The Anxious Love Coach

Today's episode was unscripted, and I shared some hard thoughts and feelings I've been having about the podcast, and where I'd like to take this podcast moving forward. I also shared some perspective shifts women in relationships with men could make, that would enable them to have more harmony with the good men in their lives.

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The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong

The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle

Magnetic Femininity by Ali Douzet

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This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations! Btw— happy 100th episode! Thanks for supporting this podcast. You guys are great. Links mentioned: Email List - Stay in touch Get my "list of 20 things to rule out before throwing in the towel" by subscribing to my newsletter HERE. 1:1 Mentorship Promo - Me in your back pocket Get that here. Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Patreon will be closed starting 8/16/2026. Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that HERE.

Storytime: this episode reveals the moment my whole life turned around and I chose my partner, and what I believe it takes to access a place inside of yourself where making that kind of decision naturally happens with ease and even a sense of relief. Join me for Anxious to Spacious October 24th - November 30th: 6 weeks to open your heart and transform relationship anxiety into profound love Both Feet In Self Study I also mentioned Stefi. Here is her website and offerings: www.alpenhafen.at Ask me anything on Wisio

I'd love to give you a better understanding of intuition in this episode. This is the MOST common question I receive... and before I give you the answer, I'd like to point out some issues with the question itself. You'll learn:

• What intuition is and isn't
• The false dichotomy you might accidentally be pigeonholing yourself into
• The limitations of only doing somatic work and meditation for relationship anxiety
• How to use your anxiety to communicate better

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Ever felt anxious or embarrassed by your socially awkward partner? You're not alone and not crazy. I've got you. Here's a mental shift you can make to have more peace, and also some actionable steps you can take to support your partner in becoming more of a social butterfly. Links:

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  Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1

Does your partner tune you out, or get defensive and withdrawn when you try to get vulnerable with them? Check you're not accidentally repelling them by doing this one thing. If you prefer to watch the IG live you can do so here

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  Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1

This goes for any women in relationships with men, or yin people in relations with yang people. If you find yourself feeling "off" in your relationship, it might not be you're in the wrong relationship but playing the wrong role. Here's how to flip it! Join Tension of Opposites Every Saturday from July 11 through August 22 at 10:00 AM PST / 1:00 PM EST / 6:00 PM GMT. Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that HERE:

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I'm sharing something a relationship coach shared with me that really shook me up and convinced me to step up in my relationship and quit committing to the story I was powerless to do anything about my anxiety. It may be hard for some of you to hear, but for some it may be empowering. Love is not always pleasant and nurturing-sounding. That said, there is no advice that is one-size-fits-all, so take what you need and discard what you don't.

Links:

How I broke free from relationship anxiety - episode 1

How I Broke Free from Relationship Anxiety: Revisited - episode 57

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Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1

Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is merely a symptom of one, and I'd like you to think much bigger at the internal imbalances at play so that you can enjoy one another all cycle long. If you get PMS, PMDD, anxiety, OCD, breakup urges strongest during your second half... this episode was MADE for you. Nat's Amazon book recomendations My previous episode of Anxious Love Coach on the menstral cycle Join Tension of Opposites Every Saturday from July 11 through August 22 at 10:00 AM PST / 1:00 PM EST / 6:00 PM GMT. Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that HERE:

Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1

In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits.

Both Feet In is my community where you can access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that HERE:

Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1