The Hook Up

From royal mistresses to freedom fighters, the women of history have had their share of epic love stories, romantic mishaps and sexual tales — and there’s a whole lot we can learn from them.

At least that's what author Jennifer Wright reckons, and she makes the case in her book We Came First: Relationship Advice from Women Who Have Been There, from Josephine Baker's tips on owning your sexual promiscuity, to Grace Kelly on making a bold first move.

Nat and Jennifer break down how feminism, sex and great women of history are for better and worse, inseparable.

Ever thought it would be hot to be taken down? Tackled, wrestled to ground, grabbed and restrained? You might be into takedown bondage.

It's a style of BDSM play that can be coupled with all sorts of roleplaying scenarios, from karate duels to staged kidnappings.

But what does it look like? Well, it’s pretty damn intense.

Nat invited Mistress Tokyo and bunny Anna to the ABC Studios to give her a demo.

When you're young, queer, Asian and Australian, it can be hard to know how to feel about sex.

Repressed taboos in certain households are at odds with the way Asian bodies are fetishised in Western culture, from movies to Grindr. 

At least, that’s according to the creators of Safe Word, a work of physical theatre exploring what it means to be young, queer and Asian in Australia. They join Nat to talk about the challenges and liberties found through their sexploration.

When Isabella moved back to her tiny hometown after a break-up, she didn't expect to see her ex again for a while. But then he started coming to her family's pub three times a week, with his new girlfriend in tow.

When you go through a break up, you generally don’t want to be running into your ex all the time. So, what do you do when you literally can’t avoid it?

Whether you work with them, are in the same uni tutes, or live in the same tiny town, psychologist Zoe Krupka joins Nat to chat about how to deal when you can't get that space you need to truly get over your ex.

Erin was just 23 years old when she went to the bathroom with some stomach cramps thinking nothing of it. She didn't expect to walk out with a baby.

Most people get months to prepare, but how do you deal with becoming a parent within minutes? We look at cryptic pregnancies and how you can bring a baby to term without knowing you were pregnant.

Support services:

-Lifeline: 13 11 14

-PANDA: Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia 1300 726 306

-Beyondblue.org

-www.adoptchange.org.au

How would your relationship change if you knew exactly when it was going to end?

Would you hold back? Or would you make the most of the time you had?

For some couples, an expiration date can be heartbreaking but as you'll learn it can also be a really positive thing.

Does your partner seem to love their phone more than you?

We look at how to get them off the socials and back IRL plus you'll hear from Instagram influencer Lucy Jackson who's dealing with this problem in her relationship right now.

Apparently more than half of us are faking it in the bedroom. But why?

You'll find out in this episode and also learn how to stop if you've been pretending with your partner.

And Presenter and DJ Flex Mami reveals her new anti-faking it anthem.