You were told you're too sensitive. Then you grew up, and somewhere along the way you either became someone who can't say "I'm sorry," or someone who's been managing everyone else's feelings except your own.

In this episode, Dr. Amelia Kelley sits down with men's coach Alex Vigilante, founder of Vigilante Rising, to talk about what happens when boys are taught from a young age to compartmentalize who they are. They get into the viral bathroom story that sparked a national conversation about fathers and daughters, why anger is often the one emotion men are allowed to feel, and what it actually looks like to break a pattern instead of repeating it.

If you've ever wondered what your dad needed to hear but never said, or what your own kids need to hear from you, this episode is for both of you.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why "wait till your father gets home" became a cultural script, and what it actually teaches kids about emotional safety

• The difference in how men and women are conditioned to people please, and why that distinction matters

• Why anger is often a mask for grief, fear, or shame, and what's actually underneath it

• The full story behind Alex's viral video and the conversation it started about fathers, daughters, and public spaces

• Two simple, body based practices that help men reconnect with themselves and show up more fully for their families

About the guest:

Alex Vigilante is a men's coach and the founder of Vigilante Rising, where he helps men reconnect with who they are underneath the roles of performer, achiever, and breadwinner. A former college athlete, Alex blends self inquiry, embodiment, and unlearning to help men break generational patterns and become more emotionally available fathers, partners, and friends. He is based in Charlotte, North Carolina, with his wife and two kids, and is currently working on his first book, As You Are.

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vigilante_rising/

• Website: https://vigilanterising.org/

  
  

Connect with Dr. Amelia Kelley:

🌍 Website: https://www.ameliakelley.com

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👩🏼‍💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drameliakelley/