Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

As we countdown to the new year, it’s time to leave behind the dull sex life of 2024 and step into something hotter and more exciting. Want to know how to turn up the heat in the bedroom or even at your next sex party? In this episode,I’m sharing five tips for better sex in 2025.

What’s the secret? Well, let’s just say communication is key (but I’m not talking about just words), making time for sex is a must (yes, even if it means scheduling it), and being creative will totally change the game. Oh, and did I mention why not all sex is about the orgasm? Trust me, you’ll want to hear why.

Hit play, and let’s make 2025 the year of hotter, more thrilling sex. You won’t want to miss what’s coming next.

Timestamps:

• (00:00:01) Introduction
• (00:01:09) Tip 1: Communicate
• (00:02:08) Tip 2: Make time for sex / Schedule your sex time
• (00:02:28) Tip 3: Lubricate and make everything slippery
• (00:03:12) Tip 4: Be creative / Try new things
• (00:03:43) Tip 5: Don’t focus on the outcome / Orgasm
• (00:04:31) Closing remarks

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

The holidays are here, and with 2025 knocking on the door, how are you preparing to step into the new year? Sure, a cozy holiday read is great, but what if you could unwrap something truly transformative this season?

In this episode, I’m sharing my top five midlife must-reads—books that dive into health, relationships, self-discovery, and navigating the complexities of midlife. These picks are designed to help you embrace your journey, understand your body, and redefine your purpose.

Midlife isn’t just a season of life; it’s a chance to thrive in new ways. So, why not lean into the conversations we sometimes avoid? Let’s grow, feel empowered, and take on 2025 with clarity and confidence. Ready to dive in? Let’s go!

Links to Books:

• Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz 
• The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver
• Love Life by Matthew Hussey
• Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein
• Rebel Love by Dr. Chris Donaghue

Timestamps:

• (00:00:01) Introduction to the Episode
• (00:00:23) Book Recommendations for the Holidays
• (00:01:23) Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz
• (00:02:37) The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver
• (00:02:37) Love Life by Matthew Hussey
• (00:03:33) Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein
• (00:03:33) Rebel Love by Dr. Chris Donaghue
• (00:04:47) Closing Remarks

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I’m getting real about something that can completely transform your relationship: vulnerability. We often think of vulnerability as something women do, but here’s the truth—men can be just as willing to open up, and when they do, it’s absolutely amazing. 

Here’s the thing: men and women aren’t as different as we think. The fears women have about aging, like changes to our bodies or confidence, are so similar to what men go through. For men, things like erectile dysfunction can feel like their whole identity is being questioned. But just like we’re learning to embrace the changes in ourselves, they can too—and we can help each other through it.

If this sounds like something you and your partner need, hit that play button and let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:06) Event recap: Embracing Midlife Sexuality

(00:02:13) Importance of men being given space for vulnerability

(00:03:16) Normalizing conversations about aging and sexuality

(00:04:20) Encouraging playful and creative approaches to intimacy

(00:05:24) Upcoming event: Hot Flashes and Hot Nights

(00:06:20) Redefining sex and aging

(00:07:24) Adding humor and playfulness to sex

(00:08:14) Importance of discussing sex openly with partners

(00:09:20) Communication and vulnerability in relationships

(00:10:10) Conclusion and call to action

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Irwin and Sue Goldstein to tackle the taboo around menopause and women’s sexual health. Why is it that we still don’t talk about what’s really happening in our bodies during menopause? It’s not just about hot flashes—there’s so much more going on beneath the surface that impacts everything from our physical health to our sexuality. Sue cuts through the noise about bioidentical hormones, while Dr. Irwin introduces us to a groundbreaking technique—a game-changer for understanding your own body. We’re breaking down the myths around hormone therapy, talking about why patient education and personalized care matter, and challenging the shame that keeps these conversations in the dark.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction

(02:05) Meet Dr. Irwin and Dr. Sue

(04:36) Secrets to a long marriage

(07:25) Menopause vs. male counterparts

(10:06) Recognizing menopause symptoms

(12:54) Hormonal support options

(18:08) Navigating perimenopause symptoms

(22:12) Vulvacoscopy

(30:45) Hormonal environment and tissue health

(35:00) Importance of hormonal monitoring

(40:15) Taboo surrounding female anatomy

(42:46) Consequences of untreated menopause

(44:48) Research and misconceptions about hormone therapy

Dr. Irwin Goldstein and Sue Goldstein are trailblazers in the field of sexual medicine. Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a renowned physician and researcher, has authored over 360 publications, making groundbreaking contributions that have shaped the modern understanding of sexual health. Sue Goldstein is a pioneering researcher and educator who has been instrumental in advancing knowledge of female sexual dysfunction. Together, they co-founded the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH) in 2000, setting a global standard for research, education, and advocacy in women’s sexual health.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA:  https://www.taboototruth.com/upcoming-events

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

On today's show, I caught up with Kamna Bhojwani at the Sexual Health Alliance conference, where her raw honesty about sexual shame instantly grabbed my attention. With three psychology degrees and a master's from Columbia specifically focused on sexual shame, Kamna cuts through the bullshit to address what's really holding us back in midlife. We get real about everything - from awkward doctor visits to dating app disasters, from hormone changes to orgasm responsibilities. Whether you're divorced, dating, or just trying to figure out your changing body, this conversation tackles the shame that keeps us quiet and offers a fresh perspective on sexuality at any age.

Timestamps

(00:00) Introduction

(01:02) Meet Kamna

(02:28) "Sexuality isn't just about sex"

(05:10) Divorced & Dating: The New Rules

(08:04) "Why won't doctors talk about lube?"

(10:31) Men need help too

(12:21) Dating apps: Tool or Terror?

(14:34) "I got this, watch me"

(17:43) Finding your sexual power at 60+

(21:02) What even is sex, anyway?

Kaamna Bhojwani is a Certified Sexologist, sexuality researcher, educator and thought leader. Kaamna specializes in sexual shame which she studied most recently at Columbia University and is currently building the world’s first cross-cultural data set to understand its origins, nature and consequences. 

Find Kaamna here.

Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Ever wondered why the clitoris is often misunderstood, despite being the ultimate pleasure powerhouse? Did you know it has over 10,000 nerve endings—more than any other part of the body?

In this episode, I dive into the fascinating world of the clitoris, an organ uniquely designed for pleasure. I break down its anatomy, both external and internal, and explain why it’s so vital for sexual satisfaction. I also tackle misconceptions, explore how menopause impacts sensitivity, and share actionable tips for self-exploration and partner education. My goal is to empower you to understand your body better, embrace your pleasure, and enhance intimacy. Let’s celebrate the glorious clitoris and what it means for your sexual wellness.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:17) The unique purpose of the clitoris

(02:24) Anatomy of the clitoris

(04:20) Misconceptions about the clitoris

(05:28) The G-spot explained

(06:37) Model demonstration of vulva anatomy

(07:40) Nerve endings and sensitivity

(08:43) Menopause and sensitivity changes

(09:46) Encouragement for women to explore their bodies

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Hot Flashes & Hot Nights, Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA: https://www.taboototruth.com/upcoming-events

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In today's episode, I'm joined by Shauna Stewart, founder of Linger Boutique and host of the Life Turned On podcast. We tackle something that affects so many women: the challenge of receiving, whether it's help, pleasure, or simply a compliment. Shauna brings her expertise as both a boutique owner and sex educator to share insights about breaking down barriers to intimacy and pleasure. What I love about our conversation is how we move from the practical challenges of daily stress to exploring tools like the erotic blueprint that can transform relationships. We discuss the importance of clear communication, managing expectations, and creating space for genuine connection in long-term relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(01:41) - The Importance of Receiving Pleasure

(02:13) - Cultural Pressures on Women and Self-Care

(04:54) - Learning to Accept Help

(05:44) - Exploring Intimacy and Communication

(07:00) - Understanding Personal Preferences in Pleasure

(12:38) - The Role of Stress in Intimacy

(16:03) - Using the Erotic Blueprints for Exploration

(21:01) - Final Thoughts and Resources

Listen to the Life Turned On Podcast

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In today's episode, I dive deep into a topic that affects countless marriages - the complex relationship between marriage and sexual intimacy. Drawing from my own 26-year marriage experience and professional insights, I explore why many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy sex life after marriage. I discuss how marriage evolved from a financial contract to today's emotional partnership, and why modern couples face unique challenges in maintaining sexual chemistry. Most importantly, I offer practical, actionable solutions for couples looking to reignite their intimate connection, from "sexual snacking" to creating new dynamics in long-term relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:39) - Origins as a Financial Contract

(01:04) - Today's Marriage Success Rates

(01:37) - Chemistry: From Sparks to Comfort

(02:00) - Marriage's Unspoken Expectations

(02:29) - Trading Intimacy for Chores

(03:43) - Signs of Lasting Love

(04:17) - Breaking the Silence

(05:19) - Small Steps to Reconnection

(06:28) - Creating Playful Surprises

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this special bonus episode, I'm excited to announce our move to Tuesday releases while treating listeners to essential tips for creating meaningful solo sex experiences. As your host and Certified Sex Educator& Menopause Coach, I dive into the art of self-pleasure, sharing practical advice for creating the perfect environment and mindset. Whether you're single or partnered, these intimate moments of self-discovery can enhance your overall sexual experience and deepen your connection with your own body. This quick-hit episode delivers valuable insights for making your solo adventures more fulfilling and pleasurable.

Timestamps

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:46) - Schedule change announcement

(01:15) - Creating the perfect environment

(02:30) - Exploring toys and pleasure tools

(03:15) - Mindful body awareness techniques

(04:00) - Using audio and visual resources

(05:16) - Closing thoughts and next episode

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In today's episode, I sat down with Dr. Emily Jamea, sex and relationship therapist and host of the Love and Libido podcast. We dove deep into her groundbreaking research on the connection between flow states and sexual satisfaction, which forms the foundation of her new book "Anatomy of Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion." Dr. Jamea shared her innovative approach to helping couples enhance their intimate relationships, revealing how the five secrets - sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement - can transform ordinary sexual experiences into extraordinary ones. Her fresh perspective on sexual wellness challenges traditional narratives about midlife sexuality, offering hope and practical guidance for couples at any life stage.

Timestamps

(00:00) - Introduction

(01:05) - Meet Dr. Emily Jamea

(03:06) - Moving Beyond "Dysfunction" Language

(07:04) - Gender and Desire in Midlife

(15:54) - The Five Secrets Framework Revealed

(20:32) - Understanding the Phases of Sexual Connection

(24:21) - Single Life and Relationship Readiness

(27:35) - Lifelong Sexuality

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Find Dr. Emily Jamea here:

https://emilyjamea.com/

https://emilyjamea.com/love-libido-podcast/

Instagram: @dremilyjamea

LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dremilyjamea/

FB https://www.facebook.com/dremilyjamea

Pre-order book: https://emilyjamea.com/anatomy-of-desire/