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Imagine being a busy Surgical Resident and experiencing an ocular emergency, resulting in urgent surgery and leaving you with little vision for months.

And then imagine your program pushing you out, ostracizing you during your recovery.

What would YOU have done?

I'm joined today by Dr Brittany Busse, and she shares this portion of her story with us, as well as how she rebuilt herself on the other side. Although most of us may not have experienced such a dramatic turn, most of the physicians I speak with can relate to feeling abandoned as humans at some point during their career. Being denied a request to decrease hours, despite having pushed hard for years. Having to fight for time off, even though it's part of your contract. What I hope you'll take away from the conversation is how allowing our emotions to be present, and constantly reframing our thoughts allowed Dr Busse to found her business where she offers a safe space, a culture of learning and wellness and support that is so needed for physicians.

To learn more about Dr Busse's work, find her in these places:
www.vitelhealth.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/brittany-busse-md-6067a8132/

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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I'm so excited to share this episode!

When I heard fellow Family Physician and Coach, Dr Joan Chan, as a guest on a podcast, I knew I had to reach out to her, and I'm so grateful to share this conversation with you.

We decided to take turns interviewing each other, because we both like to talk about our human emotions, as well as the impact of trauma on our nervous systems. Both Joan and myself use the language of trauma to describe our experiences at different points in our careers and trainings, and I don't think that we talk enough about this when we talk about physician burnout. The brain-body connections that get disrupted by trauma are real, AND, we can all learn to heal these as part of our journeys.

Come geek out with us as we talk shop on this joint episode of Ending Physician Overwhelm and The Other Human in the Room!

To find and follow Dr Joan Chan, find her in these places:
Website: joanchanmd.com
IG: joanchanmd
Podcast: The Other Human in the Room

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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Do you feel called to do something, but you've been ignoring it?

Today I'm joined by my friend, Dr Tolu Olabintan, aka "Dr O" as her patients call her. Dr Olabintan is a fellow Family Medicine Physician and she shares her story of realizing that her overworking wasn't normal, and how her curiosity led her to not only discover how to let go of this tendency, but also to listen to her inner voice, calling her to create her own clinic. It's an inspiring story!

Dr. Tolulope Olabintan, MD, AAHIVS, FAAFP, DipABLM is a Board-Certified Family Physician, Board certified with American Board of Lifestyle Medicine, and a Fellow of the American Academy of Family Physicians. She also completed a Women’s Health Fellowship and is a certified HIV specialist by the American Academy of HIV Medicine. She is fondly called by her patients as "Dr. O."

Dr. O is the Owner, Founder and CEO of Livingspring Family Medical Center, a primary care center located in Mansfield, Texas. She has over 13 years of medical experience. She helps patients live long and well as she believes the quantity of life is just as important as the quality of life. She places emphasis on lifestyle changes that help patients thrive throughout life.

Furthermore, Dr. O is a life-enthusiast, a Christian, wife, and mom who enjoys good cuisine and can’t get enough of the colors teal and orange.

To learn more about Dr O, find her in the following places, and be sure to follow her on Instagram and YouTube in particular!

Dr. O has Instagram, Facebook page, TikTok, and LinkedIn accounts. Here is the social media reference where to find Dr. Tolulope Olabintan - https://linktr.ee/drolabintan

Also, Dr. O has a YouTube channel where you may watch her collab videos with other doctors and professionals. Please like and share our videos, and subscribe to:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LHUGQEBdLV3x_1A_ef7w

Lastly, if you are looking for an awesome, thorough, and caring primary care doctor in the Mansfield Texas area, as Dr Olabintan would say “I am she!”

Livingspring Family Medical Center is located at 3807 E Broad Street, Suite 101, Mansfield, TX 76063
You may call (817) 717-9597 or go to our website:
https://www.livingspringmedicals.com/schedule

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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"The urgent are not important, and the important are never urgent." Dwight D Eisenhower, General and former President reportedly lived by this principle, and today we're diving into how "urgent" is used against us, pushing out the "important."

Yes, there are a few diatribes in here about sports physicals paperwork getting labeled "urgent." It's on my list of "ridiculous things that drive me nuts." You've got your own lists, don't judge me!

I hope this episode helps us to be clear on the need to make more things in our lives important, and to start to unlabel them as urgent, even if we have to pause ourselves first.

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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From Military Surgery training to Private Practice Owner and Author, my guest today has lived many facets of medicine.

My guest is Dr Amy Vertrees, who is a General Surgeon and Coach for Physicians, and today she shares her amazing journey. Dr Vertrees is on a mission to help us all see what we didn't learn in residency, and encourages us to build skills and practices that help us develop into more of who we want to be, both in medicine and beyond.

Join us as she drops gem tips, including how to "stop the treadmill," and what "CEO Time" can do for you.

Amy Vertrees, MD is a board-certified general surgeon, Army veteran, certified coach,
author and founder of the BOSS Business of Surgery Series. She served 17 years in
the Army, reaching the rank of lieutenant colonel, and deploying 3 times to Afghanistan
and Iraq as a general surgeon. After leaving the military, she was an employed surgeon
then created Columbia Surgical Partners, a private practice general surgery group. She
discovered there were lessons that she was never taught in residency that were
necessary for a successful surgical career. She created the BOSS Business of Surgery
Series to fill in that gap and has used everything that she has learned to become a
successful private practice general surgeon. The BOSS series includes a highly rated
podcast, group coaching and 1:1 coaching and the book “Become the BOSS MD:
Success Beyond Residency.”

Website: https://www.bosssurgery.com/
Facebook: “Become the BOSS MD Coaching”
https://www.facebook.com/groups/249619353796932
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/become_the_bossmd/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-vertrees-md-20192a8b/

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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Easier is generally gooder. Really.

I know that this is not the way many of us are used to thinking. We do hard things. We solve complicated diagnostic puzzles, we try to overcome biology and fight disease, and interact with other humans and all of their thoughts, feelings, symptoms, etc.

But don't confuse hard with virtuous, or easy with lazy.

Today we are talking all about how to start making things easier for yourself. Not everything will become easy, but many things can be run through this algorithm to decrease your stress and stop draining energy from your physical and mental batteries.

In the show I reference two resources, "The Lazy Genius Podcast," and the book "The Lazy Genius Way" by Kendra Adachi (may have butchered her name, I'm not sure). These were recommended to me by a client (Thanks!), and I am loving them, so be sure to check them out too!

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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Mental Health is NOT the absence of disease.

Today I am thrilled to be joined by Dr Jeannie Lawrence, an amazing Psychiatrist, Psychotherapist and Coach. Dr Lawrence specializes in women physicians tired of their lives looking good on the outside, but drowning inside, and we dive into all the things related to mental health and wellbeing.

Dr Lawrence is a practicing board-certified Psychiatrist as well as a Psychotherapist and Coach for Women Physicians. If she wasn't working in medicine, she'd likely be an Interior Decorator.

To learn more about Dr Lawrence and her practice, find her in these places:

Website: www.jeannielawrencemd.com 

Instagram: @dr.jeannielawrencemd 

LinkedIn: Jeannie Lawrence, MD

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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If something's important to you, truly, you will make the time for it.

True story, many episodes, when I'm not planning ahead, get recorded the day before they go live. Things are better when they don't happen that way, and I'm glad that this episode was all planned out, but it was recorded the night before as my kids bickered in their usual after-dinner-bickering way. Sigh.

We don't find time. We create time. But in order to really see this clearly, we also have to investigate what we are currently "spending" time on that isn't helping us, and decide to make a change.

You won't want to miss today's episode!

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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You can be great at medicine, and figure out how to find better balance for yourself AND still be called elsewhere.

Today I am speaking with Dr Jill Wener, an Internal Medicine Physician who transitioned from a Hospitalist role to becoming a Meditation and Emotional Freedom Technique Instructor. For her, choosing something outside of medicine wasn't an escape; it was a different calling. Listen as she shares her journey, and came to study the same tools that made a big impact on her life, so that she could bring this version of healing to others.

Jill Wener, MD is from Atlanta GA. She attended med school at Emory, internal medicine residency at University of Washington in Seattle, and then practiced hospital medicine at Rush Medical Center in Chicago for 10 years. Several years after a meditation practice vastly improved her burnout, she spent 3 months in India training to become a meditation teacher and transitioned out of clinical medicine to teach meditation full-time. During a profoundly difficult time in her personal life, Jill discovered EFT/Tapping and became a tapping practitioner a few years later. She balances her time professionally between leading meditation retreats for women in healthcare, working with her EFT/Tapping clients, and working as an anti-racism educator and DEI consultant. She currently lives in Atlanta with her husband and stepkids.

To see a video tapping demonstration guided by Dr Wener, click here: https://youtu.be/Lx4F_FSP9-M

To find out more about Jill Wener and her work find her in these places:
https://www.jillwener.com/tappingclub

CME-accredited online meditation course- https://www.theresttechnique.com/courses/meditation-for-doctors-a-guide-to-the-rest-technique

Website: www.jillwener.com
 
Instagram: @jillwenerMD
 
LinkedIn: @jillwenerMD
 
Twitter: @jillwenerMD 

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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Do you fantasize about storming out of the clinic or hospital some days, shouting expletives and never coming back? Fantasize is a strong word. Some people do daydream about this, others try to hold themselves back from doing this everyday once they've hit their BS threshold for the day. 

Many people come to coaching ready to quit their jobs. I get it, I did too. One of the most powerful outcomes of coaching on this topic is taking the time to get really clear on who you are, what you need and want, where your values are so that you make what's called a "clean decision."

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Want to contact me directly?
Email: [email protected]

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@MeganMeloMD