This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major causes of problems in children. On the other hand, newer research suggests that kids are fine coming from divorced families, and in fact may even be more resilient and capable of handling life’s challenges. If you really think divorce is going to mess up your kids, think again…

Timestamps:

• The erroneous assumption that comes along with divorce statistics [3:30]
• What is the real issue here? [8:40]
• The problem with divorce/marriage research [12:20]
• What I suggest you do if you are in a dead marriage [15:40]

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What can you learn from divorced people and what can you learn from people who have been married for a decade or two? What are the main differences? There are two and we cover them in this episode with author Mark Manson. We also explore how Mark navigated a big challenge with his now wife and why self-improvement and self-awareness are so essential to long-term partnership.

Timestamps:

• 1:03 - Episode introduction
• 4:36 - Mark Manson's backstory
• 8:52 - Common issues and challenges
• 10:42 - Healthy boundaries
• 15:28 - How important is it for couples to have friends outside their relationship?
• 17:13 - Challenges in marriage and how to get through them
• 26:04 - Is respect more important than communication?
• 31:17 - How school ill prepares us for life
• 33:57 - What can we learn from people who have been divorced?
• 36:50 - Cultivating self-awareness
• 40:38 - Mark's preferred methods of introspection
• 42:54 - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
• 46:24 - Action Steps

Links:

• Mark Manson's website
• Masterclass Library
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Explore the wilderness of Colorado with Jayson and Ellen in this upcoming episode. Their backpacking adventure takes an unexpected turn which leads to thought-provoking insights about human interactions, relationships, and the delicate balance between self-expression and consideration for others. Tune in to this discussion that will inspire you to reflect on your own interactions and the impact of your actions on those around you.

Timestamps:

• 4:04 - The story of the misattuned camper
• 11:38 - How our behavior impacts others
• 17:32 - Why our relationship to others matters
• 20:34 - Standing for three
• 21:48 - Keeping each other in mind

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This week Jayson welcomes back a returning guest and good friend, Mark Divine. Together, they discuss the stages of human development, emphasizing the importance of maturing, resolving emotional issues, and achieving full integration as individuals. They cover diverse aspects, from self-connection to various spiritual paths, authentic leadership, and simplifying life for a more meaningful existence. Join Jayson and Mark for a journey into personal evolution and a reflection on the impact of technology on relationships.

Timestamps:

• 0:46 - Guest introduction
• 7:04 - Levels of development
• 9:33 - The five stages
• 17:12 - Relational development
•  20:41 - Four frameworks
• 25:28 - Working on yourself through relationship
• 27:34 - Spiritual development
• 30:56 - Doing relational work as a man
• 36:18 - Moving from doing to being
• 39:14 - Is distraction a defense mechanism?
• 41:56 - Being present with your kids
• 45:11 - Digital distractions
• 51:51 - Making Integral Theory digestible
• 54:59 - Dissolving polarity
• 58:46 - Escaping the maze of victimhood
• 1:02:17 - What are Mark and Jayson up to currently?
• 1:05:54 - Action steps

Links:

• #281 - Lessons From A Navy Seal During Tough Times - Mark Divine
• Mark Divine's Website
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Join Jayson and Ellen as they discuss insights from a transformative two-day retreat. From conflict management to embracing the unknown, they uncover using relationships as a path to self-discovery. Tune in for an authentic journey of growth that reshapes your view on human connections.

Timestamps:

• 2:28 - What happens on a two day retreat with Jayson?
• 9:53 - Accepting challenges as learning experiences
• 13:20 - Don't lose your relationship to yourself
• 16:31 - What does Buddhism have to say about ending the cycle of suffering?
• 21:06 - What is The Path?
• 23:37 - What makes relationships a good development path?
• 26:11 - How long does it take for someone to understand relationship as a development path?
• 28:33 - Action steps

Links:

• Relationship As A Path Foundations Course
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In this episode, Jayson discusses the importance of finding the right coach or therapist. He also explains why you should identify your readiness for change and clarify your specific problem before seeking help. Learn why you should prioritize practitioners who are not only trained in the area you’re targeting but also actively involved in their own personal growth. Find out how to spot the real gems among personal recommendations, endorsements, and online reviews. If money is an issue, Jayson has a great question to ask.

Timestamps:

• 1:41 - Questions you need to ask as a client
• 11:17 - Couples work or individual work?
• 13:26 - Hire a specialist
• 15:57 - Find a therapist who is doing the work
• 17:41 - Results matter
• 20:16 - Good therapists and coaches get supervision
• 23:09 - How much personal experience does a coach or therapist need?
• 29:41 - How much should therapists reveal about their personal lives?
• 32:23 - Reputation
• 33:59 - Does paying more equal better therapy?
• 37:16 - Action step

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• Apply to Relationship Coach Training
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Uncover the captivating blend of art and science in relationship coaching. Join Jayson as he guides the way, painting a masterpiece of understanding, growth, and authenticity. Discover the science behind lasting happiness and the significance of deep connections for a fulfilling life. It's not just about belonging; it's about being truly known and loved. Step into a transformative adventure, mastering the art and science of coaching. Embrace your evolution, becoming a beacon of connection in a world craving relational leaders. Enroll in Relationship Coach Training now at relationshipschool.com/RCT. Start your transformative journey today, and become a catalyst for thriving, authentic relationships.

Timestamps:

• 0:48 - What is relationship coaching and why is it important?
• 4:23 - The art of relationship coaching
• 12:31 - The power of the here and now
• 16:08 - The science of relationship coaching
• 17:04 - What we know about human fulfillment and life satisfaction
• 19:29 - The ACEs study
• 25:51 - Should you become a relationship coach?

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• Apply to Relationship Coach Training
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In our latest episode, Jayson talks with Layne Norton, a distinguished figure in health, fitness, and personal development. Listen to their candid discussion on compassionate communication, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy relationships. Layne's emphasis on breaking free from restrictive food rules and embracing a balanced, joyful relationship with nourishment reflects his dedication to empowering individuals to achieve their health goals. Watch this inspiring episode to learn more and discover how exercise and weightlifting can transform your life, especially after age 40.

Timestamps:

• 0:45 - Introduction
• 3:33 - How did Layne Norton get into evidence-based fitness and nutrition?
• 7:37 - Areas to focus on for long-term health
• 9:55 - How to avoid eating too much
• 13:05 - How tracking your food intake can help you make better choices
• 15:35 - How do you measure food?
• 20:54 - The ACEs study
• 30:25 - Empathy and accountability
• 32:40 - How important is doing the inner work in terms of health?
• 35:10 - How did Layne's experiences with bullying impact his life trajectory
• 42:45 - Why is exercise so important for people over 40?
• 51:30 - Layne's thoughts on food rules
• 1:01:00 - Why is fiber important?
• 1:07:40 - Just start doing the little things
• 1:09:55 - Layne's relationship advice for high-school students
• 1:12:00 - Where can people find Layne?
• 1:13:10 - Action steps

Links:

• Layne Norton's Website
• Carbon — Smart Diet Coach
• Follow Layne Norton on Instagram
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Are you ready to break free from the chains of victimhood and embrace empowerment? Join Jayson and Ellen in this episode as they dive deep into the complexities of fault versus responsibility. They also discuss the struggle between victimhood and authorship. Explore empowering perspectives, real-life stories, and learn how to transform challenges into personal growth opportunities. You won't want to miss this as they challenge the norms compassionately, fostering self-reflection and self-discovery without blame. Find out what got Ellen saying "Honey, We Should Have Talked Before You Posted.”

Timestamps:

• 0:53 - Fault vs. responsibility
• 3:25 - Context
• 7:00 - Why do people get attached to their victim stance?
• 16:51 - Finding your part in painful experiences
• 27:48 - Learning about yourself through painful experiences
• 32:43 - When to take responsibility
• 35:23 - Why does resilience vary between people?
• 43:00 - What you gain by transcending your pain
• 45:43 - Dealing with victim dynamics as a coach or a therapist
• 51:20 - How Jayson deals with his victim consciousness
• 54:09 - Personal development vs. forgiveness
• 58:58 - Moving from victim to author

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• Apply to Relationship Coach Training
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A brave, smart couple shares their darkest period and how they worked through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years and then adds in a child to the mix will pretty much get rocked. Tripp (host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp) and Alyson (psychotherapist, relationship coach) share what happened and how they got through it. From their day-to-day check-ins, emotional distance, and meltdowns to transforming their sex life after kids, we imagine you’ll be amazed and inspired, and hopefully you will walk away with some actionable practices you can implement in your own relationship. 

Timestamps:

• 7:40 - Guest introductions
• 10:08 - How did Tripp and Alyson meet?
• 22:23 - How to deal with it when things are "off"
• 28:09 - Learning from conflict
• 31:55 - Learning curiousity
• 32:40 - Challenging moments
• 50:53 - Advice for getting through hard times
• 1:01:03 - How to keep your sex life alive
• 1:21:10 - Where to find Alyson and Tripp
• 1:22:47 - Action steps  

Links:

• The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp
• AlysonLanier.com
• TrippLanier.com
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