who experiences orgasms from exercise (yes, you read that right!), and how communication, curiosity, and a little playfulness can transform your intimate experiences. Plus, we explore why orgasms aren’t just about pleasure—they’re great for your health, too. Better sleep, lower stress, and even a stronger immune system? Yes, please.

Whether you’re looking to deepen your connection with a partner, understand your own body more intimately, or simply enjoy life’s pleasures to the fullest, this episode is for you.

In This Episode:

• (00:00) Introduction
• (00:50) What is an orgasm, really?
• (01:24) The science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm
• (03:35) The different types of orgasms
• (06:57) How male orgasms differ from female orgasms
• (08:22) Why men tend to get aroused more quickly than women
• (09:03) The health benefits of orgasms
• (09:45) Some unexpected areas of the body that can enhance orgasm
• (10:04) The brain is your biggest sex organ

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

How do emotional and sexual wellness intertwine to redefine intimacy in midlife?

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I sit down with somatic sex educator Kiana Reeves for a deep dive into the evolving dynamics of relationships and sexual intimacy, particularly during midlife. We talk about the vital connection between emotional and sexual well-being, exploring how authentic communication and intentional practices can transform both personal and partnered experiences.

Kiana shares her expertise on somatic approaches to intimacy, offering insights into how cultivating love, safety, and embodiment can lead to a richer, more fulfilling sexual life. We also discuss the power of redefining conventional expectations, embracing vulnerability, and fostering deeper connection as key components of a vibrant midlife journey.

Whether you’re navigating changes in your relationships, seeking tools to enhance intimacy, or simply curious about the intersection of emotional and physical wellness, this episode provides thoughtful reflections and actionable tips to help you feel more connected, confident, and alive.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction
• (01:34) The empowering world of somatics
• (04:29) Exploring different somatic practices
• (06:09) Why it’s important to clearly communicate your desires and needs
• (10:14) The emotional complexity of casual encounters
• (17:08) How to reignite connection as a long-term couple
• (24:53) Breaking the tug-of-war of needs in partnerships
• (27:00) Kiana’s inspiring journey of motherhood and self-discovery

Kiana Reeves

• Website: https://www.kianareeves.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kiana.reeves/

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

What’s the role of power in your relationships, and how does it shape intimacy?

In this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of power dynamics, kink, and midlife sexuality. Inspired by the provocative themes in the film Babygirl featuring Nicole Kidman, I bring my perspective as a sex educator to explore topics that are often left unspoken, but deeply impactful.

From the transformative possibilities of power exchange to the surprising ways infidelity might reignite connection, I tackle the complexities of modern relationships with insight and empathy. I also discuss the importance of honest communication about sexual dissatisfaction, the identity of kink as more than just an activity, and society’s evolving perspectives on age and gender in relationships.

Whether you’re curious about exploring kink, reflecting on your own sexual identity, or seeking to deepen connection in your relationships, this episode offers thoughtful reflections and practical advice to help you navigate intimacy with greater clarity and confidence.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction
• (01:15) Power dynamics and blackmail as a kink?
• (06:00) Dynamics of kink exploration and self-expression
• (07:30) Why you should openly talk about sexual satisfaction with your partner
• (08:15) Age-related dynamic shifts in relationships with younger partners

Mentioned:

• Film - Babygirl (2024): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30057084/
• Book - The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Monogamy might seem simple on the surface, but is it really? In this episode, I dive into the often-overlooked complexities of what it means to be monogamous, especially in midlife relationships. From historical roots to modern interpretations, I explore how personal experiences and upbringing shape our definitions of fidelity.

I also share personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and tips to help you clarify expectations and strengthen communication with your partner. Whether you’re starting a new relationship or redefining an existing one, this episode is all about creating clarity and connection.

Timestamps:

• (01:10) Different perspectives on monogamy
• (02:23) A little history about monogamy
• (03:34) Why it’s important to clearly define monogamy
• (04:38) Why personal boundaries matter—and how to define them
• (06:40) What “cheating” means to different people (and why it’s not always clear).
• (07:32) Is a "work spouse" considered cheating?
• (07:38) Nesting after divorce for the kids’ sake
• (07:45) Is attending a sex party without participating a form of cheating?
• (09:28) Why monogamy is based on religious models
• (09:47) How our upbringing shapes our views on monogamy

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

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In this episode, I sit down with Heather McPherson, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of the Sexual Health Alliance, to explore the complexities of sex addiction and its societal perceptions. Why are we so quick to label and judge? Heather dives into the origins of the sex addiction diagnosis and critiques its impact, advocating for a harm-reduction and education-focused approach instead. We also take a deep dive into sexual health, consent in non-traditional relationships like kink, polyamory, and open relationships—are therapists equipped to understand these dynamics? Heather explains why proper training is essential. Plus, she expands on how we define sex itself, pushing for a broader, pleasure-centered perspective. Curious about the future of sexual health education and community? This conversation is sure to make you rethink everything! Let's dive in!

About the Guest:

Heather McPherson is a licensed marriage and family therapist, entrepreneur, and the CEO and founder of Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a leading provider of education and certification for sexuality professionals. She is also the founder of the ReSpark Group, a national brand offering group therapy and a non-profit organization. Licensed in Colorado, Washington, and Texas, Heather specializes in sexual health and relationships. An AASECT-certified sex therapist, she's been featured in Playboy, CNN, and Rolling Stone. Heather’s passion lies in providing high-quality, evidence-based training for professionals in the field.

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Timestamps:

• (00:00:01) Introduction to Heather
• (00:02:09) What exactly is “sex addiction”?
• (00:06:11) Sex addiction vs porn addiction
• (00:14:07) The six guiding principles of sexual health
• (00:18:19) Integrating religion and sexuality
• (00:22:35) Gender differences in sex addiction
• (00:25:53) Evolution of sex therapy
• (00:28:54) Curriculum development for sexual health
• (00:31:19) How to become a certified sex therapist
• (00:35:49) Community importance in sexual health

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.