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You ever go out on an incredible date? The connection was real, the chemistry is intense, and you feel like you just met someone with real long-term potential? Of course, you have. But what usually happens afterward? Look at your history and you'll see: there's virtually no correlation between an amazing first date and a successful long-term-relationship. Check out this new Love U Podcast video to see what you SHOULD pay attention to after your next great first date.

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Hey, it's Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach for smart, strong, successful women and your personal trainer for love.

Today, I'm going to share one piece of advice that will instantly shift the way you look at dating. It's so simple. You won't believe that you didn't think of it yourself.

Now, before we get to that, let's talk about what usually happens on a date.

If there's this guy and you don't feel that much chemistry with, you find all the reasons in the world to not see him again. He's too short. He's too fat. He's too bold. He's too eager, too negative, too sensitive, too talkative, too quiet, too something. And you leave the date feeling like you'd probably have to have like six beers to consider kissing him. And then when he follows up with you the next day, you cringe at how needy he seems. You don't want to have to talk yourself into going out with the guy and you shouldn't.

Now, let's flip that around.

Go on a date. He's cute, funny, charming, confident, successful. Just the right amount of nice guy and bad boy. And you are hooked. Now that you're hooked, you magically lose the ability to think critically. If the guy texts you a week later, you're OK with it. If the guy texts you to come over late at night, you'll go to his place or at least highly consider it. The guy continues to text you sporadically week after week, month after month. You still give him the benefit of the doubt.

Why?

Because chemistry like this is so very rare. You're not going to do anything to ruin it.

You'll do whatever it takes to keep it alive, even if it means ignoring things like effort and boundaries to the next thing you know, you're sleeping with the guy once a week for three straight months and he's still shown no interest...