If you’ve ever wondered which relationship skills actually make non-monogamy easier, healthier, and less chaotic, this episode is your new favorite deep dive.

Today I’m talking with couples therapist Dr. Dan Sneider, who works with both monogamous and non-monogamous partners and brings a grounded, compassionate, very human approach to communication, trust, and emotional safety.

We get into the skills that truly make the biggest difference, including:

• How to communicate without spiraling

• How to know when you’re going too fast

• How to tell old baggage from a real relationship issue

• The 5 to 1 positivity ratio and why it matters

• What emotional safety feels like in your body

• How to navigate the sex and feelings part of non-monogamy without gaslighting each other

• Why “go slow to go fast” works every single time

Whether you’re opening up, rebuilding trust, or trying to deepen connection, this episode gives you practical, usable tools you can apply right away.

📍 Work with Dr. Dan: intimacyshift.com

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