Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

In this episode, I sit down with the renowned mediator and family attorney Susan Guthrie, who brings over three decades of experience in the intricacies of marriage, divorce, and everything in between.

Susan's unique approach to marital issues through mediation has breathed new life into long-term relationships that seemed to be at a crossroads. She shares her wisdom on how couples can legally redefine their relationships, open up dialogues on intimacy, and why a "marital mediation" could be the saving grace your relationship needs. We dive into an in-depth discussion about the unspoken challenges many couples face after years of marriage.

Susan provides us with real-world examples of how changing the dynamics of a relationship, with the help of legal contracts, can lead to a more fulfilling partnership. If you're considering a change in your marital life or simply looking for ways to spark new life into your relationship, this episode offers a wealth of knowledge, practical advice, and the possibility that love, indeed, can evolve with time.

About Susan Guthrie, Esq.  Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized as one of the Top Family Law Attorneys and Mediators in the country, has been helping individuals and families navigate separation and divorce for more than 30 years. Susan provides online divorce and legal coaching services to select clients around the world.

As a leading dispute resolution professional, Susan is honored to serve on the Executive Council of the American Bar Association’s (ABA) Section of Dispute Resolution as the Budget Officer and to be a Co-Chair of the Advanced Mediation Institute.

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In today's episode, I'm sliding into an in-depth conversation about why lube is the unsung hero of sexual health. Whether you're facing the dry spells of menopause or just looking to add some extra glide to your intimate times, I'm here to demystify lubricants. It's a candid discussion about the body's needs and the simple ways lube can address them. Get ready to lubricate your knowledge with my comprehensive guide to choosing the right lube for your body.

I'll explain why common household oils are a definite 'don't' and discuss how the wrong products can disrupt your body's delicate balance. From the science behind water-based lubricants to the long-lasting benefits of silicone-based options, I'm sure you'll be equipped with the information you need to make informed decisions.

Tune in as we share pro tips on maintaining your body's health while maximizing pleasure. Let's make friction a fiction and find your perfect match in the world of lubricants.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In this episode, I delve into the complexities of sex in midlife and navigating the waters of getting intimate and the often unspoken trials of dating during menopause. I am thrilled to have Alyssa Dineen, founder of Style My Profile, join us.

Alyssa shares her journey through divorce at 41 and the rediscovery of self as she ventured into the world of online dating. We get candid about the realities of dating post-divorce, the hilarity of trying to find a sexual partner, and the intricacies of managing expectations and self-perception when it comes to menopause and sexual health. Alyssa’s approach to styling not only changes profiles but also changes lives by fostering confidence in the dating scene.

From discussing the importance of protection and STD conversations to embracing sexuality at any age, Alyssa's insights are as refreshing as they are invaluable. If you're navigating the dating world in midlife or just looking for a relatable conversation on modern love, this episode is not to be missed.

As a fashion editor turned stylist and art director, she brings a unique perspective to the table, transforming the online dating experience by empowering individuals to take charge of their dating profiles. With her expertise, Alyssa has garnered attention from The New York Times, The Today Show, and Oprah Daily, among others, and has recently published a book titled "The Art of Online Dating."

Find Alyssa on her website, stylemyprofilenyc.com, or follow her journey on Instagram @AlyssaDineen and @StyleMyProfileNYC.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In this episode, I'm getting personal about pubic hair—yes, the unsung hero of our nether regions. It's more than just hair; it's a natural barrier that keeps moisture and microscopic debris at bay. Remember the episode on the glorious clitoris, exclusively devoted to pleasure?

Well, pubic hair also plays its part in the sensory experience, with each tug awakening those delicate touch receptors. I discovered that even in ancient Egypt, pubic hair was not only represented artistically but also groomed for reasons beyond aesthetics, like preventing lice.

Fast forward to today, and the practice of hair removal has evolved into a statement of beauty and status. From chafing to increasing STI chances, it's a delicate balance. So, I'm here to share my candid experiences and to remind you that whether you wax, shave, or go au naturel, do it safely and for yourself.

Your body, your rules!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? [email protected] ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I delve deep into a personal narrative that is both vulnerable and relatable—my journey through relationships, dating after divorce, and the tribulations of midlife dating and menopause. I lay bare the emotional rollercoaster I've experienced over the last two and a half years, candidly sharing the highs and lows, and the temptation to succumb to negativity.

This isn't just a story of struggle; it's a chronicle of the hard-earned crossroads of hope that I've reached. I want to highlight the importance of not playing the victim or falling into despair, but instead, recognizing that every challenge faced is a step toward a better tomorrow.

As I recount the pattern of my past relationships, I emphasize the lessons learned, particularly the need for authenticity and clarity in communicating one's needs. It's a tale of repeated patterns—forming attachments too quickly after the illusion of intimacy and trying to mold incompatible relationships into something they're not. But it's also a story of growth and the realization that it's crucial to hold out for what truly satisfies one's needs, without compromise.

From setting arbitrary dating rules to understanding the importance of communication, I explore the interdependence that forms the foundation of a healthy relationship and the self-reflection necessary to find joy and fulfillment on one's own terms. This episode is a heartfelt reflection on personal growth, the quest for genuine partnership, and the courage to demand the love and life one truly deserves.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? [email protected] ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode I open up about my own journey back into the dating world after a long pause. I've learned the hard way that before diving headfirst into the dating pool, it’s crucial to take a deep look inward. I'll share with you the steps I took to understand my desires and the type of relationship that resonates with the person I've become.

I also discuss the significance of moving at a pace that respects both your emotional state and physical health, emphasizing the vital practice of safe sex, and the nuances of intimacy during menopause, the importance of communication, even when it means having those tough conversations about sexual health, and I'll share the lessons I've learned about safeguarding not just my physical health but my heart as well.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion?

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In the premiere episode of Season 2, Karen dives into the intricate tapestry of human sexuality and intimacy. Starting with a foundational question: "What is sex?" To explore this, we've gathered candid excerpts from a compelling discussion with a group of middle-aged women, each bringing their unique life experiences to the table. Episode Highlights:

• Defining Sex: The conversation begins with an exploration of what sex means to different individuals, challenging the traditional notion that it's solely about penetration.
• The Spectrum of Intimacy: We hear powerful stories illustrating that sex can be a varied experience, from a deeply personal act of self-pleasure to a shared, intimate connection without the goal of orgasm.
• Beyond the Physical: The discussion shifts to consider sex as a state of being that fosters intimacy, not just with others, but also with oneself.
• Vulnerability and Desire: The concept of vulnerability surfaces as a common thread, with the emphasis on the freedom to pursue one's desires in a safe and comfortable environment, irrespective of the form it takes.
• Inclusivity in Pleasure: The episode touches upon diverse sexual expressions, including S&M, and emphasizes the importance of inclusivity and openness in discussions about sex.
• Sex and Regret: Reflecting on experiences of regrettable sex, our guests confront the reality that not all sexual experiences are positive, acknowledging the complexity of sexual encounters and the impact of choice.

I invite you to join the conversation. What is your definition of sex? Share your thoughts, and we may feature them in upcoming episodes as we continue to unravel the mysteries and joys of sexual connection. Note to Listeners: This episode is a safe space for open dialogue.

Our goal is to dismantle taboos and encourage healthy, honest discussions about sex, fostering a community where we can all learn and grow together.

Send your thoughts on "What is Sex?" to: [email protected] We hope you find this episode both enlightening and thought-provoking. Remember, sex is as diverse as we are, and every perspective adds depth to our collective understanding. Tune in, share your story, and let's talk about sex.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? [email protected] ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Today, I'm peeling back the curtain on the world of adult toys. We’re starting off by busting some common myths. Have you ever heard that adult toys are a 'last resort' or that they could numb your senses? Well, it's time to separate fact from fiction with some real talk and expert-backed information.

Plus, I’m taking you on a tour through the exciting variety of adult toys out there. From the classic vibrators to the more adventurous BDSM gear, I'll be explaining how each type caters to different preferences and how they can enrich your personal experiences. Moving on, let’s talk about something super important: using these toys safely and with the right knowledge. I’ll be diving into why choosing the right materials like silicone or stainless steel matters and how the right lubricant can make all the difference. And if you’re wondering about keeping things clean and hygienic, I’ve got some pro tips for you. This episode is for anyone who's curious, looking to learn, or just wants to hear an honest conversation about adult toys. Remember, exploring your sexuality is perfectly normal, and doing so safely and respectfully is what it's all about.

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? [email protected] ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.