Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

In this episode, Kate Pozenik, Founder of Quirk Personal Branding and Career Consulting, interviewed me -  Spilling the Tea for Career Success. I'm thrilled to dive into an enlightening conversation with you all about midlife transitions, sexuality, and breaking down the taboos surrounding menopause.

My journey has been anything but linear, starting my career as a computer programmer and navigating through various roles before landing where I am today. It's this winding path, filled with its share of transitions and transformations, that has ignited my passion for empowering women and fostering open conversations about the real changes we face as we age.

We explore not just the challenges but also the opportunities that come with life's transitions. Whether it's career shifts, changes in our personal lives, or the physical and emotional evolution during menopause, I believe there's power in sharing our stories and learning from each other. I've personally experienced the roller coaster of reinventing myself professionally while also embracing the changes my body and mind have undergone through menopause. It's my hope that by spilling the tea on these often whispered-about topics, we can all feel a little less alone and a bit more empowered to tackle whatever comes our way.

Find Kate here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

I had the pleasure of speaking with Alycia Williams, a sex and relationship therapist with a wealth of experience and a unique perspective rooted in her own background and professional journey. Alycia's insights into the complexity of human sexuality, the importance of self-acceptance, and the transformative power of therapy were both enlightening and inspiring. Her approach, emphasizing personal growth, open communication, and the celebration of individuality within relationships, resonated deeply with me.

This interview is a reminder of the beauty in embracing our own stories and the potential for growth and connection when we approach our relationships and ourselves with curiosity and compassion.

Alycia's work, particularly in the realms of sex therapy and navigating non-traditional relationship dynamics, challenges societal norms and encourages a more inclusive and understanding perspective on love and desire. Her ability to foster a safe space for exploration and her commitment to educating and empowering others is truly admirable. I am reminded of the importance of continuing to learn and grow, both personally and professionally, and the value of conversations like these.

You can find Alycia here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In today's conversation, I delve into the importance of addressing our sexual health, a critical aspect often relegated to the background due to various reasons such as hormonal changes, lack of a partner, or societal embarrassment. It's crucial to understand that sexual wellness is integral to our overall health, yet it's frequently overlooked or left until the last minute to discuss with healthcare providers. I've observed a common thread in conversations, regardless of gender, revealing a widespread hesitancy to talk about sexual health, often due to misinformation or discomfort.

It's essential to break this silence, as untreated sexual health issues can significantly impact our quality of life. I urge you to reach out to me with your questions, no matter how embarrassing they may seem. By sharing our experiences and seeking advice, we can destigmatize these discussions, ensuring a fulfilling sexual life that contributes to our overall well-being.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with my friend CJ. CJ opened up about her journey from being in long-term monogamous relationships, including a ten-year marriage that ended due to intimacy mismatches, to exploring an open relationship with her husband. She shared the challenges and discoveries she faced while venturing into online dating, embracing her bis$xual identity, and ultimately finding fulfillment in an open, kink-friendly relationship.

CJ's story is a testament to the importance of self-worth, setting boundaries, and the transformative power of exploring one's desires and needs without shame. We delved into the complexities of navigating non-monogamous relationships, the significance of communication and boundaries, and how these experiences have enriched her life and marriage.

Now a certified life and sex coach, CJ, emphasizes the importance of destigmatizing sexual exploration and encourages others, especially women over 40, to embrace their desires boldly and without shame. Her journey is not just about the pursuit of sexual fulfillment but a deeper understanding of self-love, partnership, and the myriad ways in which we can connect with others. Her insights and experiences are a valuable resource for anyone curious about or actively exploring non-monogamy, kink, and personal growth.

You can find CJ here.

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In today's episode, I'm diving into polyamory, a lifestyle choice centered around engaging in consensual relationships with multiple partners. Polyamory, a blend of 'poly' meaning many and 'amor' for love, manifests in various forms, including hierarchical polyamory, where a primary relationship takes precedence over others, and non-hierarchical relationships, where all partners are considered equal.

The essence of polyamory lies in the mutual consent and agreement on the terms of the relationship, which distinguishes it from infidelity. It’s a path that requires open communication and a clear understanding of the guidelines everyone involved agrees to follow. Navigating polyamorous relationships can be complex, involving not just sexual connections but emotional ones that demand a high level of understanding and constant communication to manage potential jealousy and ensure the relationship's health.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Todd "Max" Carey, a director and filmmaker who has delved into the intriguing world of kink and BDSM through his latest documentary. Todd shared his insights on the complexity and fluidity of human sexuality, emphasizing kink as an umbrella term that encompasses a diverse range of practices and preferences, many of which are becoming increasingly mainstream. 

In our conversation, Todd challenged conventional labels, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of our desires and the roles we play in our intimate encounters. Todd's journey into the kink community revealed a profound sense of community and communication, underscoring the importance of consent and mutual respect in all forms of sexual expression. We also touched upon the transformative power of kink for individuals, including those working through trauma, and the potential for creativity and innovation in personal relationships.

Todd "Max" Carey is an award-winning film producer and director making documentary films that explore the hidden and fascinating aspects of human nature. Learn more about "touch Kink" the documentary here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Recently, Bumble faced backlash for their ad campaign, with slogans that seemed to undervalue personal choices about dating and celibacy, sparking questions about the role of dating apps in modern society. As someone deeply engaged with Bumble and Hinge, I've noticed a shift. It used to be easier to transition from matching to meeting in person, but now it feels like connections are less serious. This change has led me to ponder if the effectiveness or appeal of dating apps is diminishing.

In this episode I peel back the layers on:

• The shifting dynamics of dating apps like Bumble and Hinge.
• The quest for genuine connections amidst AI's rise.
• Innovations we crave for deeper, real-life engagements.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this episode, I explore the multifaceted world of sexology and the importance of finding the right professional to address sexual health and intimacy issues with Sex Counselor, Heather Howard, PhD, MPH. We delved into the differences between sex therapists, counselors, sexological bodyworkers, and surrogate partners, highlighting the significance of their roles in helping individuals and couples navigate sexual challenges.

This was an eye-opening conversation. We talked about the diverse approaches and ethical considerations within this field, underscoring the importance of a nonjudgmental, informed, and supportive environment for addressing sexual concerns.

Navigating the world of sexual health and intimacy can sometimes feel daunting, especially when trying to find the right support. The insights from our discussion serve as a reminder that it's okay to shop around for a provider who makes you feel understood and respected. Whether you're dealing with the aftermath of a divorce, exploring new aspects of your sexuality, or facing sexual health challenges, the key takeaway is that you're not alone, and there's professional help available.

(01:20) What is Sexology?

(07:01) Sexuality Counselor vs. a Sex Therapist

(17:46) What happens in your session?

(19:52) Treating painful sex in your sessions-an action plan

(27:16) What is you're single and have issues with sex?

(32:20) Touch vs. Hands-off sex therapy

(42:23) What qualifications should you look for in a sexology professional?

(48:09) When should you see a sexology professional?

(51:40) The key to finding the right professional

Find Heather Howard

Instagram @drheatherhoward

@ergoerotics

https://heatherhoward.com/

Ergoerotics: https://ergoerotics.com/product/video-strategies-for-comfortable-pleasure/

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion?

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Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

In today's episode, I'm diving into the world of kink, a term that captures a broad spectrum of activities beyond the conventional or "vanilla" intimate practices. Kink isn't just about the extreme of dungeons and dramatic scenarios; it's fundamentally about venturing into desires that stray from one's usual experiences, which could be as straightforward as altering the ambiance with different lighting.

Within this realm, BDSM stands out as a notable subset, encompassing bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. Many people find kink a playful and explorative outlet, a healthy way to relieve stress, and an avenue for fostering deep trust and communication with their partners.

This journey into understanding kink and BDSM invites us to broaden our perspective on the diversity of human pleasure and the ways in which adults can engage in consensual, informed, and joyful exploration.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? [email protected] ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

In part 2 of my interview with Dr Staci Gruber, we delved into the complexities of cannabis use, including its potential for addiction, known formally as Cannabis Use Disorder (CUD). We also touched upon the evolution of cannabis potency over the years, with today's products containing much higher THC levels than those from decades ago, raising the stakes in the risk-benefit analysis of cannabis consumption.

The conversation further explored the medical applications of cannabis, highlighting its utility in managing pain, sleep disorders, and other health issues. The conversation also ventured into the areas of women's health, underscoring the lack of research and the growing interest in cannabis for managing conditions like endometriosis and menopause symptoms. It was a reminder of the importance of being an informed consumer, understanding the goal of your cannabis use, and ensuring the safety and efficacy of the products you choose.

Our dialogue underscored the evolving landscape of cannabis use and research, highlighting the need for more education and open conversations between consumers and healthcare providers to navigate the complexities of cannabis as both a medicinal and recreational substance.

Watch the full episode here. About Dr. Gruber Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions. Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use.

Dr. Gruber also launched the Women’s Health Initiative at MIND, or WHIM, the first cannabis-focused program designed specifically to address women’s health and disorders that disproportionately affect women as well as some transgender and non-binary individuals.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? [email protected] ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.