Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Text Me Maybe & Two-Person Problem


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Ever feel like you're speaking different languages with your partner, literally? When one of you wants deep conversations over text and the other needs to actually hear a voice, it's not just frustrating. It's creating real distance.


This week, a listener shares:

"I'm seeing this guy and we have totally different ways of communicating and it's starting to become a problem. He's all about texting, like everything is through text with him. He wants to have these deep conversations over text and I'm more of a 'can we just call, can we actually talk?' person. Last week I had something I really needed to bring up with him and I texted him about it since that's what he prefers and it went so wrong."


In this episode, Damona unpacks why text-based communication has disrupted relationships more than dating apps ever did, what different communication preferences reveal about emotional processing, and how to bridge the gap without losing yourself in the compromise.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

  • Why texting is a new form of communication that must be learned
  • How the “Why” behind someone’s communication style tells you everything
  • A practical framework for having "communication about communication" 
  • Scripts for setting up “The Talk” about communication
  • New ways to assess compatibility
  • 4 ways to reconnect beyond a text message
  • Resources & Links:

    Want to track what's working (and what's not) in your dating life? Download the free Date Tracker at damonahoffman.com/datetracker

    Got a communication question? DM @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave a voicemail or text at 424-246-6255

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