The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Ellen Boeder interviews Johannah Reimer to find out how women can help teen girls. They discuss the unique problems that teen girls face today, the evolutionary mismatch between the environments we evolved in and modern life, the importance of doing hard things and Johannah’s Girls Group Facilitator Training, “Pathways to Womanhood”which is about guiding and supporting girls on their journey to womanhood.

Johannah is a soulcentric educator, ceremonialist, teen mentor, and an artist of many trades. Trained as a Waldorf teacher, Johannah has been working with children of all ages for over 20 years and holds a particular passion for tweens/teens striving to meet their developmental needs for mentorship and initiation in a culture that has forgotten how to do so. An apprentice of visionaries: Sage Hamilton and Melissa Michaels of SOMA Source, Johannah has worked for many years as a Waldorf teacher under the guidance of her elder Sage, and as an embodied leader for international youth in movement based Rites of Passage with Golden Bridge & Golden Girls Global.

Timestamps:

• 5:33 - Johannah's path to becoming an educator
• 13:19 - Why create girls' groups
• 26:56 - Evolutionary mismatch
• 30:20 - The value of doing hard things
• 34:22 - Becoming an entrepreneur
• 37:55 - What will people take from the training?
• 43:26 - Advice for teenage girls

Links:

• Free Workshop on Becoming a Village Auntie
• Pathways to Womanhood ~ Girls Group Facilitator Training
• Johannah Reimer's Instagram
• My Relationship Coach (MRC)
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Jayson opens up about his recent prostate cancer diagnosis. He talks about the causes of cancer, letting people’s care in and his recommendations for how men should monitor their health as they age. This episode is a PSA for men over 40, if you haven’t been screened for cancer, now is the time.

Timestamps:

• 2:16 - Jayson's experience
• 6:34 - Causes of cancer
• 9:01 - Letting people's care in
• 12:15 - Recommendations for men over 40

Links:

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IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn:

• To see your partner as a sacred mirror and sanctuary for the growing your greatest actualized self
• The true characteristics of a long-term partnership
• How your partnership is the optimal container for complete transformation of yourself into the highest possible version imaginable
• How to fall in love and why this is more important than being married
• How to take radical responsibility for being loved in every moment of your life
• How to actually get your needs/wants met in a partnership
• How to know if conflict in your relationship is driving you toward or away from more magnificence

There’s a ton in this episode so dive in and go slow.

And, Here’s a great question from Annie to ask yourself if you are trying to decide to stay or leave:

Is the person I’m being called to become by what my partner’s asking me to become (if you take on the growth-development framework), will you become a more extraordinary version of yourself? If who they are asking you to become is a constricted, small, tight version of you, then this is probably not the person you want to be with.

However, if you identify as the smaller version of you, then, you are going to hear your partner’s feedback as criticism and blame and might make them wrong in the process. So, pay attention to these finer points.

Timestamps:

• 1:47 - What are we getting into when we say yes to long-term relationships?
• 6:04 - Becoming the best version of yourself
• 9:49 - Annie's story
• 16:48 - Taking responsibility when we don't feel loved
• 21:35 - Getting out of your victimhood
• 30:34 - When to leave

Links:

• Annie Lalla – Love Coach for Singles & Couples
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Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. Gabor Maté brings some very grounded, practical examples of how relationship stress can impact our lives. The result of stress can be seen throughout the web of our life and it’s up to us to learn how to relate and attach well to our fellow humans. I love how this man turns such complicated topics into common sense. If you want a deeper cut about your marriage, children, or any stressful relationship, this episode is a must listen.

SHOWNOTES

• What happens when Gabor’s wife forgets to pick him up at the airport. [8:30]
• How our partners are perfectly suited to help us grow. [10:35]
• What happened in Gabor’s childhood that makes his wife a perfect match for him now. [13:00]
• The long-term cost of not dealing with stress. [15:00]
• How parents can be compromised by raising their children. [17:30]
• The link between our relationship health and our physical and mental health. [19:30]
• What’s the best way to deal with our own relational and attachment issues? [29:00]
• Why relational healing modalities are so effective. [30:00]
• What we can learn from pygmy cultures about parenting and relationships. [32:30]
• How relationship can most effectively be taught to children. [34:00]
• The effect of Facebook and Internet on kids. [38:00]

Links:

• My Relationship Coach (MRC)
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• Addiction Expert, Speaker and Best-selling Author Dr. Gabor Maté (drgabormate.com)
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Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process.

Timestamps:

• 2:01 - Couples not making progress
• 7:36 - Doing the work
• 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples

Links:

• The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership
• U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850
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Irka and Eugene join Jayson to talk non-monogamy. Is monogamy inherently restrictive? Do people in polyamorous relationships have boundaries? Is non-hierarchical polyamory possible? What role does sexual exploration play in a polyamorous relationship? Is non-monogamy for you? Whether you’re monogamous or not, you’ll find plenty of wisdom in this insightful conversation.

Timestamps:

• 8:45 - Definitions and terms
• 11:40 - Boundaries
• 19:52 - Thirds
• 34:09 - Is monogamy inherently restrictive?
• 37:39 - Sexual exploration
• 42:27 - Is non-monogamy for you?
• 51:03 - Communication
• 53:51 - Advice for high school kids
• 57:45 - Links
• 59:15 - Action step

Links:

• Covalent Life
• Ethical Monogamy
• My Relationship Coach (MRC)
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In this podcast, I interview Satyen and Suzanne, both long-time students of David Deida. These two are super honest, loving individuals, and wow have they been through a lot! There share some very vulnerable details about how they navigated religion, affairs, and fighting. They give you concrete practical tools you can try right now with your partner. These guys live it!

SHOWNOTES

• How did Satyen and Suzanne start caring about relationships? [4:27]
• Why did Satyen resist marriage? [7:00]
• What ingredient was the “it” factor for Suzanne’s attraction to Satyen? [7:44]
• What role did religion play in their relationship? [10:42]
• How did fighting about food bring them closer? [12:15]
• What impact did David Deida have on their connection? [14:28]
• How did they create a new template for their relationship? [16:06]
• The most challenging period of their relationship [18:02]
• One really important practice to heal from infidelity [20:15]
• Satyen and Suzanne demonstrate a powerful tool to express emotional pain to your partner [26:30]
• The often-missed key to understanding your partner [32:43]
• What is PCP and ISE and how do they create connection and turn-on? [34:50]

Links:

• FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships
• Enroll in Relationship Mastery
• U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850
• http://warriorsage.com
• http://ignitepassionnow.tv
• http://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com
• http://dyad.org
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Satyen and Suzanne are the authorities on relationship – passionately intwined for twenty-seven years and sought after by people over the the world for their powerful and cutting edge trainings. With over two decades of study, teaching and facilitation in this area, they have taught tens of thousands of singles and couples the art of creating passionate, juicy intimacy that lasts a lifetime.

A living demonstration of a couple who are continually re-igniting their spark, passion and love, Satyen and Suzanne practically distill what for many can be a confusing, frustrating and even painful topic down to its very workable, irresistible essence. Whether on radio, tv or in auditoriums of thousands, their style is provocative, inspiring, and above all, full of practical wisdom. They have a unique gift for hearing what lies beneath your questions, and giving you answers that convey deep truths with incredible heart. Never shy of controversy, they are willing to take conventional wisdom to task where it falls short in order to help you learn and live the most effective relationship skills.

Satyen and Suzanne are committed to, and superlatively skilled at, saying the things that no one else says, going places that no one else goes — so that you can have the hot, deep, loving, passionate relationship that you deserve…starting now!

http://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com

Jayson shares his thoughts on the controversy surrounding popular podcaster Andrew Huberman. What can we learn about ourselves and our relationships from the online reaction to the recent revelations about Andrew Huberman? What are you projecting onto the authority figures in your life? Are you putting people in your life on a pedestal, and how will you react when they inevitably fail you?

Timestamps:

• 2:17 - What can we learn from the Andrew Huberman situation?
• 5:24 - Pedestal to pit
• 13:55 - Are you projecting on to authority figures?

Links:

• FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships
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Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you’ll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you’ll run away and play the victim. Direct and to the point, I suggest a very important daily practice for you to strengthen your mindset about long-term partnership. Pain hurts indeed. And, what if pain was your ally in disguise?

Relationship Pain Daily Practice

I have two choices with my relationship pain:

1. Use it to make me weaker by whining, complaining, and blaming others (or myself).
2. Use it to make me stronger by seeing it as my ally to master the lesson it’s bringing me.

It’s 100% of the time up to me to choose.

Timestamps:

• 3:15 - Two choices when it comes to relationship pain
• 9:32 - The first thing to NOT do when in relationship pain
• 13:40 - The good news about pain and stress
• 19:40 - The link between your emotional pain and your numbing habits
• 24:37 - Action step

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• The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership
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Are you simply defaulting to monogamy?

Have you ever genuinely asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?"

Dan Savage, an author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster, and public speaker, suggests that we should all regularly pose these questions to ourselves. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've acknowledged that it's impossible to fulfill all of your partner's needs, and that's a message from which we can all learn.

While we typically focus on monogamous long-term relationships, in this episode, we'll explore how various types of relationships can be successful. Tune in and prepare for some introspection into your own sexual expression.

Timestamps:

• 5:00 - What does monogamish mean?
• 11:27 - Eroticism in a long-term relationship
• 17:24 - Bringing in a third
• 23:37 - Monogamy as the default setting
• 31:00 - Changing broken marraige norms
• 33:50 - Dan's relationship journey
• 46:49 - Allowing for erotic autonomy
• 53:57 - Dan's advice for young people
• 59:00 - Action step

Links:

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• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
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