The Almost Empty Nest—Letting Go, Redefined: Parenting Teens and Finding Yourself Again—with Small Jar Coach

Have you ever felt frustrated with your teen? (Or maybe I should be saying, who hasn’t?!)

As moms of teens and almost empty nesters, we naturally carry expectations about how our kids should act — and most of the time, those expectations are perfectly reasonable. We want them to show appreciation, to put in effort, to connect with us. But the reality is, teens don’t always meet those expectations. And when that happens, we’re left feeling frustrated, anxious, and even resentful.

In this episode, I’m talking about what I call “invisible contracts.” These aren’t mistakes you’re making as a mom — they’re the hidden expectations that we all carry, often without realizing it, that shape how we experience motherhood at this stage. You’ll learn how to recognize them, why they feel so painful when they’re not met, and how to shift your mindset so you can reduce anxiety, stop overthinking, and create more peace and connection with your teen.

If you’re a mom who’s ready to feel more connected, confident, and at peace — and to find purpose beyond motherhood as you step into the empty nest years — this episode will show you what’s possible.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected].

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

“I should be grateful.”

As moms, we often feel this pressure to always be thankful. It's almost like we use gratitude as a way to push away other feelings. It’s as if admitting to sadness, worry, or even loneliness makes us ungrateful, when really those emotions are just part of the truth of our experience. The minute we add this pressure, that “I shouldn’t feel this way,” we layer guilt and shame on top of what’s already hard.

In this episode, I share how this “should trap” shows up for us as moms raising teens and as we navigate the empty nest. Whether you’re letting go as your kids grow, navigating motherhood in midlife, or striving to find purpose in this next chapter, it’s easy to feel like you’re doing life wrong when gratitude doesn’t erase your harder emotions.

What if it's possible to make space for both gratitude and the full range of human emotions? Because when you let go of the judgment, you open the door to more peace, contentment, and fulfillment in your life.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected]. 

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

What if letting go in motherhood was never meant to feel easy — but it was always meant to grow you?

As moms, whether we’re parenting teens or entering the empty nest, we’re asked to let go again and again. And it doesn’t just stir up sadness. It can trigger anxiety, overwhelm, and the constant urge to overthink. We wonder if we’re doing it right, if our kids will be okay, and what it means for us when they don’t need us in the same way anymore.

In this episode, I share my own journey of navigating the empty nest and the flood of emotions that come with it. You’ll learn how to stop resisting reality, reduce anxiety, and see your emotions not as proof something is wrong, but as signals that can guide you toward peace. Together, we’ll explore how mindset shifts can help you stop overthinking, set boundaries that honor both you and your kids, and begin finding purpose in this next chapter of motherhood.

By the end, you’ll see that even when life feels heavy, you’re not broken — you’re simply being invited to grow. And you always have the power to choose how you want to show up, not just for your kids, but for yourself.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected]. 

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

The house is so quiet.

If you’ve ever had that thought — and then immediately felt sadness, disorientation, or even shame — you’re not alone. In this episode, I share what it felt like to walk back into my home after dropping off my youngest son at college. The quiet was deafening. But what I realized is that it wasn’t just the absence of sound — it was the story I was telling myself about what that quiet meant.

I talk with so many moms parenting teens or navigating the early empty nest who are surprised by how disorienting this chapter feels. Even when we think we’re ready — even when the teen years were hard — the quiet that follows doesn’t always bring peace. Instead, it stirs up grief, fear, and deep questions about identity and purpose. In this episode, I explore why that is and how our mindset, left unchecked, can quietly fill the silence with self-doubt and regret.

You don’t have to rush to fill the quiet with busyness. And you don’t have to figure out your entire future today. But you do have the power to change what you make the quiet mean. And when you do that — when you let go, not just of your kids, but of the outdated stories about what makes you valuable — that’s when your next chapter really begins. 

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected]. 

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

Do you ever feel like your emotions rise and fall with your teen’s? If they’re stressed, you’re stressed. If they’re in a bad mood, suddenly you are too. It can feel like parenting teens or navigating the empty nest is one long emotional rollercoaster — and you’re just hanging on for the ride.

In this episode of the Almost Empty Nest Podcast, I’m shining a light on a mindset trap I call emotional outsourcing. This is when moms hand over their peace, confidence, and connection to their kids’ moods, choices, or behavior. And the truth is, we’ve all done it. As our kids grow, letting go can feel almost impossible — but it’s also where we find freedom.

You’ll hear why this happens, how it shows up in everyday motherhood, and what it looks like to do things differently. I’ll talk about how emotional outsourcing impacts our ability to feel connected, to find purpose in this stage of life, to trust our decisions with confidence, and most of all — to feel at peace.

If you’ve been stuck waiting for your teen’s behavior to give you permission to feel okay, this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of this mindset trap and what it takes to stop outsourcing your emotions — so you can reduce anxiety, set healthy boundaries, and start creating the confidence, purpose, and peace you want in this next chapter of motherhood.

Tune in, my friend, and let’s reframe what letting go really means.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected]. 

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

Ever felt secretly relieved when your bid kid went back to school—and then immediately guilty for thinking that? You’re not alone. But even as you think, "Thank God they’re back in school."—you can feel this sense of guilt, and maybe even shame that you feel so relieved. In this episode, I’m exploring why this sense of relief feels so tangled up with pressure, responsibility, and guilt.

Join me to talk about what it means to be the one managing everyone’s emotions and productivity, and how that pressure doesn’t disappear when our kids get older. I share how perfectionism quietly fuels this mindset, how it makes “doing enough” feel impossible, and why emotional over-responsibility can affect not only us, but how we show up with our teens and college-age kids. You’ll learn why letting go is not about caring less—it’s about creating emotional safety in your own mind first.

If you’ve ever felt like your peace depends on whether your kid is okay, or if you find yourself constantly overthinking how to support them, this episode is for you. I’ll show you what it looks like to parent from trust instead of fear, and how to reset your mindset so you can stop over-functioning and start feeling grounded again.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected]. 

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

What if the way you’re thinking about your teen’s success is actually making life harder for both of you? We put so much pressure on ourselves to parent our kids in the "right" way. We want our kids to be safe, happy, and successful—and at the same time, we’re constantly wondering if we’re doing enough or letting too much go.

In this episode, I open up about my own experience of parenting teens—the messy push and pull between holding on and learning to let go. I’ll share why our maternal instinct is so strong, how our expectations can actually create tension, and what it looks like to shift into a new mindset rooted in trust and curiosity.

By listening, you’ll gain insight into how to:

release some of the pressure you’re carrying,

notice where overthinking and anxiety may be adding weight, and

start setting boundaries and guiding your teen from a place of calm, rather than control.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in motherhood—wanting to support your teen while also trying to find your own footing and purpose as you move closer to an empty nest—this conversation is for you. My hope is that you’ll walk away feeling lighter, with practical tools to reduce anxiety, stop overthinking, and trust in your ability to handle whatever comes next.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected]. 

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “My teen is so entitled,” and then immediately felt terrible for even thinking it? You’re not alone. This episode is part of my series on the thoughts moms parenting teens and adult kids are ashamed they think—and today, we’re talking about what’s really going on underneath this particular thought.

I share a story from a client that might sound a little too familiar—when a small request turns into a big blow-up, and you’re left feeling dismissed, disrespected, and totally unappreciated. We’ll unpack why these moments feel so painful, and how our emotional response is often tied to what we’re making their behavior mean.

I also introduce a mindset trap I call emotional outsourcing—the habit of tying our peace of mind to how our teen behaves. You’ll learn how this shows up, why it creates so much urgency, and how to step out of it so you can respond with calm, grounded leadership—even when your teen doesn’t.

And I’ll leave you with one powerful question to help you reset the next time this thought shows up.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected]. 

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

What if the emotions of the empty nest aren’t as simple as just sadness? In this episode, I open up about the real layers we experience as moms parenting teens and launching them into their next chapter. The truth is, letting go is complicated. You may feel proud and relieved one moment, then lonely or lost the next. These emotions don’t come in neat little boxes—they overlap, collide, and leave us questioning who we are now that motherhood looks different  .

I share how this stage of motherhood isn’t just about our kids leaving, it’s about our own mindset and the stories we tell ourselves. Many of us try to fix these uncomfortable feelings by keeping busy, overthinking, or relying on our teens for reassurance. But real peace and purpose don’t come from trying to control or avoid our emotions—they come from learning how to navigate them with curiosity and compassion  .

If you’ve ever caught yourself overthinking, struggling to set boundaries, or wondering what your purpose is beyond motherhood, this conversation will resonate. I’ll help you see why it’s natural to feel anxious and uncertain right now, and how life coaching tools can help you reduce anxiety, stop overthinking, and begin creating connection, purpose, and direction in this next chapter  .

I believe this season of motherhood doesn’t have to feel like a void. It can be a chance to rediscover yourself, strengthen your relationships, and redefine what letting go really means. Listen in—I think you’ll find hope, clarity, and a reminder that you’re not alone.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected]. 

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

Ever found yourself thinking, “I don’t know how”—how to connect with your teen, how to let go, or how to figure out what comes next?

In this episode, I unpack the thought so many moms of teens and almost empty nesters are ashamed to admit. I explore why not knowing feels so personal, how it fuels anxiety, shame, and overthinking, and what it might look like to stay present—even when you don’t have a plan.

You’ll walk away with:

A new perspective on why “I don’t know how” feels so heavy—and how it quietly shapes your decisions

Real-life examples of how this thought shows up in parenting, purpose, and your relationship with yourself

Powerful questions to shift from needing certainty to exploring what’s actually possible

You’ve done hard things without knowing how before. So has your teen. What if this next chapter didn’t require certainty—just curiosity and a willingness to begin?

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen, join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class

💪 Curious about coaching with Small Jar?  Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching program: www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at [email protected].

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.