The Hook Up

Recently, Sir Paul McCartney of the Beatles revealed a bit more than we bargained for in a GQ interview about sex acts he’d performed in front of his writing partner, John Lennon. Which lead us to ask, how many of us masturbate with our mates and is there anything wrong with that? Featuring lecturer from the School of Political and Social Sciences at the University of Melbourne, Dr Lauren Rosewarne.

Ever thought of putting a steel rod into your urethra for sexual pleasure? Sounding can be done no matter what genitals you have. You’ll hear from Mistress Tokyo on what’s involved with this act and why it might be best left to the pros, and producer James Findlay goes to a sounding workshop to see how to sound a penis first hand.

While it’s rough being cheated on, what’s it like to be the ‘other lover'? How can you reconcile the conflicting feelings around being that person, hoping that one day they might leave their partner and be with you? You can also find yourself in a spiral of thoughts finding reasons to justify your actions…

If you’re having sex with a partner and they don’t cum, do you feel inadequate? Not cumming during intercourse is usually something we associate with cis, hetro women, but it happens to a number of guys as well. It can leave the guy feeling unsatisfied and leave their partner feeling like they’re not good enough. Especially when guys are assumed to cum all the time.

You’ll hear from a couple of guys who just can't cum during penetrative sex, and from a sex therapist on how this problem works and how you might be able to fix it.

Have you ever experienced clinginess in a relationship or have stayed with someone because you’d rather not be alone? It might be because of something that happened when you were just a kid.

Learn about the fear of abandonment and attachment styles when a psychologist drops by and hear how a listener's fear of abandonment has been effecting his relationships.

Have you ever used a blindfold during sex? How about mummification? Ok that’s more extreme, but both these things are classed as sensory deprivation. You’ll hear about how playing with your senses can make sex a bit more interesting.

You may have heard of people having a leather fetish, but have you heard much of rubber and latex fetish? It’s where you wear special latex and rubber costumes.

Can you imagine how hard they might be to put on…?! You'll meet Mistress Mynx, a kink personal trainer and latex enthusiast and a young Melbourne guy who became the country's first Rubberman and then went on to be the runner-up in the International Rubberman competition.

Have you ever been out at a bar or a club with your partner, or maybe someone you just picked up, and thought, “I can’t wait, I just want to have sex right now … in front of all these people…” Well, there are special places where that can happen. They’re called sex on premises venues, bars, clubs and spaces where you can have sex, right there, without leaving.

Some provide beds, cubicles, saunas and pools to play, and for many people, they had conjured up a seedy sort of image. Darkened hallways, cum stains and sweat, but what are they really like inside? On the podcast you’ll hear from some owners and organisers of these types of venues, and Nat went to my first gay sauna to see what’s on offer.

If you go on a lot of dates, you might be burning a hole in your wallet trying to find love. There’s the food, the movie tickets, that flash new outfit, and if you’re going on several dates a week it can add up. So how can you woo someone on a budget? New research from dating site eHarmony has found that young Aussies are spending around $2000 a year on dates. That’s not an insignificant amount of dosh. You’ll hear from former serial-dater, Rose Callaghan on some cheap date ideas, and how can we find romance without going broke with psychologist Sharon Draper.

BDSM usually conjures images of whips, chains, ropes and restriction AKA implements of pain! But for some people, it’s a way of overcoming physical, psychological and sexual trauma. On this podcast, we’re exploring the world of bondage therapy. You’ll hear from sex therapist Jeremy Shub on why it works, and holistic councillor Bianca Wolff on whether it can work for you. You'll also meet Ollie from Sydney, who lives with cerebral palsy and has tried BDSM as a way of helping him feel better in his body.