The Slumflower Hour

Have you convinced yourself you're stuck with that man? Is he really the best you can do? Why do you even keep giving him chances?

In this brief and funny episode, join The Slumflower as she talks through the lies we tell ourselves to cling onto these men who have passed their expiry date in our lives...

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Is the pressure on to start a family? Feeling broody? Or maybe even experiencing that FOMO feeling as everyone around you is starting to have babies? You are not alone!

In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about why you don't need to have kids just because you want to...and the ways we can all show up in a maternal role without having to commit to parenthood *cough cough* shout out to the aunties!

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Are you a first born daughter who has been plagued by the perpetual sense of responsibility...even over the men you date?

Has your first born daughter status evolved into a saviour complex?

Do you feel like you need to be useful in order to be loved?

Dear first born daughters, this one is for us! In this episode, join Chidera as she muses and reflects on her life and upbringing as a first born daughter - and how this has actually empowered her to be stern, bold and fearless in her self-advocacy when dating men.

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Have you been victimised by a Nigerian man?

Are you too nice to the Nigerian men you date? (YES)

Is there a lack of cultural awareness that impinges upon your ability to understand Nigerian men?

However you resonate (or don't) with these questions, you'll enjoy this episode full of insight, banter and cultural context from a Nigerian woman, herself!

In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses how best to date Nigerian men to enjoy the best of them and avoid the worst of them...

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Are you that friend who keeps calling your friend to complain about the same man you won't leave?

Are you the friend who wishes your homegirl would get a grip and get over that man, so you can have your friend back?

Or are you that woman who has exhausted all your friendships and has found herself isolated because you keep choosing men over self-respect?

If any of the above resonate, this episode is for you! In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the irritation of being that woman who simply won't learn her bloody lesson...

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Do you find your neurodivergence interfering with your dating life? Have you found your rejection sensitivity makes you more prone to rumination? Has your constant masking made you more used to tolerating discomfort around men?

In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses how her neurodivergence influences the way she navigates men.

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Are pick-me women simply misunderstood? Are things 'easier' with men when you let patriarchy run its course? What can women do to avoid becoming desperate?

In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through all the reasons why picking men over yourself will always leave you short-changed and resentful - no matter how exceptional you think your situation is...

Get tickets for my October 26th LIVE SHOW at Leicester Square Theatre, London

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Did you notice yourself almost falling for the botched dream being sold to you? Was it all stating to feel a little too good to be true? Has he switched up on you because his little game didn't work?

Nothing hits better than that 'thank God I didn't fall for him' relief and in this episode, The Slumflower visits the various ways men become sassy and insufferable when their grandiosity backfires!

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This episode was voted for by the patrons over at Patreon!

If we can all agree that men are scary, then we can al agree that dating men should be worth our time, right? Join Chidera, as she chats through safety, self esteem and making men EARN your trust!

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Do you fantasise about him coming back? Do you tend to develop limerence for men who leave you? Do you allow yourself to feel your anger in full?

If any of these questions resonate with you, this episode might hit home. Join The Slumflower as she discusses why you should test men, why you need to stop 'healing' and why it's totally okay that you might not meet 'the one'.

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