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"The Cost of the Lie": Why You Feel Numb, Lonely, and Like You’re Too Much in This System With Quinn Otrera - Part 2


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Episode 66: This episode is raw, real, and liberating. Quinn and I dive deep into the second part of Jane Ward’s The Tragedy of Heterosexuality, unpacking what it means to live inside a system that was never built for our wholeness.

We explore the emotional and erotic numbness so many women feel in straight relationships—and how it’s not your fault. We talk about internalized misogyny, performative sex, the quiet tragedy of disconnection, and the deep grief (and power) in waking up 💥.

But this isn’t about blame—it’s about the system. We name the ways patriarchy hurts men too, and what’s possible when we let go of scripts, center real pleasure, and build relationships and communities rooted in emotional honesty, mutuality, and freedom 🌈.

We also share four “exit ramps” from the system:
 1️⃣ Name it
 2️⃣ Learn nonviolent communication
 3️⃣ Let go of the roles
 4️⃣ Rebuild true community

Whether you're staying, going, or somewhere in between, this conversation will meet you there—with clarity, compassion, and hope. You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And there is another way 💗

Show Notes

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward

To Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything! Julie Newmar Trailer

"The Men Are Not All Right"...Right? - Diabolical Lies Podcast

Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know - Adam Grant

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