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Have you ever felt resentment building, only to realize your own choices have led you to that place? A huge source of resentment is mistakenly blaming others for decisions that we are responsible for, but recognizing your power to control this can be transformative. In this episode, my guest, Sara Wilhelm, shares her recent breakthrough in understanding her resentment, and how she has made a plan to move forward in the direction of living more according to her values. Here’s what we cover:

• The steps to take you from feeling resentful to taking action
• How people pleasing disconnects us from our true feelings and desires
• A method to help deal with the discomfort you feel when you stop people pleasing
• How women are programmed to believe that our time is not actually our own
• Why finding a way to take action helps stop resentment towards other people or larger systems
• The importance of self-compassion as you work through your resentment 

I can't wait for you to listen!

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I want every woman to have the ability to create a life of her choosing, filled with the freedom to embrace her desires. I’ve worked hard to create a program that helps women achieve this, but the real magic of my Stop People Pleasing program comes from the women themselves who are willing to take risks, expand their capacity for feeling uncomfortable, and develop the skills needed to live authentically without the weight of constantly pleasing others. In this episode, I’m so grateful to be joined by four amazing women from my program–Allyssya, Sara, Stephanie, and Susan–who share their journeys with people pleasing. You'll hear about the changes they have made in their daily lives and in how they see themselves. Here’s what we cover: 

• How a group program provides encouragement from other women on the same path 
• Why trust in yourself is crucial to turn your focus to your own desires
• How people pleasing has a cost, and you often pay for it with your peace and happiness
• Examples of which areas in life people-pleasing tendencies are most common
• Why coaching provides you with the freedom to implement what you've learned whenever the time is right for you
•  How to start living a life you created instead of living a life someone chose for you when you stop people pleasing

I can't wait for you to listen!

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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Mistakes are a part of life–we all make them, whether it’s with ourselves, with others, or in pursuit of our goals. Even as we grow emotionally and strive for greater self-connection, our inner critical voice often shames us for every misstep. In this episode, I explore why self-compassion is key when we mess up, and how leaving self-criticism behind is essential to lasting growth. Here’s what I cover:

• Examples that illustrate the way we were conditioned to fear making mistakes and the lasting impact this has
• How to address the parts of yourself that are triggered when you mess up—the critic and the part that feels like you are in trouble—with compassion so you can move forward in a healthy way
• Why caring for those parts allows us to separate ourselves from the mistakes we make
• Sentences to say when you mess that preserve your self-respect and the sincerity of your apology
• How people pleasers often conflate their self-worth with their actions, but you deserve to make a mistake and recover from it
• Four questions to ask after you make a mistake to inspire a more loving response from yourself

I can't wait for you to listen.

Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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When it comes to goals and to-do lists, the unrealistic expectations we often have lead to feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm. Whether you want to set a goal for the new year or achieve a task this weekend, today’s guest, Goli Kalkhoran, shares why we often overreach and how to set practical and fulfilling goals that lead to success instead of shame. Here’s what we cover:

• How it's possible to change your mindset so you feel good about yourself no matter what you achieve in a day
• An exercise to illuminate the unreasonable nature of the level of productivity we often expect from ourselves
• Why the perceptions of other people heavily factor into the unrealistic goals of people-pleasers
• The idea of “time optimism” and how we use it to punish ourselves by ignoring the context of what is actually going on in our lives 
• Why focusing on only one goal for the year is an effective strategy 
• How to choose just one goal by using an exercise to examine areas of insufficiency in your life and asking yourself “What's the rush?”

I can’t wait for you to listen.

Goli Kalkhoran is Master Certified Life Coach, and former attorney, who helps unfulfilled professionals create a career (and life) they actually like. She is the host of the Lessons from a Quitter podcast where she uses her platform to de-stigmatize quitting and provide resources and inspiration to individuals looking to pivot in their established careers. She challenges people to exceed their own expectations and guides them through the initial steps of starting over in order to build a more intentional, fulfilling life.

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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When we don’t get to cross something off of our to-do list, we often blame ourselves for poor time management. However, the founder and creator of the Time Hacker Method, Vikki Yaffe, joins me today to offer the perspective that the problem is not us, but the mindset about time we’ve been taught to have. Vikki teaches people the skills to collaborate with time more flexibly, and I’m so grateful to have her on the podcast to share tips and tools to stop feeling shame around time and trust ourselves instead. Here’s what we cover:

• How good girl rules overlap with myths about time management
• The downfalls of the systems, norms, and tools that we have been taught that are supposed to help us with our time
• How the false truths we were taught about time stem from exploitation 
• When we try to manipulate time by overscheduling ourselves, it prevents collaboration with time and a relationship with ourselves
• An example of what it looks like when someone is caught up in the misunderstanding of time
• Why your brain is the most effective tool to make lasting change with your time

I can't wait for you to listen.

Find Vikki here:
https://www.timehackers.xyz/
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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“I just need a really good plan,” is a phrase that offers overachievers a sense of security, but the cycle of planning is often what holds us back from achieving our goals. In today’s episode, Dr. Priyanka Venugopal joins me to discuss why plans alone don’t deliver the desired results and how embracing a different, more informed strategy can lead to greater clarity, growth, and success. Here’s what we cover:

• Why just having a plan on paper is never going to create lasting results because we have to go the extra step to evaluate what actually works
• How planning triggers the reward centers of the brain because you are imagining doing the plan perfectly, but this often leads to inaction instead of achievement
• We know we can do hard things, but a plan shifts our focus to wishfulness instead of doing the work
• How to speak to yourself with compassion so your evaluation doesn't feel like self-punishment
• 5 questions to help you uncover the reason your plan didn’t work and how to adjust moving forward
• It’s possible to allow yourself to feel your emotions while also being curious and realistic
• Why it’s important to acknowledge your efforts every step of the way - not just when you get a result

I can't wait for you to listen!

Priyanka Venugopal is an Ob/Gyn physician turned Stress and Weight Loss Coach for professional moms who identify as overachievers and who want to lose weight with science backed strategies that will last a lifetime. For over 10 years she has talked with thousands of high achieving professional women and gotten to the root of the high achiever's biggest obstacles in hitting goals at work and on the scale.

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If you are looking for a podcast episode about body image, listen to my interview with Corinne Crabtree: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1984814/episodes/12877354

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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The hopes and expectations we have going into the holiday season make this time of year particularly susceptible to feeling grief. In this week's conversation with Susie Ruth, an end-of-life coach and grief specialist, we discuss strategies for navigating grief and offer insights on how best to support someone grieving during the holidays. Here’s what we cover:

• The reason why we are more susceptible to feeling grief during the holidays
• Why the acronym B.R.A.T.S. will help you remember phrases and actions that DO NOT help you process your grief
• The process of learning more about grief is the first step to understanding how you can grieve and live at the same time
• How simply acknowledging your grief and that it’s okay to feel is an important healing practice 
• How to use the W.A.I.T. acronym to guide you in supporting someone who is grieving
• Why there is grief that comes with any transition in life

I can't wait for you to listen.

Find Susie here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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When we cause harm to someone else, the good girl tendency is to feel shame and defensiveness. Instead, if we get to a place where we are generous and can grieve our mistakes, we can move on to be better versions of ourselves. In this episode, I talk about how the themes of Wicked relate to my journey of becoming an ex-good girl and the importance of self-compassion when you have to question your beliefs. Here’s what I cover:

• How the representation of power structures fueled by patriarchy in the Wicked movie relate to our society
• Why you can't grow into better versions of yourself without acknowledging that past versions made mistakes
• How my experience as a member of the Mormon church has similarities to Glinda’s character arc in Wicked
• Two good-girl beliefs that are roadblocks to learning from our mistakes and becoming better friends and allies
• How we have been conditioned to react to shame and think negatively about changing our mind
• Why we often jump to defend our beliefs instead of being open to the idea of exploring new ones

I can't wait for you to listen!

Read the Substack essay mentioned in the episode: Defying Gravity: Wicked and the Weight of Social Justice

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In this episode, you’ll get a glimpse into my musical-loving heart as I discuss the feminist themes of the movie, Wicked, and moments in the film that took me back to a time when I had to realize a hard truth. Here’s what I cover:

• Why we all deserve to have beliefs consistent with having autonomy and being able to find what we like and what we want to do
• How the song “Defying Gravity” helped me through a challenging time in my life
• Why the realization that something that provides goodness and safety is actually doing us harm is a shared experience for many
• Each of us is worthy of being in relationships, friendships, and careers that do not exist inside circumstances that require us to ignore part of what is going on in order to be happy
• An important truth about people pleasing and gender equality is illuminated in an essay by Celeste Davis

I can't wait for you to listen.

Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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It’s normal to want to bypass feelings of fear, worry, and sorrow during this uncertain time, but we miss the opportunity to create a vulnerable, trusting relationship with ourselves and our feelings if we send these big emotions into exile. In this episode, I discuss how moving forward starts with processing our emotions. Here’s what I cover:

• Why distraction from difficult emotions is not a bad thing when it’s balanced with emotional connection to yourself
• A visualization exercise to help you process your feelings in a way that builds deep emotional trust
• Taking the time to be with your emotions will help create the sense of safety and security needed to move forward in a way that feels good to you
• How I processed the uncertainty I feel with understanding and care for myself
• Why cultivating vulnerable trust with yourself is one of the most important things you can be doing

I can’t wait for you to listen.

Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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