What if your masc/stud surprised you at your wedding in a wedding dress? 

On this episode of The Strapdown Podcast, we get into the conversation around masc and studs who choose wedding dresses instead of suits on their big day. We talk about gender expectations in queer spaces, why people love to police masculinity, and why a dress doesn’t cancel anyone’s identity. 

Also, be on the look out for RED PILL lesbians. Yes, you read that correctly. RED. PILL. LESBIANS. Let's talk about how straight, patriarchal dating logic keeps sneaking into lesbian culture. The CIA never takes a day off. 

This week's SUGAA features a real-life horror story that answers the age-old question: should you sign a lease with your girlfriend? (Short answer: Absolutely not!) We talk about "go" money, red flags, and weigh the pros and cons of bad credit versus hard time.

To close things out, we put you on to some things we’re loving right now, including Queer Wrestling and a new YouTube POC web series called Queer Memoirs! Yaaas to creating our own art!!!

Be sure to support Nekima Levy Armstong's Go Fund Me and continue to fight the good fight. 

Let us know your thoughts in comments!!! 

Stay Strapped!! 

Link to Bay Area Queer Wresting event:

Crybaby Oakland: https://www.instagram.com/crybabyoakland?igsh=YnlxdDc3MGI3dXhq

Queer Memoir: https://youtu.be/GGredqGNKAg?siOXWSkRVcH15Kqq

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Go fund Me (reactivated as of time of posting)

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In today's femme topic we talk about the phenomenon around Heated Rivalry, what a fujoshi is, and why there are no Black people involved. Sheria discusses her Black Girl Bechdel Test and we talk about the fear of Black lesbians in media (as evidenced by the Netflix Lara Croft memes). We also give some special Solicited/Unsolicited Gay Auntie Advice to a 34 year old soft-masc looking for community and connection with help from our new sponsor at the HER App. https://weareher.com/download/We get an update from our Artist in Residence ksst, and our official niece, Aissatou Amiya puts us on Strap Game to some Black sapphic graphic novels.Thanks to HER for sponsoring this episode!

What happens when humor crosses the line into harm?In this episode of The Strap Down Podcast, we're waking back up the controversy surrounding everyone's favorite toxic (stud), Ezee, and the backlash after the notorious fat suit skit mocking Black plus-sized influencer, Samyra. We open up this "internet joke" to a much deeper conversation about fat-phobia and anti-Blackness within Black and lesbian communities.We break down why this moment struck such a nerve, how anti-fatness often shows up disguised as comedy, and why Black plus-sized people are frequently expected to absorb harm in silence. We also give some SUGAA by tackling a tricky but very real dating question: How do you tell someone you’re not interested because of physical appearance without being cruel or dishonest? This week Sheria puts y'all on to RYBE, a pop group good enough to possibly make Sheria give up Kpop for good. (hehe)If you’re into lesbian podcasts, conversations about Black culture, internet foolishness, or thoughtful takes on messy topics, STRAP IN and STRAP DOWN this episode is for you! Check out  @RybeMusic  on our Put You On Strap Game playlist on Spotify and Apple MusicPut You On Strap Game PlaylistSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3sfG0tdC0c9WTpW1l7vmkT?si=mCbLfILiQ2u7jI9D6FZ9LQApple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/put-you-on-strap-game/pl.u-oZylM7ZCDoe60X

Sorry Riders, Technical difficulties continue to plague your gay Aunties.We have had Ginger up day and night trying to properly export this file to bring you this episode. Thank you so much for your patience we are really trying to grow and change and learn how to get the bitrate bit right. We love you.

Read the back story here: https://people.com/plus-size-creator-samyra-responds-to-skit-mocking-her-exclusive-11885641

What happens when humor crosses the line into harm?In this episode of The Strap Down Podcast, we're waking back up the controversy surrounding everyone's favorite toxic (stud), Ezee, and the backlash after the notorious fat suit skit mocking Black plus-sized influencer, Samyra.

We open up this "internet joke" to a much deeper conversation about fat-phobia and anti-Blackness within Black and lesbian communities.We break down why this moment struck such a nerve, how anti-fatness often shows up disguised as comedy, and why Black plus-sized people are frequently expected to absorb harm in silence.

Read Belly of the Beast: https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55887785-belly-of-the-beast&ved=2ahUKEwinrubrlKCSAxUZhIkEHffWMpMQFnoECCQQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0LGFj3-5ugN84h_COXZBcN

We also give some SUGAA by tackling a tricky but very real dating question: How do you tell someone you’re not interested because of physical appearance without being cruel or dishonest?

This week Sheria puts y'all on to RYBE, a pop group good enough to possibly make Sheria give up Kpop for good. (hehe)If you’re into lesbian podcasts, conversations about Black culture, internet foolishness, or thoughtful takes on messy topics, STRAP IN and STRAP DOWN this episode is for you!

Check out @RybeMusic on our Put You On Strap Game playlist on Spotify and Apple Music

Put You On Strap Game Playlist

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3sfG0tdC0c9WTpW1l7vmkT?si=mCbLfILiQ2u7jI9D6FZ9LQ

Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/put-you-on-strap-game/pl.u-oZylM7ZCDoe60X

In this episode we talk about what the Renee Good/the ICE situation happening in Minnesota means for racialize communities. On a lighter note, we give some SUGAA about how to prioritize your sexual health and role play how to talk to your partner about their dirty nails (because love and hygiene matter). We're also Putting You on Strap Game to Cat Burns’ new album- get your tissues ready! Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for weekly episodes centered on queer culture, dating, self-growth, and community.0:00:38 - Welcome back to Episode 20:01:14 - Femme Top Icks: Renee Good, Ice, Black fatigue 0:45:55 - Put you on strap game- Can Burns How to Be Human 0:56:06 - SUGAA - Dirty Nail Intervention 1:00:00 - Something good- Audience DMs

1-2-3 Release Em! We're back for Season 3! In this episode we talk about all the queer stories and nonsense we missed. From the creepy stud-stitute teacher who was fired on her first day, RHOA Porsha's new girlfriend, Nicki Minaj tap dancing for Turning Point USA, and Neace Robinson, the stud funeral singer who stole our hearts. 0:00 Intro Clip 1:16 Welcome to Season 3 2:02 Stories we missed 2:24 1-2-3 Release em! Funeral Stud 7:05 "Stud"-stitute Teacher Gets Fired9:45 RHOA Porsha Williams Pops Out with Lesbian GF14:15 Tammy Roman shames lesbian daughter16:41 Nicki Minaj's Maga Mixtape19:45 Femme Top-Icks We're Leaving in '2543:30 SUGAA 59:40 Put you on Strap Game: Mrs & Mrs1:05:25 Rider Shout Outs1:10:00 Tell Me Something GoodBe sure to check out and support Mrs and Mrs!!!‪@MrsHeavenGrace‬ https://www.instagram.com/mrsandmrs__...   / @mrsheavengrace   https://www.themrsandmrs.comLet us know your thoughts on this week's episode. Like, share, comment!! Let us know what you want to see from your Gay Aunties this season!!

It's the Season 2 finale and we're getting real with the femme topic today.We cover the interesting obsession with studs (black masculine presenting lesbians) by comedian and influencer, Druski. Is this obsession with studs weird? Is it genuine appreciation? Or are we too woke?New Name Alert!!! SUGAA (Solicited/Unsolicited Gay Auntie Advice): This week, we are talking about emotional manipulation, healing from a breakup, and energy cleansing!! Where our witches at??!!! Get ready to ride on your opps when Aurea Puts You On Strap Game to Chicago rapper Cosmo JuggaKnotts. And we close out the season with something new from our Artist in Residence, ksst, the Talk Us Through It Award, and some water-sign ahh feelings. We love you. Thank you for RIDING with us. Stay Strapped for more to come!Cosmo JuggaKnotts on IG: https://www.instagram.com/cosmoknotts...Cosmo JuggaKnotts "Choppa Talk" on Spotify: https://spotify.link/YXpCFZskuXbCosmo JuggaKnotts "Dumbass" on Spotify: https://spotify.link/yjQSlMwkuXbCosmo JuggaKnotts "Swisher" on Youtube:    • Live From The Hive: KariTYB x COSMO JUGGAK...  See CosmoJuggaKnotts LIVE: https://l.instagram.com/?u=https%3A%2...For those in the NYC area in need of some reiki, check out the NYC POC Healing Circle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nycpocheali...Support the Strapdown on Patreon and get uncensored episodes, bonus content, and more!:   / thestrapdownpodcast  

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This week we give some tips, tricks, and personal experiences with femme for femme flirting. We give some Solicited Auntie Advice to a listener entering their ho-phase, Put You on Strap Game to Asiahn's Queer R&B masterpiece album "Free", and give out our first "Talk You Through It Award" for the best comment we got this week!

Femme Topics: Femme for Femme Flirting

Auntie Advice: How to navigate your Queer Ho Phase, ethically

Put You On Strap Game:  ⁨@iamasiahn⁩  's album Free

This week, Aurea and Sheria talk about the lack of Black lesbian romantic representation, talk about having compassion for the unmotivated sapphics, and give some advice about how to take a decent kitty pic, and how to go from casual dating to something more serious

Plus Aurea Puts You On StrapGame to women-owned sports bar, Wilka's and sports apparel shop playasociety.com . Also an epic update from Artist in Residence, ksst.

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In this episode's Femme Topics we talk about the very tragic demise of patriot martyr Charles W. Kirkland. We discuss our very different feelings on the matter, ask why Jennifer Coolidge, Selma Blair, and Kristin Chenowith felt safe revealing the real face of "gay icons", untangle Gen Z mayo boy nihilism, tell you why that little lesbian Dean Withers was really crying, and lament that none of this will bring us true liberation.

We also give some SOLICITED Auntie Advice to a listener trying to keep her Long Distance Relationship strong, Put You On Strap Game to the new Hemlocke Springs single and video, relive some Black lesbian joy from our time at Gladys Books & Wine, and share an art update from StrapDown Artist In Residence, ksst along with a metatextual response from our first Patreon subscriber Cassie.