What if the things you want in the bedroom aren't as extreme as you think? Certified sex and relationship coach Amanda Dames breaks down the kink spectrum—from hair pulling to rope bondage—and explains why honest communication about sexual desires is so important for relationships.

Amanda, a former professional dominatrix with over a decade of experience, discusses the crucial difference between kinks, fetishes, and fantasies. She shares why some people who can't discuss their desires with their spouse may look elsewhere, and more importantly, how to have these vulnerable conversations before that happens.

What You'll Learn:

1. The kink spectrum: What actually counts as "kinky"
2. The difference between kinks (nice to have) and fetishes (necessary for orgasm)
3. Why it's hard to share sexual desires with the person who cleans the toilet
4. How to start conversations about fantasies with your partner
5. Why rejection of sexual interests creates deeper wounds
6. The role of shame in preventing honest sexual communication, and why infidelity can stem from this fear
7. What degradation play, power exchange, and impact play actually mean
8. Why you should never bring up new desires during sex
9. How aftercare works in kink relationships

Key Topics Discussed: Sexual communication, kink education, BDSM basics, fetishes vs kinks, power dynamics, consent, relationship shame, how to talk to vanilla partners, core desires, Fifty Shades of Grey's impact, managing sexual incompatibility

Amanda explains why high-powered executives sometimes want to be controlled in the bedroom, how to identify what feeling you're actually seeking through kink, and practical frameworks for opening up vulnerable conversations with your partner. Whether you're curious about exploring kink or just want better sexual communication, this episode provides actionable advice.

Perfect for listeners interested in: Sexual wellness, relationship communication, BDSM education, overcoming shame, couples therapy insights, sexual compatibility, fantasy exploration

Guest: Amanda Dames | The Kink Consultant

1. Website: amandadames.com

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