Tenderoni Hotline #24: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into two thoughtful questions about grief, empathy, and emotional boundaries, and what it means to care deeply without abandoning yourself in the process.

First, we explore something that often goes unnamed: grief over losing meaningful possessions. What happens when you lose a beloved object, like a piece of jewelry, a journal, a childhood item, or a home that held an entire chapter of your life? If you’ve ever felt embarrassed about how deeply something like that affected you, this conversation offers a compassionate reframe. We talk about why these losses can feel so profound, how objects can hold memory and meaning, and why your grief deserves to be honored without judgment.

Next, we turn to a question about witnessing mistreatment in the workplace. If you’ve ever felt deeply disturbed by abuse of power or injustice at work, and found yourself ruminating about it long after the moment has passed, this conversation will help you understand what’s happening in your nervous system. We explore the difference between empathy and emotional absorption, and how to practice boundaried empathy so you can care, advocate, and take action without burning yourself out.

You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how grief, empathy, and nervous system activation intersect, along with gentle practices to help you hold your tenderness with more steadiness and care. So grab your coziest blanket, pour a warm drink, and come settle into the tenderness with me.

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