The Anxious Love Coach

Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is merely a symptom of one, and I'd like you to think much bigger at the internal imbalances at play so that you can enjoy one another all cycle long. If you get PMS, PMDD, anxiety, OCD, breakup urges strongest during your second half... this episode was MADE for you.    Nat's Amazon book recomendations   My previous episode of Anxious Love Coach on the menstral cycle   Both Feet In: Self Study Course and upcoming 2-month BFI group series starting October 1st   Patreon: next community support call September 13th at 9am PST. Bring your questions! Cancel anytime. $5-$9 a month. Join here.  

 

In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits.

 

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After a few-months long hiatus, I’m happy to share what I’ve been up to: settling down and starting a new life. In this episode, I share some of my own humbling realities and observations of trying to conceive. Do with them what you want. I hope you find them both reassuring and illuminating.

 

Work with me

 

1. Podcast, Instagram, Tiktok, email. Subscribe to my email for a free relationship anxiety meditation. Always free

2. Patreon - exclusive posts, discounts, monthly community call for mindfulness, discussion and Q+A: $5-$9/month

3. Wisio - ask me anything and I'll make you a custom video reply with my immediate thoughts on your situation: $67

4. Both Feet In - my signature self-study course, and access to exclusive BFI group programs: $197 - $317

5. I have room to take a few 1:1 clients. Book your session(s) here: $500-$1900

This episode is a recording of an impromptu Instagram Live I did last week. If you can see this pattern in yourself, you can also find freedom!

 

Work with me:

1. Next Patreon Community Call: Friday, June 7th at 8am PST. The call will last 2.5 hours. We will have an embodiment practice with Chelsea Horton from Healing Embodied, and then she and I will host a Q&A together. Become a patron here

2. I am currently open for 1:1 sessions. You can book yours (or buy a 4-pack) here.

3. Ask me anything on Wisio and I'll make you a custom video in response within 7 days.

 

Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

My most "meta" episode yet...

 

If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage?

 

Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode.

 

**Upcoming: Sex Anxiety Clinic with Shayna Hiller - A virtual masterclass to awaken pleasure, and release shame and dread in the bedroom: March 14, 2024 at 2pm PST/5pm EST. Register here.

 

Ask me anything on Wisio: www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach

 

Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

 

 

Time Stamps:

4:55 - Falling for the illusion of your partner

13:00 - Finding a partner that challenges your unconsciousness

16:35 - Two ways to improve your sex life

22:55 - Our sex anxiety clinic

If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, who is also a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher. Her name is Shayna Hiller. In this episode, we will discuss the causes of dread around sex, as well as what you can do to start looking forward to sex especially if it's gotten stale in the bedroom. You're not alone; No, you're not broken, and no, you're not necessarily with the wrong partner if you're not feeling turned on by their mere presence!

 

Register for the Sex Anxiety Clinic: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/sexanxietyclinic

 

To apply for Shayna's retreat and/or training: www.embodiedwisdomretreat.com or Shayna's website www.shaynahiller.com

 

Next ALC Patreon community call: Saturday, March 2nd at 9am PST/12pm EST: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach.com

 

Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

Shayna Hiller @Shaynahiller

 

Time Stamps:

6:52 Shayna’s long-term celibacy in her twenties

12:43  Clearing sexual trauma through the tantric arts

19:51  Inspiring your partner to be their best selves

26:34  Deciding that you don’t like sex, when the reality is that you dislike the sex you are having

30:21  How stress leads to anxiety in the bedroom

37:10  Normalizing the ebbs and flows in your relationship and your sex life

38:30  Scheduling sex

46:15  What to do when you dread having sex with your healthy, loving partner

1:05:00 Sex Anxiety Masterclass on March 14th 2pm PST

1:11:12 You are wired for pleasure

1:14:43 Shayna’s Embodied Wisdom Retreat

An underrated skill in the path of overcoming relationship anxiety: reclaiming softness, befriending anxiety, and learning to trust and follow glimmers of joy. This episode was so tender and beautiful it made me weepy. I am very grateful to present to you this episode with Jessica Fawn, yoga and tantra teacher. We spoke about seeing anxiety as a profound messenger for healing, and learning to nurture it— and what that can look like in the context of partnership.

Also, I will be joining her Temple membership, so see you there 🙂

Temple is Jessica Fawn's online school for women's softness & sensuality. Memberships start at 15$ per month. Doors open March 25-28th.

The daily schedule includes goddess tantra, art therapy, archetypal work, moon rituals, sensual dance, and self-love cultivation.

To read more about Temple: www.intothetemple.com/temple-school

 

Special gift for Anxious Love Coach Podcast listeners: receive 10% OFF on all plans: use the coupon code SISTERLOVE

 

Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

Jessica Fawn @jessicafawn_

 

Time Stamps:

4:00 - Jessica’s journey through anxiety and depression

8:40 - The power of embracing your anxiety

15:20 - What does “softness” mean in the feminine context?

19:00 - Working with a dysregulated nervous system from an embodiment perspective

30:45 - Jessica’s Temple program

If you've experienced profound healing and liberation from relationship anxiety, you may have felt the desire to pass this transformation on to others. If that's you, you're going to want to give this a listen and hear what it's like to be on the other side as a practitioner, and what it takes to hold outstanding healing space for others. Also, my dearest friend is hosting the first practitioner program of its kind that I've seen. I highly endorse this and recommend you join.

Wisio (my "Ask Nat" service): www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach - use the code LOVE2024 for 10% off through 2/20/24

Patreon: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach - Next group meditation + coaching call Saturday, March 2nd 9am PST/12pm EST

For the practitioner program:

 

Waitlist link: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/practitioner-training

You can also email Chelsea - [email protected]

Upcoming free event for those interested: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/hangout

 

Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

Chelsea Joy Horton @Healingembodied

 

Time Stamps:

8:00  Chelsea and Natalie’s paths into relationship anxiety and embodiment work

12:05 Downsides of working in the world of therapy

18:30 How Chelsea’s current work differs from traditional therapy

38:15 Creating a “human first” business

45:00 Chelsea’s practitioner training program

Two things are true: 1) I am unqualified to speak on ERP and OCD and 2) I am sharing my thoughts about ERP for those that still want to hear them even though I am unqualified.

What is ERP (Exposure & Response Prevention)? How helpful is it for those with relationship anxiety? What are its strengths and limitations? In this episode, I'll share my thoughts on this treatment.

Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged

If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach

We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is Sunday, February 11th at 8am PST/11am EST.

https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach

 

Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

 

Time Stamps:

5:04 What is ERP (exposure response therapy)?

9:34  The dangers of disassociating

13:00  What is polarity work?

20:00 Compassionate self-inquiry

My beloved Aunt Diane sent me some tips and I don't gatekeep. Listen up!

 

Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged

If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach

We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach

 

Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach