The Date Brazen Podcast

Ever thought about making a big leap from your current job to your dream career? Discover how Erica ditched an exhausting job and became a full-time romance novelist with main character energy! Lily welcomes Erica a former Main Character Energy Mastermind client who made the leap from feeling stuck in her career to living her dream as a full-time romance novelist. Erica gets real about facing her fears, ditching self-doubt, and breaking free from the "shoulds" to follow her passion. This convo is a must-listen if you’re ready to trust yourself, go after what you want, and make some bold, messy moves. Plus, Lily spills the details on her live training event happening October 9th, all about taking risks with main character energy.

This episode will leave you feeling inspired and ready to take tangible next steps to embrace main character energy, stop “shoulding” all over yourself, and step into a braver, bolder, and more magical season of your life.

We get into:

• How Erica embraced her desire to become a full-time romance novelist 
• Tapping into main character energy to choose yourself and make your dreams a reality: “Here is an opportunity to figure out a way to choose me,” said Erica.
• Get the scoop on how trusting yourself can lead to bold moves and major life changes
• “What you want doesn't just appear one day because you wish for it hard enough. It's about really taking into consideration the work that I put in, the talent that I know I have, the want and just going after it.”
• How stepping away from people-pleasing can help you build the self-trust you need to chase your true desires

Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Erica’s books, including “Witty in Pink”

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/choosing-yourself-with-erica

What happens when you stop playing it safe and start betting on yourself? In this episode, Jackie spills on how she shifted from burnout to bold moves, and what it takes to embrace that Main Character Energy. Jackie, a former Main Character Energy Mastermind member, joins Lily for a convo about how she went from frozen in fear and burnt out to making some serious boss moves in her life. Together, they dive into the power of community and the mindset shifts that make growth happen. Spoiler: It’s all about trusting yourself, embracing the messiness, and going after what’s yours—whether it's your career goals or relationship desires.

We get into:

• How self-trust can lead to unexpected joy and experiences 
• Transitioning from a background character energy to main character energy
• “Whatever growth you are looking to make - if you put in the effort, it will come.”
• Taking imperfect action and claiming that things are working out - even when it feels uncomfortable 
• Jackie’s experience as a researcher of joy!

Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/huge-risks-with-mce-with-jackie

Is it possible to stay true to yourself while navigating the world of dating? Absolutely! We’re pulling back the curtain with special guests Ali and Erica from Finding Mr. Height. Lily sits down with the duo to discuss how they decided to start their dating podcast and offers a glimpse into the clues, details, and breadcrumbs that help you figure out if someone is right for you. We also dig into the anxieties that surface in new and long-term relationships, offering strategies for navigating them with confidence and clarity.

You’ll also hear Ali and Erica's candid thoughts on their least favorite—and most favorite—pieces of dating advice. Plus, Lily explores some uncharted territory, sharing her take on long-term relationships. This episode is packed with humor and practical tips to help you own what you want and build strong relationships.

We get into:

• What inspired Ali and Erica to launch their dating podcast, Finding Mr. Height
• Spotting the subtle clues and signals to determine if someone’s right for you (or not)
• Relationship anxieties—whether you’re just starting out or deep in a long-term commitment
• Finding and building a meaningful relationship that works for you
• Ali and Erica’s top dating tips and the advice they’d rather skip

Links: Finding Mr. Height podcast

Finding Mr. Height on Instagram @findingmrheight

Erica on Instagram @spericaa Lily’s appearance on Finding Mr. Height

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/finding-mr-height-ali-and-erica

Hot-take: Bragging is key to attracting more in your dating life. That’s right! We’re diving into Lily's favorite chapter from her book, Thank You More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love. It's all about the Brazen Bragging Revolution! 🚀

Lily breaks down why bragging isn’t just a power move but the key to attracting more fulfilling relationships. She gets real about her journey, tackles the societal BS that holds us back and gives you the ultimate guide to celebrating your awesomeness. Plus, there’s exclusive bonus content waiting for you if you snag her book from her website. 

You’ll learn:

• Why hiding your full awesomeness leads to uninspiring dates 
• Why it feels weird to brag and how to get over it
• How to choose your bragging support and community wisely 
• Mastering the art of brazen bragging
• Real-life examples of what you can start bragging about today

Links: Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/brag-more-find-love

What does it take to go from feeling "behind" in dating to confidently making your move every single time? This week, Lily welcomes client Allyson, who shares her journey from feeling behind in dating to embracing self-compassion and taking control of her love life. They chat about the game-changing power of self-love, shaking off society's BS standards, and how stepping into a main character mindset has leveled up not just Allyson's dating game, but her whole life.

Tune in for some real talk on how to attract meaningful relationships while staying true to yourself, taking your shot, and feeling all kinds of empowered.

We get into:

• The struggle of feeling behind in dating – "It felt like a mountain I couldn’t climb."
• Why it's okay to be uncomfortable, and how to find safety even in the discomfort.
• Owning the fact that you are in complete control of your love life.
• How Allyson found the courage to shoot her shot and ask someone out
• Allyson’s new beliefs about her future, and how it’s all coming together

Links:

Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough)

Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-with-allyson

What if the key to transforming your dating life is all about owning your worth? Listen in to find out how Miriam went from dating fear to confidently choosing people who were aligned with what they truly wanted. 

Join Lily and client Miriam as they dive deep into the thoughts that so many of us have about dating, worthiness, and settling, and how these can keep us stuck on a hamster wheel, going through the motions without real progress. Miriam shares their journey from feeling frustrated and scared about dating to radiating confidence and truly enjoying the experience! We get into:

• The dating hamster wheel: How to break free from the endless cycle of dating without progress and finally make things happen.
• Tips for overcoming those nagging thoughts like “I’m too much” or “All the good ones are taken” and boosting your dating confidence
• Dealing with fears of settling, picking the wrong partner, or just getting started in the dating world
• How Miriam mastered the art of blessing and releasing when there was a values mismatch, rather than sticking around to “see where this goes.”

Links:

✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough) Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Date Brazen on YouTube Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/bless-and-release-confidently-with-miriam

Hot-take: You should make the first move 100% of the time. If you read that and feel a sense of fear, that’s okay! In this episode, Lily breaks down everything from rocking a proactive mindset to embracing those awkward moments and showing yourself some self-compassion so you can confidently make the first move every time.

This is the most passionate lesson Lily teaches, and she has seen a major difference in clients' ability to attract the right partner. Tune in to learn how to transform your dating life with bold confidence and get the deets on more resources to help you along the way. 

You’ll learn:

• How to embrace the awkwardness, recognize your inner power, and remember you're resilient AF.
• “You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.”
• Take Your Shot: Every attempt brings you closer to what you want because you're actively attracting and asking for it.
• Use the S.O.F.T. method to move through rejection: Self-compassion, Own Your Needs, Feel Your Feelings, and remember that Thoughts Are Not Facts.
• Creative and practical suggestions to help you take that first step!

Links:

✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Main Character Dating Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please 162. The Complete Dating Detox Guide Kristin Neff’s Self-compassion.org Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/make-the-first-move-every-time

Are you wondering, “How do I pick up the pieces after this horrible breakup?” This week, Lily dives straight into an inspiring conversation with Liz, a former client who turned the heartbreak of a broken engagement into a powerful journey of healing and finding new love. Liz keeps it real, sharing her experiences of embracing pain, seeking support, and rebuilding self-trust.

Together, Lily and Liz explore the transformative process of becoming your main character through the work of Main Character Dating, formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough. Returning to the podcast after her first appearance in 2023, Liz brings a full-circle perspective, offering wisdom and insights for anyone navigating post-breakup life or re-entering the dating world. 

Listen in as Liz reflects on how the principles of Main Character Dating have evolved with her, revealing how embracing self-discovery and vulnerability can be your greatest strengths.

We get into:

• Picking up the pieces after a shitty breakup
• Liz shares her raw experience: “I had to fully feel all my pain,” emphasizing the importance of embracing and processing emotions to heal
• When you show up with your feelings, the right people show up for you as well
• Navigating the desire/shame see-saw means trusting your gut and understanding there's no perfect timeline for getting back into dating
• Liz explores, “What does self-trust look like for you now?” sharing how she found courage and rebuilt self-trust 

Links:

✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/self-trust-and-love-after-a-breakup-with-liz

Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? This week, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily’s insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences. 

Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires. 

You’ll learn how to:

• Embrace self-compassion and connection
• Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts
• Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey
• Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning
• Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!)
• Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you’re whole as you are
• Redefine what “blooming” means to you

Links: ✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨ Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/late-bloomer-guide-to-releasing-worry

Ever wondered how to heal from a toxic relationship and truly thrive? Lily is joined by licensed psychotherapist Ginger Dean, the genius behind the book, Loving Me, After We. They dive into the journey of healing from toxic relationships, highlight the importance of self-soothing, and chat about how to rebuild self-trust. 

Ginger shares her personal and professional experiences, drops some wisdom on emotional recovery, and introduces her latest book, 'Loving Me After We,' packed with practical steps to go from hurting to thriving. They also get into what it means to be the 'green flag' in relationships and the power of self-care practices like yoga, massages, and somatic work.

You’ll hear about:

• The inner work needed to become the best version of yourself, focusing on baseline levels of emotional availability and self-awareness.
• Practices and shifts, in addition to therapy, to come home to yourself and create a self-care plan after a hard breakup.
• Self-care practices and ideas to take care of your well-being.
• Building or rebuilding self-trust after being in a toxic or the wrong relationship.

Links: ✨ Get Lily's Free Training: Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable ✨

Ginger’s website Ginger’s book, Loving Me, After We

Episode link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-after-a-hard-breakup-ginger-dean