Responding Well Under Pressure (0:00:00)

 

9/11 was a horrific day in our country, but it was not the first terrorist attack from Al Qaeda the US has faced. Less than a year prior, on October 12th 2000, the USS Cole was bombed off the coast of Yemen. In this tragic attack, we lost 17 sailors and 37 more were injured, yet through the heroic efforts of the crew & commander they were able to save the ship and minimize further casualties. That commander was Kirk Lippold, and we are honored to be speaking with him today, in recognition of the 20th anniversary of the terrorist attack. Since the event, Kirk has been all across the country teaching people how to respond well under pressure and what good leadership looks like. We are excited to hear about some of his knowledge and expertise today.

 

 

 

Supporting Veterans (0:19:40)

 

Army strong-we’ve all heard the slogan. It’s the slogan of those who have dedicated our lives to supporting us and protecting our freedoms. However, many of our returned soldiers face a less than smooth transition when they return home. Our veteran population is at risk for homelessness, PTSD, and mental illness among other things. The good news is, there are things we can do to help. Here to discuss how we can be strong for the army and meaningfully support our veterans is Director of VA Northern California Health Care System, David Stockwell.

 

 

 

 

Wounded Warrior Project (0:39:53)

 

Our veterans experience things none of us could ever imagine, and we’re so grateful for their sacrifice. But what do they really go through when they come home and what support do they need? Today we’re joined by retired Sergeant Deven Schei who served in Afghanistan but was sent home after being injured by four 80-millimeter rockets. Since then he has gone through an intense recovery process and become an inspirational spokesperson for the Wounded Warrior Project. He joins us today to discuss his story, helping veterans, and the organization that’s empowering them.

 

 

 

K9s for Warriors (0:52:50)

 

They say a dog is a man’s best friend. And for thousands of military veterans, nothing is truer than that. At least 20 veterans who served after the 9/11 attacks commit suicide daily. To combat veteran suicide and the traumatic impact of PTSD, an organization called K9s for Warriors has been pairing veterans with rescued shelter dogs. These dogs are then trained to be service dogs for their human counterparts. Joining us today is Greg Wells, the Manager of Programs at K9s for Warriors. He joins us to talk about how these service dogs are helping veterans.

 

 

 

 

Trees for Troops (1:28:42)

 

We are quickly approaching the holidays, which means we get to spend more time with our family. However, for deployed military troops, this is not the case. Many will be away from home this season. So, what can we do to show our support and gratitude for those who serve our country and are unable to be with their family during the holidays? Well, you might consider joining with Trees for Troops and sending Christmas trees to our soldiers and their families. Here to tell us about this organization and how we can help is the executive director of Trees for Troops, Rick Dungey.

Jessica Bonjorni explains how to support veterans, Dr. Steven Stosny teaches how to recover from election stress, Dr. Claudia Schneider talks about motivating people without guilting them, Gretchen Rubin explains the benefits of anticipation, Ganel-Lyn Condie discusses fixing our understanding of forgiveness, Dr. Helen Morales explains why Dolly Parton is so easy to love..

Giving Back to Those Who Served (0:00:00)

 

Tomorrow is Veteran’s Day! We are so grateful for all that veterans have done to serve our country, and they do it all without expecting anything in return. But wouldn’t you like to show your gratitude in some way? There are a lot of different ways to express your appreciation to our veterans. And today, we’d like to particularly highlight the VA, the work being done there, and how you can help. The VA is the largest health care system in the United States, providing a variety of needs to over 9 million veterans enrolled. Here to talk with us about how we can get involved and help our veterans, is Jessica Bonjorni, Chief of Human Capital Management for the Veterans Health Administration.

 

 

 

Post-Election Self-Care (0:17:37)

 

For the past 7 days, the country has waited anxiously to hear the announcement that we have a victor in the presidential election. Not knowing the fate of the country has led to a lot of stress. According to our next guest, psychologist Steven Stosny, our emotions surrounding the presidential race are a result of election stress disorder. And it was impacting an especially high number of people this year. Despite the outcome and the stress that either precedes or follows it, we all need a to take some time to take care for ourselves. The election has taken a toll on all of us, and we’ve been spending too much time worrying about it. Here to tell us more about election stress disorder and how to care for ourselves is Dr. Steven Stosny.

 

 

 

Motivating People without Guilt Trips (0:34:14)

 

The past summer has been a tumultuous start to the new decade. It began with a global pandemic, seemed to crescendo with the Black Lives Matter protests, and culminated with the recent declaration of a winner in the US elections. These events have raised questions of not only how to approach such issues, but also how to motivate other people to become involved in solutions—especially when no direct personal benefit might be derived from being involved. This “pro-social” mindset can be difficult to nurture in the public at large but recent research has shown that there are specific factors that can foster pro-social behavior or discourage it. Here to discuss these factors is behavioral scientist and researcher at the Cambridge Social Decision-Making Laboratory, Dr. Claudia Schneider.

 

 

 

The Benefits of Anticipation (0:52:46)

 

When’s the last time that you were so excited for something you couldn’t sleep the night before? For most of us, it might have been years. I think one of the best things about little kids is how excited they can get. No one knows how to anticipate things like kids do. And turns out, anticipation might be the thing that makes experiences that much sweeter. While I know it might seem difficult to find things to look forward to, it’s not impossible! Here to tell us more about what anticipation can do for us is happiness expert Gretchen Rubin.

 

 

 

What Forgiveness Is and Isn’t (1:13:46)

 

Forgiving someone who has hurt you is easier said than done. And sometimes it feels like the bridge will never be mended and the relationship never the same. But extending the olive branch is necessary, at least for us and our ability to heal if not for the person who has caused us pain. So, if we need to forgive to move on, how do we do it without betraying ourselves and our true feelings? Here to help us understand the tools of forgiveness so we can look towards the future with optimism and positivity is friend of the show, motivational speaker, and author Ganel-Lyn Condie.

 

 

 

Pilgrimage to Dollywood (1:28:00)

 

There are some people in this world who are universally liked. I don’t know what it is about them, but they seem to have a quality that draws anyone and everyone in. Dolly Parton is one of these people. Well today, we are excited to speak with Dr. Helen Morales—a professor at UC Santa Barbara, a Dolly Parton expert, and the author of Pilgrimage to Dollywood. She joins us to discuss why it is that everyone loves the country singer so much, as well as to hear her personal journey of making it Dollywood.

Dr. Keshia Porter gives tips for keeping kids active in the pandemic, Carrie Ann Rhodes teaches how to focus on gratitude, Marissa Sebastian explains how to empower girls, Prince Ghuman discusses The Social Dilemma documentary on Netflix, Laura Fuentes explains the lesser-known obstacles to starting a business.

Keeping Kids Active During Online School (0:00:00)

 

As a parent myself, I can relate to all you moms and dads out there who have struggled to watch your kids spend hours staring at a computer screen for school. The pandemic and remote schooling have robbed our kids of P.E, recess, after school sports, and many other physical activities that had been part of their daily routine. So, what can we do to help keep our kids healthy and active during this time of social distancing? Lucky for us, we are talking to Dr. Keshia Pollack Porter, Professor at John Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, about this very topic. 

 

 

 

Practicing Gratitude (0:35:32)

 

As wonderful as the holidays are, at times it can be hard to keep that in perspective. All the stress of holiday cooking, and holiday shopping, and holiday family bonding time are opportunities for friction and little fires. Maybe it’s something your sexist Uncle Jim said or the turkey you’ve just spent 5 hours cooking burned, or half of the guests showed up late. Whatever it is, there’s bound to be something this holiday season that gets under your skin. Which is exactly why we should be practicing gratitude this holiday season and focusing on positive outcomes. Here to discuss how to focus on positive experiences this holiday season is friend of the show, Carrie Ann Rhodes.

 

 

 

Girls Can! (0:52:47)

 

When I was a little girl there were a lot of things that girls supposedly “couldn’t” do. Girls can’t get dirty at recess, girls can’t be as strong as boys, girls can’t run for president. What if instead, we told our girls all the great things they can do? A new book is trying to do that—with GIRLS CAN! Smash Stereotypes, Defy Expectations, and Make History! Here to tell us more about what Girls Can! Is achieving is one of the co-authors, Marissa Sebastian!

 

 

 

The Social Dilemma (1:07:55)

 

Who listening has had the chance to watch the Social Dilemma documentary? Whether you’ve seen it or not, the evolution of social media platforms has brought up dozens of debates on what’s ethical and what’s not in marketing. Joining us today is Prince Ghuman, CEO of neuromarketing company PopNeuro, here with us to talk about marketing, social media, and the neurological effects of both.

 

 

 

What They Don’t Tell You about Entrepreneurship (1:28:23)

 

Starting a business can be both intimidating and overwhelming if you’ve never done it before, especially if you’re taking the risk of leaving your current job to do it. While you get advice from friends, books and the internet, much of your learning comes from hands-on experience. And unfortunately, there are still aspects of entrepreneurship that can catch you by surprise. So, we invited an expert on the matter to share what she’s learned from experience as an entrepreneur, former corporate woman and now CEO of her own business MOMables . . . Laura Fuentes.

Ashley Smith explains the pros and cons of MLM's, Dr. Lubna Somjee gives relationship tips for multi-cultural couples, Dr. Maya Rossignac-Milon explains how to click with strangers, Nancy Spangler discusses breaking through mental health stigma at work, Lisa and Richie talk about what there is to do this weekend.

Are MLMs Right for You? (0:00:00)

 

Whether it’s pest control, makeup, or solar panels, we’ve all come in contact with a multi-level marketing business, or MLM for short. Many of these companies get a bad rap for their recruitment model and often-aggressive selling techniques. They make us think of the pushy door-to-door salesman who comes around trying to sell us pest control or a new internet provider for ridiculous prices. But are they all bad? And what should you know if you’re interested in working for one of these companies? Joining us this morning is Ashley Smith, an attorney from Salt Lake City, here with us to discuss multi-level marketing businesses and how to determine if they’re a good fit for you.

 

 

 

Ovehttps://www.byuradio.org/admin/episodes/edit/ebe7c822-430b-4da3-91b2-e625bb45b747?playhead=1240&autoplay=truercoming Cultural Differences in a Relationship (0:20:40)

 

When you’re in a relationship, some of the hardest things you’ll typically have to deal with are differing interests or hobbies, meeting the parents, and busy schedules that make it hard to make time for each other. But for inter-cultural couples, these issues seem like a piece of cake. Couples facing cultural differences like different traditions, religions, languages, and customs can make their relationship extra trying. So how do you ease the stress and deal with these deep divides when you’re in an inter-cultural relationship? Here to share some of her personal experience and advice with us is Dr. Lubna Somjee.

 

 

 

How to Make Strangers Click (0:34:43)

 

It’s likely happened to all of us—that undeniable feeling of just “clicking” with a total stranger. Maybe you met in class, on the subway, or in a café. But regardless of the context, when you struck up a conversation with this person you’ve never met before, you instinctually knew you were going to be best friends. The fact that such an experience has happened to so many of us suggests there might be a reason behind the magnetic pull we feel with some people. Here to discuss why strangers click and a concept called “shared reality” is Dr. Maya Rossignac-Milon, Post-Doctoral Research Scholar at Columbia Business School.

 

 

 

Mental Health in the Workplace (0:52:46)

 

Over the past few years, we’ve been talking more and more about mental health. But is there still a taboo in the workplace? Mental health can have a huge impact on your performance at work—but it isn’t something we necessarily feel comfortable talking to our bosses about. However, the events of this year have caused many people’s mental health to dip into anxiety, depression, and unmanageable stress. It’s more important than ever that we talk about it. So, whether we’re a boss or employee, what can we do to approach conversations about mental health in the workplace? Here to share her thoughts with us is Nancy Spangler.

 

 

 

Weekend Review (1:28:54)

 

Lisa and Richie talk about what there is to do this weekend, from the new shows coming to streaming services to the New York Times bestseller list to what’s going on in your community.

National Adoption Month (0:00:00)

 

Currently, there are over 140 million children in orphanages worldwide. While many people want to adopt, they know the process is extensive and difficult. Because the problem has become so big and overwhelming, most people don’t even know what they can do to help. Today, we are excited to speak to Nathan Gwilliam, CEO and founder of Adoption.com, which has become the world’s most-used site for adoption services.

 

 

 

Making Your Office Happier (0:14:46)

 

Don’t you just feel like you’re more distracted while working at home? It seems like there’s more things to distract me at home than there would be at my office. Even though working at home can be nice, it can also have a negative impact on our productivity. Actually, a lot of the habits we develop, whether at home or at the office, can make or break our success at work. How can we curb these habits and make our workplace a more productive and happier place? Here to tell us about it is psychologist Thalma Lobel.

 

 

 

Practicing Self-Compassion (0:52:50)

 

I usually find it easy to give someone else the benefit of the doubt. I’m not one to hold grudges! But when it comes to myself, I can be my own harshest critic. I think a lot of people feel the same way—going easy on someone else is one thing, but when it comes to giving yourself a break... that can be difficult. Especially during such anxiety inducing times, I think it’s about time we practice a little more self-compassion. So what can we do to practice self-compassion? Here to talk us through it is Kristin Neff, author and pioneer of self-compassion research.

 

 

 

Mini Book Club: Escapist Books (1:10:09)

 

Rachel Wadham, of BYU Radio’s Worlds Awaiting, talks with Lisa and Richie about the best books to help us leave it all behind.

 

 

 

Money Saving Apps (1:29:58)

 

Saving money and keeping track of finances as an adult can be very complicated. But lucky for us, we have so many tools and resources at our fingertips. Just pull out your smartphone and you’ll find dozens of apps created solely for the purpose of helping you save money. So, which ones should you download? Here to walk us through some of the best money-saving apps is Jen Smith, money-saving guru and founder of Modern Frugality.

Josh Klapow gives his advice on social media fasting, Elizabeth Schroeder explains the dangers of sexualizing children, Nicholas Boothman breaks down how to make people like you virtually, Tamara Greenberg shares how we can help people with dementia, and Michele Portlock tells us how we can navigate the autism spectrum.

Social Media Fasting (0:00:00)

Social media can feel suffocating. Not only is it a way for teenagers to chat; rather, it has become a key component in the way our society transfers information. Despite how important it is, social media can have serious negative effects on our mental health. Licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Joshua Klapow shares the benefits of trying a social media fast. 

 

Dangers of Sexualizing Children (0:24:00)

While we want to protect our children for as long as we can, it isn't possible to protect them forever. So how can parents be both guides and protectors for children as they try to navigate the adult world? Dr. Elizabeth Schroeder, children's counselor and sexuality educator, shares her advice. 

 

How to Make People Like You Virtually (0:51:58)

Getting to know and bond with work colleagues can be intimidating-- and even more so in the midst of a global pandemic. Now that most of us are working out of the office, it seems like we are having to work extra hard to form virtual relationships with our coworkers. Nicholas Boothman joins us to share how we can charm clients and colleagues from the other side of a screen. 

 

Helping People with Dementia (1:12:12)

Millions of Americans suffer from dementia and Alzheimer's, but there is much we still don't know. Taking care of someone with one of the two diseases can be difficult and frustrating, but licensed psychologist Tamara Greenberg shares healthy ways to support a loved one suffering with dementia or Alzheimer's and yourself at the same time. 

 

Navigating the Spectrum (1:27:38)

After hearing your child's diagnosis of an autism spectrum disorder, adjusting your family's at-home life can be difficult and overwhelming. Not only are you helping your child manage their disorder, but your family must learn how to interact with and support them. Michele Portlock, founder of Navigating the Spectrum, discusses how to create a successful at-home environment with a child with autism.