The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Doctor Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Porn addiction among high-performing men is more common—and more misunderstood—than most people realize.

In this eye-opening episode of the Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell welcomes back expert Roland Cochrun to discuss his new book, 'The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery'. Known for his groundbreaking insights into sex and porn addiction, Roland breaks down the crucial difference between substance and process addiction—where individuals become hooked not on external substances but on internal thought patterns and behaviors. Together, Dr. Alexandra and Roland explore why high achievers are especially vulnerable to these compulsions, how porn addiction impacts relationships, and why many of these behaviors are deeply misunderstood. Roland offers powerful guidance for healing, challenges societal norms around sex and desire, and encourages a new narrative of recovery, responsibility, and reconnection.

Also in this episode:

• What Process Addiction Is: Being hooked on mental patterns and habits, not substances like drugs or alcohol.

• How It Affects Relationships: A partner's porn addiction can feel like betrayal and cause emotional pain.

• Challenging Norms: Society's views on sex and porn aren't always healthy—it's important to question them.

• The Role of Self-Awareness: Recognizing your own patterns is key to breaking free from addiction.

• Moral and Legal Questions: Roland challenges the ethics of porn and strip clubs, comparing them to modern slavery.

About The Guest:

Roland Cochrun is the founder of The Successful Addict, a sex addiction recovery group designed specifically for high-achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs. As a recovering sex addict himself, Roland found blind spots in the treatment of process addiction, especially as it applies to successful men. Roland hopes to shine a light on a preventable issue that is destroying couples and families all over the world.

Connect with Roland:

Get his latest book: The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction

Website: The Successful Addict

YouTube: The Successful Addict

Listen to the previous interview with Roland Cochrun: "Sex and Success": https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/the-hidden-addictions-of-high-performers/

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Are you and your partner drifting apart, despite loving each other deeply?

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores how planning and scheduling "intimacy dates" can save your relationship (and totally uplevel it!) by fostering deeper connection and closeness, especially for busy couples juggling work, family, and other responsibilities. Emphasizing that intimacy should be prioritized like any other essential activity, Dr. Alexandra shares practical strategies and insights. With decades of experience, personally and professionally, she'll show you how "intimacy dates" can revitalize your relationship, and bring back spontaneity and joy.

Dispelling the myth that scheduled intimacy lacks romance, this episode shares creative ways to blend structure with spontaneity, to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully. By keeping intimacy high on your priority list, and sharing responsibilities to reduce stress, couples can overcome disconnection and discover what fun and meaningful intimacy looks like in their unique dynamic and phase of life.

Also in this episode:

• Scheduling "intimacy dates" is crucial for nurturing emotional, sensual, and erotic intimacy in a relationship, particularly for busy couples.

• Flexibility within scheduled times allows for spontaneity and enhances enjoyment, without the pressure of obligatory sex.

• Setting up intimacy dates during times when both partners are relaxed and energized leads to more meaningful connections.

• Assigning responsibilities, such as household tasks, to allow space for relaxation and self-connection facilitates a better atmosphere for intimacy.

• Personalizing "intimacy date"s to include activities like games, dancing, or creative expression stokes intimacy and rekindles fun in a relationship.

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Do you ever feel like a third wheel in your marriage, after the birth of your children? You are not alone. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores the common phenomenon where fathers, sometimes mothers, struggle with the change in relationship dynamics that occur when parental responsibilities take center stage; she sheds light on how to navigate these challenging times with grace and leadership.

Emphasizing the importance of communication, self-awareness, and leadership in maintaining a strong marital connection amidst the demands of parenting, Dr. Alexandra advises on the steps to take to support your spouse while also ensuring your own needs are met. She provides strategies for creating emotional and physical intimacy, even when life's demands seem overwhelming.

• Understand that feeling like a third wheel after the birth of children is a common phase. It's essential to address the dynamic, rather than ignoring it.

• Adopt a leadership role in the family by focusing on the needs of both children and your spouse, fostering a supportive and loving environment for all.

• Engage in meaningful conversations with your spouse about how to sustain and deepen your marital connection amidst the demands of parenting young children.

• Use the opportunity to exemplify a loving, collaborative, and passionate relationship for your children.

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It's essential to understand that experiences of sexual shame vary greatly, depending on the person and circumstances. Addressing the range of feelings openly is vital for a healthy relationship.

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is joined by April Lampert and Amy Baldwin of "Shameless Sex" to discuss the intricacies of sexual shame, its impact on relationships, and how individuals and couples can navigate towards a more shameless and fulfilling sex life. Together they highlight common misconceptions about sexual shame, and offer practical advice for maintaining passion and intimacy in long-term relationships. They also explore the pervasive nature of shame, from societal pressures to personal traumas, and emphasize the healing power of communication and vulnerability.

Tips in this episode:

• Many people carry unrecognized sexual shame from past experiences and societal norms; addressing these feelings leads to greater pleasure and connection.

• Open, compassionate dialogue with partners about sexual dissatisfaction and/or shame significantly enhances intimacy and relationship satisfaction.

• Sharing vulnerabilities and desires without judgment is vital for overcoming shame and achieving a fulfilling sexual relationship.

• Sexual shame often flourishes in long-term relationships, due to mismatched desires and societal expectations–addressing it is essential to maintain marital passion.

About The Guests:

Shameless Sex is a groundbreaking podcast that has been releasing nearly 500 episodes weekly since 2017. It is one of the most listened to podcasts in the world and consistently ranks in the top 5 of the sexuality category. More than just a podcast, it's a movement dedicated to normalizing discussions about sex and intimacy while reducing shame. The hosts, April Lampert and Amy Baldwin, are on a mission to empower individuals through various platforms, including their bestselling book, wellness retreats, live "edutainment" variety shows, and interactive workshops. Shameless Sex inspires listeners to embrace consensual pleasure and have more fun and less shame in the bedroom.

Connect with April and Amy:

shamelesssex.com

IG: @ShamelessSexPodcast

TT: @ShamelessSexPodcast

FB: @ShamelessSexPodcast

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As a listener, you know I rarely record bonus episodes. But I'm too excited to share this so I had to turn on the mic.

Today I'm introducing you to "INITIATING," my program for educated successful men who want more and better sex.

Are you ready to learn the game-changing strategies that will completely change the dynamic between you and your wife?

Join me, starting this Monday, April 7th for INITIATING. Details at alexandrastockwell.com/initiating

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People often talk about the importance of "prioritizing your marriage," but what does that actually mean? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell addresses the common tendency to overlook nurturing emotional intimacy, amidst busy careers and family life. She emphasizes that making time to spend together as a couple is essential, but it's only the beginning of what it takes to create and maintain a deep, uncompromising intimate bond.

Dr. Alexandra explores how couples can overcome challenges, when it comes to prioritizing their marriages, emphasizing a commitment to cultivating emotional intimacy and improving communication skills. She introduces the concept of marriage as a third entity and explains the significance of attending to its needs. She discusses how more emotional intimacy can seamlessly transition into enhanced erotic vitality and sexual fulfillment.

Dr. Alexandra gives practical steps for couples to implement today. She also discusses teachings from the Aligned & Hot Marriage Program, which offers specific techniques and exercises to deepen marital intimacy.

• Prioritizing your marriage goes beyond merely spending time together; it involves actively nurturing emotional intimacy and connection.

• Couples should view their relationship as a 'third entity' that requires dedication and care to flourish and thrive.

• Emotional intimacy acts as a powerful catalyst for enhancing sensual and erotic connections within a marriage.

• Dr. Stockwell's Aligned & Hot Marriage Program provides actionable tools, and education, to foster emotional and sexual intimacy in relationships.

• Even skeptical partners can transform their views and experiences when intentional efforts are made to prioritize the marriage.

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In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell and her husband, Dr. Rodd Stockwell, discuss ways men successfully initiate intimacy with their wives. Drawing on their own experience being married for 29 years, they share how their intimacy dynamics have evolved over the years, and what changed for it to become as wonderful as it is now. They also discuss how their communication skills have been refined over time, and why this is important to the quality and frequency of sex.

You'll learn a lot from this vulnerable episode as Rodd candidly shares his journey, learning how to initiate sex in ways that Alexandra responds to, and his own personal struggles with maintaining intimacy and navigating feelings of rejection, and incompetence

Tips in this episode:

• Despite a lack of helpful guidelines in personal development, growth is achievable through collaborative efforts and shared communication, and guidance.

• Overcoming feelings of incompetence in initiating intimacy involves changing self-talk, and separating thoughts from facts.

• Applying skills and confidence from one's professional life improves romantic relationships.

• Leadership and decisiveness in a relationship should be balanced with respect and attunement to a partner's needs.

Read Dr. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

Sign up for the Masterclass "How to Ask Your Woman for Sex (so she's more likely to say YES)" www.alexandrastockwell.com/yes

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Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra's proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com

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There is a nuanced art to cultivating intimacy in relationships, and in this week's episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell speaks specifically on the topic of how men can initiate sex and intimacy with their women in ways that foster connection and increase passion.

Emphasizing the qualities of confidence and leadership, Dr. Alexandra discusses effective ways for a man to initiate sex with his wife so that she's more likely to say "yes." These tips help increase the frequency of sexual encounters while also deepening the overall emotional connection between partners.

Drawing from her own experiences in her personal life and her work with hundreds of married couples, Dr. Alexandra explores common challenges couples face, such as libido mismatch and ineffective communication. She shares practical strategies for men to improve how they approach the topic of sex with their partners, ensuring their methods are inviting rather than off-putting.

Episode highlights:

• Emotional intimacy is essential for long-term sensual and sexual satisfaction in relationships.

• Addressing and dispelling myths around libido mismatch empowers couples, with a focus on women taking responsibility for their pleasure.

• How men approach the topic of sex with their partners can significantly influence their partner's receptiveness and response.

• Confidence and attunement are key when asking for sex; it's important to let go of entitlement and resentment from previous rejections.

Read Dr. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

Sign up for the Masterclass "How to Ask Your Woman for Sex (so she's more likely to say YES)" www.alexandrastockwell.com/yes

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Get your copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra's bestselling book, "Uncompromising Intimacy," here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book

Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra's proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com

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Making assumptions impacts intimacy and connection in marriage in crucial ways. In this week's episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell discusses why assumptions are dangerous; she teaches that the act of getting curious and asking questions is a small but powerful alternative to making potentially inaccurate assumptions.

Opening up about true feelings and desires will create clear communication with your partner, thus avoiding invisible barriers in your marriage brought on by making assumptions.

This episode teaches you to recognize your assumptions, in order to uncover the real truths about your and your partner's feelings, preferences, and love languages. Embracing this honest communication will transform your marital bond and lead you toward true passion and uncompromising intimacy.

Tips in this episode:

• Assumptions lead to misinterpretations of a partner's desires and intentions, which causes unnecessary conflict.

• Address assumptions by engaging in open conversations in order to accurately understand a partner's thoughts, feelings, and preferences.

• Directly discussing love languages provides significant insights and helps you tailor your actions so they resonate with your partner.

• Recognizing and questioning internal assumptions elevates personal understanding and fosters genuine connection with self and others.

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Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra's proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com

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Affection is one of the most valuable ways to connect in a relationship, and in this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell talks about its importance and how couples can revive affection in marriage. Whether affection in your marriage is dwindling, or you're looking to establish it for the first time, this episode provides a roadmap to enhance your emotional and physical connection through reviving affection.

Dr. Alexandra emphasizes the importance of clear communication, discussing desires openly as a couple, and stripping affection of any transactional nature, especially tied to sexual intimacy. She shares insightful, effective strategies to reinvigorate touch and tenderness in your marital relationship.

Tips in this episode:

• Don't wait for your partner to read your mind. Be the first to extend affection in a calibrative, gentle manner that suits your current relationship dynamic.

• Have a conversation with your partner about wanting more affection, ensuring you both are aligned so it doesn't come as a surprise when you start touching more.

• Redefine affection as an end in itself, not just a prelude to sexual activity. Enjoy the intimacy of simple, non-sexual touches.

• Engage in an exercise where each partner showcases the type of affection they prefer, promoting mutual understanding and harmony in touch.

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Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra's proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: www.alignedhotmarriage.com

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