I’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it’s taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick.

Thus I’m now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive to Nice Guys.

In this short solo episode I break down why your need to belong may be strangling you of your authentic expression and I give you three steps on how to begin to shift the tides

Enjoy.

Cheers,

Traver

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An Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him back a novel, I decided to record this solo episode for you.

In it, I jump right to the point and outline what’s great about Traditional Masculinity and — what needed to be upgraded about it. Thus the creation of UNcivilized Masculinity.

I outline what makes us different and why…key word — relationship.

Enjoy.

Cheers,

Traver

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Francis Weller has been an inspiration for me for years now. The way he speaks and shares his work around initiation and living a soulful life hits me in my core. It stops my frantic mind and makes me feel like the world is going to be okay…even if it may not be.

In this episode I get to sit down with Francis and have a frank conversation about men, about getting in touch with our deeper parts, and with what we need to do to make sure we as a species don’t got extinct. 

You know, light fluffy stuff.

Enjoy.

Cheers,

Traver

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In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram:

I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself.

Enjoy.

Cheers,

Traver

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Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can start from?”
In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you’re about to embark on your men’s work journey, or where to return to if you’ve currently been on a break and aren’t sure where to pick back up.

I also share a new frame for you that takes the edge and anxiety out of how overwhelming the decision may be.

Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.

Cheers,

Traver

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In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose.

Knowing why you’re here and what you’re here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering.

This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you’re in between major chapters of your life.

Enjoy.

Cheers,

Traver

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I actually did walk through the woods to go to school, and sometimes it was freezing. I figured out pretty early on that there are a lot of guys who get things handed to them where I didn't. I also figured out I wasn't the smartest but I had the willingness and ability to outwork just about anybody. But we all had one thing in common.

Failure to launch.

We all hit "failure to launch" in our lives, multiple times. The way you get out of that rut is...

Listen to this podcast. And learn. And get out of the procrastination loop.

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After BDSM teacher Andy Buru came into The UNcivilized Nation and dropped this notion for all of us, I’ve been seeing how potent of an idea this is — balancing space holding and selfishness actually is. AND how confronting it is for so many people to lean into the one that’s not their natural way.

In this short solo episode I break down why being able to do both will change your sex life, your income, and your relationships at large.

Enjoy.

Cheers,

Traver

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This is an important episode and please stay to the end of it where we go into a depth we never planned on. Last week Duey quoted a book he’s reading about how men mostly fear the experience of being afraid. I put my knife and fork down and asked him to tell me more. 

As he did, I knew we had to record this episode and share it with you all. It starts a bit slow but then we get into hard hitting concepts that you can use to shift your life immediately.

Enjoy.

Cheers,

Traver

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Making a brief return to interviewing, I get to sit down here with a man who has been a mortician since the age of 18. Wild huh?

Enjoy.

Cheers,

Traver

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