The Anxious Love Coach

Today's episode was unscripted, and I shared some hard thoughts and feelings I've been having about the podcast, and where I'd like to take this podcast moving forward.   I also shared some perspective shifts women in relationships with men could make, that would enable them to have more harmony with the good men in their lives.   I have a workshop coming up next Sunday called Yin Language: a 2-hour dissection for women on how to communicate with men in ways they understand. Sorry I waited to the last minute to tell you. I've been feeling hesitant to speak about it on the podcast lately and I shared why in this episode.   You can join 125+ women for the workshop, and the recording will be sent out to all registrants afterwards whether you attended live or not. Register for Yin Language here.   Other mentions: Next Patreon community call December 14th 9am PST - click here to join   Btw Wisio (my "pick my brain" service) is hosting a sale. Ask me anything and get 10% off using the code "THANKS24"   Amazon book list with Queen's Code

Books mentioned in this episode:

The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong

The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle

Magnetic Femininity by Ali Douzet

 

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This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations!   Btw— happy 100th episode! Thanks for supporting this podcast. You guys are great.   Links mentioned:   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.   1:1 Mentorship Promo - Me in your back pocket I'm offering a 1:1 promo through the month of November. 1-month intensive mentorship with 4 90-minute sessions, WhatsApp support, and my signature course Both Feet In. Get that here.   Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.   Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. By the time you hear this, my November call will have already passed (but you can watch in retrospect), but our next one will be Saturday, December 14th at 9am PST. Become a patron here.

Storytime: this episode reveals the moment my whole life turned around and I chose my partner, and what I believe it takes to access a place inside of yourself where making that kind of decision naturally happens with ease and even a sense of relief.   Join me for Anxious to Spacious October 24th - November 30th: 6 weeks to open your heart and transform relationship anxiety into profound love   Both Feet In Self Study   I also mentioned Stefi. Here is her website and offerings: www.alpenhafen.at   Ask me anything on Wisio

I'd love to give you a better understanding of intuition in this episode. This is the MOST common question I receive... and before I give you the answer, I'd like to point out some issues with the question itself.   You'll learn:

• What intuition is and isn't
• The false dichotomy you might accidentally be pigeonholing yourself into
• The limitations of only doing somatic work and meditation for relationship anxiety
• How to use your anxiety to communicate better

  Join me on October 24th for my last womens' group for a while, Anxious to Spacious. You'll learn: - Consciousness Exercise, a practice that snapped me out of overthinking my relationship and massively upgraded my communication skills

• How to process stagnant, old emotions clouding your ability to access clear thinking and intuition
• How to use Consciousness Exercise to articulate your problems to your partner in a way that inspires them to want to help you rather than blame you, withdraw, and/or deflect

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• Podcast Ep 81: May I tell you about my miscarriage?

Ever felt anxious or embarrassed by your socially awkward partner? You're not alone and not crazy. I've got you. Here's a mental shift you can make to have more peace, and also some actionable steps you can take to support your partner in becoming more of a social butterfly.   Links:

• Next call (with my husband Preston!) on Patreon: October 6th at 9am PST. Questions open October 3. Become a patron HERE
• Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE

Does your partner tune you out, or get defensive and withdrawn when you try to get vulnerable with them? Check you're not accidentally repelling them by doing this one thing.   If you prefer to watch the IG live you can do so  here  

• Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE

This goes for any women in relationships with men, or yin people in relations with yang people. If you find yourself feeling "off" in your relationship, it might not be you're in the wrong relationship but playing the wrong role. Here's how to flip it!   Consciousness Exercise Series has been renamed to:

• Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE

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I'm sharing something a relationship coach shared with me that really shook me up and convinced me to step up in my relationship and quit committing to the story I was powerless to do anything about my anxiety. It may be hard for some of you to hear, but for some it may be empowering. Love is not always pleasant and nurturing-sounding. That said, there is no advice that is one-size-fits-all, so take what you need and discard what you don't.

Links:

How I broke free from relationship anxiety - episode 1

How I Broke Free from Relationship Anxiety: Revisited - episode 57

Consciousness Exercise Series has been renamed to:

• Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE

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Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is merely a symptom of one, and I'd like you to think much bigger at the internal imbalances at play so that you can enjoy one another all cycle long. If you get PMS, PMDD, anxiety, OCD, breakup urges strongest during your second half... this episode was MADE for you.    Nat's Amazon book recomendations   My previous episode of Anxious Love Coach on the menstral cycle   Consciousness Exercise Series has been renamed to:

• Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE

  Patreon: next community support call September 13th at 9am PST. Bring your questions! Cancel anytime. $5-$9 a month. Join here.  

 

In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits.

 

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