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Parents, this one is big.

Today we’re breaking down punishment vs discipline, what science says, how it impacts your child’s brain, and why so many of us feel stuck in the cycle of punishing even when we don’t want to.

If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to yell, spank, or threaten…but it just slips out when I’m overwhelmed,” you are not alone.

Here’s what you’ll learn today:

What studies reveal about how spanking and harsh discipline change the way your child’s brain processes fear, mistakes, and emotions.

Why your nervous system is the most powerful discipline tool you have.

A simple framework from Dr. Lori Desautels’ book Connections Over Compliance that helps you “connect before you correct.”

And if you’re ready to go deeper, join us inside The Reflective Parent Club. That’s where we take this science and make it real in our daily lives, with support, tools, and a community of parents walking this same journey.

Because when you regulate, connect, and guide, you’re not just shaping behaviour. You’re shaping the brain.

Articles:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33835477/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36152947/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34197808/

Read blog post:

https://curiousneuron.com/2025/09/20/science-of-punishment-vs-discipline-how-parenting-shapes-your-childs-brain/

Podcast episode with Dr. Bruce Perry:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/reflective-parenting-by-curious-neuron/id1440533170?i=1000596000285

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