Do you ever feel like you're stuck in the same emotional loops?

The same arguments.

The same frustrations.

The same moments where you promise yourself, Next time I'll handle this differently…

only to find yourself reacting in exactly the same way?

If so, you're not broken.

You may simply be following an emotional script you didn't know you were carrying.

In this week's episode, The Emotional Freedom Formula, I share a powerful 7-step framework that combines CBT, DBT, trauma healing, and identity work to help you understand why you think, feel, and react the way you do.

Because here's the truth:

Most people focus on changing their habits.

But habits are often downstream from identity.

And identity is powerful.

I share a story about my daughter and Judy Hopps from Zootopia that reminded me of this in the most beautiful way:

Sometimes, changing who we believe we are can instantly change how we behave.

Episode timestamps:

00:57 — Introducing the Emotional Freedom Formula

01:54 — Why identity may be the most powerful lever for change

02:42 — The Judy Hopps story: how identity transformed behavior instantly

05:27 — Step 1: The Neutral Fact

06:46 — Identity & Core Beliefs: the invisible thermostat running your life

08:40 — Thoughts → Feelings → Actions → Results

11:42 — How to identify the identity behind your reactions

14:45 — The key to emotional freedom: shifting core beliefs

15:26 — How to start using this formula in your own life

One of my favorite metaphors from this episode is this:

Your identity is like the thermostat in your house.

You can work harder, push yourself, and try all the right strategies…

but your life keeps returning to the temperature your identity is set to.

Real change isn't about forcing yourself to think differently.

It's about learning to become someone different.

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And if you've been listening to these recent episodes and thinking:

"In my head I know exactly what to do … but I still get stuck in the same emotional patterns."

That's exactly why I created Untriggerable.

It's designed specifically for physicians and high-achieving professionals who are ready to stop being controlled by old emotional scripts and start responding with clarity, resilience, and freedom.

You can join our community here:

https://www.skool.com/relationshipmastery4physicians

Or simply reply to this email or reach out to [email protected] and my team will send you all the details.

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