Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I dive into some of the most important topics surrounding midlife: menopause, Sexual Health, and personal growth. As I share my experiences of becoming a certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach, I talk about the physical and emotional changes that come with menopause and how they impact our overall well-being.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Menopause: How Hormones Affect Every System in the Body

(00:57) – Introduction to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(02:10) – Becoming a Certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach

(04:30) – Physical Symptoms of Menopause: What to Expect

(06:45) – You’re Not Alone: Encouragement for Navigating Menopause

(08:00) – The Importance of Sexual Health for Overall Well-Being

(09:30) – Exploring New Sexual Experiences and Breaking the Vanilla Routine

(11:15) – Personal Reflections: Dating Apps, Relationships, and Lessons Learned

(13:20) – What’s Next: Upcoming Guests and Topics to Look Forward To

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Zar, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, to talk about why specialized training in sexual therapy is so important. Too many therapists aren’t equipped to handle conversations around sexual health, and that can leave people feeling misunderstood and ashamed. Dr. Zar and I dive into the challenges that come up when addressing sexual issues, especially painful sex among those assigned female at birth. We also discuss how vital it is to educate ourselves and our partners on things like foreplay, core play, and being truly connected with our bodies. This episode is all about breaking the silence, reclaiming our sexual well-being, and moving toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Sexual Desire Discrepancy

(00:17) - Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(01:04) - Meet Dr. Rachel Zar

(02:05) - What Does a Sex Therapist Do?

(03:17) - Understanding Sexual Therapy Training

(05:14) - Common Issues in Sex Therapy

(10:30) - Navigating Painful Sex and Low Libido

(15:01) - The Importance of Education and Awareness

(22:37) - Understanding Foreplay vs Core Play

(30:52) - The Role of Exercise in Enhancing Sex

(31:36) - Kink Affirmative Therapy Explained

(40:43) - The Definition of Sex and Its Spectrum

(41:18) - Conclusion and Resources for Listeners

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Connect with Dr. Rachel Zar:

Website: https://www.rachelzartherapy.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-zar-phd-lmft-cst-107a9610/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelzartherapy/

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I tackle the often stigmatized topic of herpes and STIs in midlife. Dating can be complicated enough without the added stress of navigating STIs, particularly herpes. I share my personal experiences and insights, aiming to break the silence and dispel common myths surrounding this condition. Herpes is not life-threatening, and many people live with it without significant issues. By focusing on open communication and honesty, I emphasize the importance of talking about sexual health with partners. My goal is to create a supportive environment for candid discussions about herpes and other STIs. Together, we’ll explore how to manage these realities while still enjoying a healthy and fulfilling sex life.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction to STIs and Herpes

(01:12) – Stigma Surrounding Herpes

(02:11) – Personal Experience with a Partner

(04:00) – Understanding Herpes Transmission

(10:41) – The Importance of Disclosure

(15:19) – Navigating Relationships with Herpes

(17:32) – Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I sit down with Lilith Foxx, a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky, and polyamorous marketing professional turned board-certified sexologist. Lilith, an AASECT-certified sexuality educator, professional speaker, coach, and diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging consultant, shares her journey from tech marketing to becoming a prominent figure in the world of BDSM and sexual education. I delve into her personal experiences with BDSM, how it has empowered her, and her professional insights on navigating kink safely and consensually. Whether you're curious about BDSM, looking to explore your own desires, or seeking to understand the intersectionality of marginalized identities within alternative sexualities, this episode offers valuable perspectives and practical advice.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:32) – Meet Lilith Foxx: BIPOC, Queer, Neurodivergent, Kinky, and Polyamorous Sexologist

(01:54) – Lilith’s Journey: From Tech Marketing to Sexuality Education

(03:42) – Empowering Through Sexuality: Overcoming Assault and Embracing Kink

(04:41) – Kink is Not Therapy: The Importance of Mental Health Treatment

(06:09) – Reenacting Trauma: Psychological Risks and Rewards

(09:16) – Navigating Consent and Communication in BDSM

(12:45) – Understanding Kink and BDSM: Definitions and Misconceptions

(15:12) – Negotiating Boundaries and Consent in Kink

(16:03) – Starting Your BDSM Journey: Tips for Beginners

(19:05) – The Appeal of Pain and Masochism in BDSM

(22:40) – BDSM and Empowerment: Building Confidence and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

(23:32) – Inclusivity in Kink: Navigating Disabilities and Marginalized Identities

(25:30) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Where to Find Lilith Foxx:

Website: https://lilithfoxx.com/

Instagram, @TheLilithFoxx https://www.instagram.com/thelilithfoxx/

Twitter (X): https://twitter.com/thelilithfoxx

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelilithfoxx

In this episode, I revisit the topic of painful sex, specifically for women. I delve into the medical term for painful sex, dyspareunia, and explores various causes and solutions. I provide valuable insights into how women can redefine sex to include many other pleasurable activities that do not involve pain. I also discusses the importance of addressing painful sex and offers practical advice on treatments and therapies available to overcome this issue.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:25) – Revisiting the Topic of Painful Sex

(01:18) – Hormonal Changes and Painful Sex

(02:13) – Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause

(03:43) – Understanding Pelvic Floor Dysfunction

(05:03) – The Role of Lubricants in Reducing Pain

(06:08) – Tools and Products to Help with Painful Sex

(07:43) – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy

(09:03) – Addressing Infections and Other Medical Issues

(10:28) – The Importance of Sex Therapy

(11:50) – Redefining Sex Beyond Penetration

(12:18) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Mentioned in the Episode:

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https://hellobonafide.com/products/revaree

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, we sit down with Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D. a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues, to discuss how men can improve their sex lives through emotional regulation, removing sexual entitlement, and enhancing consent and negotiation skills. Eric, an award-winning author, shares his personal journey and professional insights on creating healthier, more enjoyable sexual relationships. I also delve into his approach to addressing issues related to patriarchal norms, empathetic communication, and the importance of consent. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or exploring non-monogamy, this conversation offers valuable guidance on fostering deeper and more respectful connections.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:25) – Meet Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D.: Expert in Relationship and Sexual Issues

(01:37) – Eric's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Insights

(03:01) – Navigating Consent and Desire

(04:55) – Challenges Men Face in Modern Dating

(06:10) – The Importance of Open Communication in Relationships

(09:18) – Understanding Men's Emotional and Sexual Health

(19:54) – Addressing Common Misconceptions About Gender and Attachment

(23:14) – Practical Tips for Better Sexual Communication

(38:26) – Eric's Personal Experience with Polyamory

(44:05) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Where to find Eric:

Website: https://www.drericfitz.com/

Book: The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex

Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drericfitz/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drericfitz

In this episode, I dive into the role of testosterone as part of hormone replacement therapy. Inspired by a recent conversation with a male endocrinologist, I tackle the frustrating double standards surrounding testosterone treatment for women. Why is it casually prescribed for men, but women need a specific diagnosis?

Check out this episode where we discuss:

• The importance of testosterone for women's health beyond libido.
• How low testosterone affects your sex life and overall well-being.
• Different methods of testosterone supplementation and their pros and cons.

Timestamps: 

(00:00) - Introduction to Taboo to Truth Podcast

(00:58) - A Rant on Testosterone Inequality

(02:01) - Understanding Testosterone in Women

(02:50) - Symptoms of Low Testosterone

(05:16) - Personal Experience with Testosterone

(08:29) - Forms of Testosterone Therapy

(10:48) - Benefits and Side Effects of Testosterone

(12:31) - Final Thoughts and Recommendations

(13:31) - Closing Remarks and Call to Action

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Breaking Barriers

In this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast, host Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the world of sex tech and sex work advocacy with Ola Miedzynska.

Ola, a trailblazer in the sex technology industry, discusses her extensive experience with over 60 global sex tech and adult tech brands, including the founding of Sex Tech EU and co-founding EroBella, a safer platform for sex workers.

Karen and Ola discuss the evolution of sex tech, the impact of AI on the industry, the importance of sex work platforms like EroBella in promoting safety and transparency, and the broader implications of technology on human intimacy.

Join Karen and Ola as they navigate these complex topics, aiming to destigmatize and educate while creating a supportive community for midlife sexuality. 

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Virtual Reality and Sex Tech

(00:26) - Meet Ola Miedzynska: A Trailblazer in Sex Technology

(01:47) - Understanding Sex Tech

(02:59) - Ola's Journey into the Sex Tech Industry

(05:02) - Global Regulations and Challenges in Sex Tech

(08:24) - AI Innovations in Sex Tech

(18:54) - Virtual Reality and Fantasy in Sex Tech

(20:00) - Empowering Sex Workers: The Aerobella Platform

(31:27) - Future of Sex Tech: Space and Beyond

(34:02) - Enhancing Relationships with Sex Education

(36:11) - Defining Sex: A Personal Perspective

(37:40) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Register for the SxTech 2025 here

Check out Ola’s socials: 

• Instagram
• x
• LinkedIn
• YouTube
• Linktree
• Erobella Safer App
• Erobella.com
• Erobella Podcast - Sex Workers Tells

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Revolutionizing Sexual Health: Dr. Sum Rakshit of Mystery Vibe Explains Innovative Solutions

In this episode, Dr. Sum Rakshit, founder of Mystery Vibe, delves into the world of sexual health and wellness.

Dr. Rakshit discusses how Mystery Vibe's devices, originally based on biomedical engineering principles, are designed to address various sexual dysfunction issues such as vaginal dryness, lack of libido, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, and more.

He shares insights on the development journey, highlighting the importance of addressing sexual health issues that arise from life events like childbirth, menopause, and other major medical conditions. 

Timestamps: 

(00:00) - Introduction: Women's Health Issues

(00:31) - Meet Dr. Sum Rakshit: Founder of Mystery Vibe 

(01:24) - From Ophthalmology to Sexual Health Devices

(03:31) - The Birth of Mystery Vibe

(05:53) - Crescendo: Addressing Pelvic Pain

(08:37) - Vibrators for Pleasure and Medical Use

(09:59) - Men's Health: Devices for Erectile Dysfunction and Prostate Health

(12:47) - The Importance of Regular Orgasms

(20:27) - Addressing Painful Sex for Women 36:14 Future Innovations: Period and Breast Pain Devices

(41:01) - The Role of Content in Sexual Health Awareness

(43:28) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Dr. Soum Rakshit, FIET, FRSA is the Co-Founder & CEO of MysteryVibe. He did his PhD in Biomedical Engineering and created a startup in eye recognition which was acquired by a US defence company. He then spent 7 years in management consulting on large technology projects. In 2014 Soum started MysteryVibe to bring defense electronics and medical expertise together and create devices that solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way.

Check out Mystery Vibe

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this podcast episode, I dive into my own experiences with dating apps and the journey to change my patterns—moving from an anxious attachment style to a healthier, self-assured approach. 

Women often worry about whether he’ll call or text again, and sometimes settle for less than they deserve. It's easy to latch onto someone just because they're available, but true connection goes deeper. Here’s what we explore in this episode:

• The importance of self-worth in attracting the right partner
• Navigating the dance of early dating and managing initial attractions
• How clear communication—both emotional and sexual—can build a stronger relationship

The key takeaway is to focus on what you truly value and deserve. Open up those lines of communication, both in your daily interactions and in bed. Let's break the cycle of settling and find connections that truly matter.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast