The Anxious Love Coach

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If your guy is in his 20s and figuring himself out and you're feeling anxious about it... you're not crazy. Here's why and what you can do about it.

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In this episode I share a personal story with my husband's porn usage, what to do if your partner's usage bothers you, how I see porn now, what makes it worse, and how to get him to want to stop.

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1. Access to my three best-selling 8-week group programs in spring, summer, and fall

2. Plus an exclusive community ONLY for those that join for all three seasons, where we will meet monthly for trainings and Q&As to help you integrate and keep the momentum going all year long.

Hey! In this episode I shared my story with breakup urges in my relationship with my now-husband and partner for 14 years. Boy do I know the panic of the thought "BREAK UP!"

I also shared how I stopped experiencing these altogether, and how you can work with me in 2026.

Join me for the entire year in UNWAVERING: End the drama in your relationships

You'll get:

1. Access to my three best-selling 8-week group programs in spring, summer, and fall

2. Plus an exclusive community ONLY for those that join for all three seasons, where we will meet monthly for trainings and Q&As to help you integrate and keep the momentum going all year long.

Hot take: relationship anxiety is the fear of being "stuck" or powerless. There's no shame in falling into the trap of thinking we'll be victims to the circumstances in our lives— but once you see it... you don't have to choose it. You can choose to stay empowered no matter what your decision is. Listen in.

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Spark Rest and Yin Language has been closed and discontinued.

Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026. Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that HERE .

Join me for the entire year in UNWAVERING: End the drama in your relationships

You'll get:

1. Access to my three best-selling 8-week group programs in spring, summer, and fall

2. Plus an exclusive community ONLY for those that join for all three seasons, where we will meet monthly for trainings and Q&As to help you integrate and keep the momentum going all year long.

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Tension of Opposites has been closed and discontinued.

Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026.

Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that HERE .

End the war within yourself with Stefi Preiss

In this episode, I bring one of my dearest friends and mentors, Stefi Preiss, to discuss a practice that helped me step out of relationship anxiety and commit to my partner (now husband and daddy to my baby!) with my whole heart. We discuss what a polarity looks like, how it can create healing in ourselves, our families, and ultimately — the world (especially in this heatedly escalating political environment).

Tension of Opposites has been closed and discontinued.

Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that here.

Hi podcast listener!

I'm back with a fresh episode after having a baby boy.

This episode includes my birth story (which went tremendously well), as well as some changes I'm making moving forward, including to the title of this podcast.

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Tension of the Opposites has been closed and discontinued.

Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026.

Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that HERE .

A question we've had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empowers you, and discard what doesn't. This conversation has lots of context and nuance I can't possibly cover in one episode!

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Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026.

Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that here.

When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD specialist with her masters in dance movement therapy and counseling. Together we share the more accurate measurements of determining how to trust your decision about your partner.

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Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace

Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026.

Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that here.

There are hidden costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you're addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for things you can do instead to reignite the spark in your relationship and not dampen it through reassurance-seeking.

Email List - Stay in touch

Get my "list of 20 things to rule out before throwing in the towel" by subscribing to my newsletter here.

Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace

Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026.

Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that here.