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In this episode we’re joined by Sandra Parker, founder of Just The Tonic Coaching, who knows first-hand what it’s like to be a high-functioning drinker. After a successful career in finance, Sandra changed her own relationship with alcohol and now helps others take back control.

We explore why alcohol is so deeply ingrained in our culture, the emotional patterns that keep us reaching for a drink, and whether changing your relationship with alcohol has to mean giving it up altogether. We also get into the idea of indifference, getting to a place where alcohol no longer occupies your thoughts or dictates your choices. 

So, whether you’re sober curious, thinking about cutting back, or simply wondering whether alcohol is giving you as much as it’s taking away, this episode is for you.

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In this episode we’ve got some really exciting news to share with you. After teasing this for what feels like forever, we can finally tell you that we’ve written a book! It’s called Couplepause and it’s coming out this November.

We wrote it because we talk so much about menopause, andropause and midlife, but one of the things that often gets overlooked is what happens to our relationships during this season of life. We’re navigating changing hormones, stress, shifting identities, intimacy and all the pressures that midlife throws at us, often without really understanding what’s going on.

We wanted to give couples practical tools to help them understand each other better, communicate more effectively and, hopefully, come out the other side feeling closer than ever.

So today, we’re going to tell you a little more about the book, why we wrote it, what’s inside, and what else we’ve got planned for Couplepause. Because this is about so much more than a book. It’s about helping couples realise that midlife doesn’t have to mean growing apart. It can be an opportunity to reconnect and have an amazing future together.

To be a first reader, email us at [email protected] and title the email 'Couplepause First Reader'

You can pre-order your copy of Couplepause here: https://amzn.eu/d/09BOMd00

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Do you ever feel like you’re in a constant battle with time? Always trying to find more of it and always falling short? 

If this sounds familiar, we’d encourage you to keep your mind open as you listen to this episode, and consider that the problem might not be time, but our relationship with it.

This week we’re joined by Lissa Figgins, a scaling strategist and podcast host from the US, to talk about time from a Christian perspective — and the difference between managing our time and actually stewarding it.

We talk about why modern life has left so many of us feeling constantly behind, the impact of technology, and why asking ‘what is it time for?’ might be a much better question than ‘how do I fit everything in? 

This is a really thought-provoking conversation, so let’s get into it.

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What can a hostage negotiator teach us about having better conversations?

Quite a lot, it turns out. Today we're joined by Nicky Perfect, a former police hostage and crisis negotiator who spent years working with the police and UK government in some incredibly challenging situations -  including kidnappings, terrorist incidents and major crises.

She went on to become Director of UK Training for hostage and crisis negotiation, teaching police officers, military personnel and other professionals how to communicate in high-pressure situations.

In this episode we talk to Nicky about conflict, communication, listening, relationships and why sometimes the most important thing you can do in a difficult conversation is not to talk at all.

Because as Nicky says, connection comes before direction.

So, whether you’re in a relationship, managing a difficult conversation at work, or simply trying to communicate better with the people you care about, there’s a lot in this conversation for you.

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This week we're diving into some of the latest issues affecting our nation - from a new study questioning the booming menopause supplement industry, to whether the term ‘manopause’ is a helpful one. 

We’ll also look at what whistleblowers have been saying about the rapid development of AI and of course, those extraordinary political donations to Reform.

But amongst all the noise, uncertainty and division, we’ll share why we believe there is also a growing sense of hope.

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Have you ever wondered why, in your 40s or 50s, you suddenly don't seem to cope with the stress the way you used to? Is it just getting older, is it hormones, or is it something much deeper happening inside your nervous system?

In this episode, we're joined by medical biochemist, central nervous system expert, and founder of Sona, Jane Ollis, to unpack the science. We explore why stress isn't actually the enemy, why recovery is becoming one of the most important health habits in midlife, what heart rate variability can tell us about our resilience, and the simple, evidence-based strategies that can help you feel calmer, healthier, and more in control. 

So whether you're feeling burnt out, or simply want to perform at your best for the decades ahead, this episode is for you.

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We've had a few weeks off over August, but while we've been away, the world hasn't exactly stood still.

So today we're having a bit of a catch-up - what's happened in the world, what's caught our attention, and what does any of it actually mean for us?

From Meta and our relationship with social media, to the new UK government, gold quietly moving from the US to London, and what's happening in the bond markets and our pensions.

We'll also touch on the idea of the 100-year life, and perhaps most importantly, what September feels like as a natural point to stop, take stock and ask: what are we going to do differently?

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Let me ask you a question. If nothing changed over the next five years - if you kept living exactly as you are today - how would you honestly feel?

It’s all easy to slip into patterns in life, so though we might be successful, busy, doing all the things we thought we were supposed to do… something feels missing.

So in today's episode, I'm talking about one of the biggest hidden challenges of midlife: how we gradually drift onto autopilot without even realising it. I'll explore why success doesn't always bring fulfilment, why the second half of life asks different questions to the first, and, most importantly, how you can start living more intentionally again.

So, if you've ever caught yourself wondering, "Is this really it?" then this episode is for you.

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Relationships can be one of the most rewarding parts of life... but they can also be one of the most confusing, especially in midlife.

Many women tell us they feel like the man they love has changed. He's become quieter, more distant, or harder to connect with. At the same time, many men say they don't even recognise themselves anymore.

So what's really going on?

In today's episode, we're joined by one of the world's leading relationship coaches and author of Cracking The Man Code, Mat Boggs, to unpack what's happening beneath the surface. We explore what women often misunderstand about men, why so many men seem to pull away in midlife, what they're actually craving in a relationship, and the communication tools that can help create deeper connection.

Whether you're in a long-term relationship or dating again in midlife, this is a practical conversation packed with insights and simple takeaways you can start using straight away.

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https://get.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/ctmc/ctmc-book

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In this episode we’re discussing whether there’s a midlife moment going on?

When we launched The Midlife Mentors podcast back in 2019, people told us using the term midlife was a bad idea as no one liked it. Midlife wasn't a fashionable subject. It was something people associated with crisis, decline or simply getting older, not a stage of life people actively wanted to talk about.

Fast forward to today and it feels like midlife is everywhere. From menopause and longevity to healthspan, hormones and even how employers think about an ageing workforce, something has definitely shifted.

So is this just a moment in the spotlight? Or are we witnessing the beginning of a genuine reinvention of the way we view midlife that's changing what we think is possible? And what exciting things might come next?

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