The Way You Show Up

Curious about how stress might be silently sabotaging your memory? In today’s episode, we unravel the intricate web of memory mechanisms and share actionable techniques to boost your recall. We define memory in its various forms—working, short-term, and long-term—and use engaging examples like letter sequences and favorite bands to illustrate their unique functions. We promise you'll gain knowledge that can elevate both your personal and professional life.

Next, we tackle the impact of stress and trauma on memory recall with some eye-opening statistics and studies. Did you know that women might remember more words than men under stress? We discuss how negative experiences can overshadow positive memories and stress the importance of sleep for memory retention. Drawing on compelling research, including a 2019 study on PTSD, we highlight how personalized memory cues can significantly enhance recall.

Lastly, we shift our focus to practical strategies for memory improvement, emphasizing the importance of physical fitness and reward mechanisms. From repetition techniques to the cognitive prowess of elite athletes, we demonstrate how exercise and personalized strategies can make a remarkable difference. Tune in to learn how these insights can transform your memory performance and hear inspiring stories that showcase the incredible potential of these techniques.

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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

Divorce can feel like the end of the world, shattering dreams and leaving you questioning your worth. But it doesn't have to be the final chapter. On It Starts with Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes and David Mathews, founder of Spark of Life, offer hope and healing for those navigating the devastating loss of divorce.

In this powerful episode, David reveals why divorce is so hard to process, highlighting the unresolved resentments, regrets, and shattered dreams that keep individuals stuck. He emphasizes the importance of viewing divorce as a form of grief and shares practical tools for recovery, including forgiveness, gratitude, and taking small steps forward. Discover how to shift your focus from loss to what you still have, and learn how to live forward with hope and purpose after divorce.

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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

Is Brain Fog Real? How to Beat It & Get Your Mental Clarity Back! Ever felt like you're walking through a mental fog? Forgetful, unfocused, and struggling to concentrate? You're not alone! Today, we're diving deep into the world of brain fog with the incredible Kimberly Beam Holmes.

In this episode, we'll uncover:
• What is brain fog? We'll break down the science, symptoms, and real-life experiences.
• Why is brain fog on the rise? We'll explore the surprising link between COVID-19 and brain fog, plus other potential triggers.
• How to kick brain fog to the curb! Discover the four powerful strategies you can use to reclaim your mental clarity: sleep, healthy diet, exercise, and mental breaks.

We'll even reveal some bonus tips, including the potential benefits of Wellbutrin and the power of drinking water.

Don't let brain fog hold you back from living your best life! Join us on this journey to understand and overcome this common struggle. Hit that subscribe button for more life-changing conversations on mental health, relationships, and personal growth. Turn on notifications so you never miss an episode! Share the love! If this video resonated with you, share it with a friend who might be struggling with brain fog. 

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

Ever wondered how to measure the elusive power of emotional attraction?  Struggling to balance the PIES and keep those sweet cravings in check? 
Join us for an intriguing and empowering Ask Me Anything episode where we spill the tea on everything from dopamine and serotonin to overcoming those pesky ideological differences with your spouse. 

Ready to ignite your attraction potential? Join us on an exciting journey where we'll unlock the science of attraction and empower you to create a more fulfilling, vibrant you!

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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

Eating disorders are more common than you might think, affecting millions of women and men. In this episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes and Jason Marcum dive deep into the different types of eating disorders – anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, and more. They explore the devastating consequences of these conditions and share heartbreaking personal stories that shed light on the struggles faced by those affected.

Discover the warning signs, risk factors, and available treatment options for eating disorders. Learn how social media, societal pressures, and even childhood experiences can contribute to the development of these complex conditions. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Jason Marcum provide valuable insights into how to support loved ones who might be struggling and emphasize the importance of early intervention.

Join us for this important conversation as we break the silence surrounding eating disorders and offer hope for recovery. If you or someone you know needs help, don't hesitate to reach out to the resources listed below. Remember, you are not alone.

Key Points:
• Shocking statistics: Discover the alarming prevalence of eating disorders and the devastating impact they have on individuals and families.
• Real stories: Hear personal experiences from Kimberly Beam Holmes that highlight the struggles and challenges faced by those with eating disorders.
• Warning signs and risk factors: Learn to identify the signs and understand the factors that can contribute to the development of eating disorders.
• Treatment and support: Explore available treatment options and resources for those struggling with eating disorders and their loved ones.
• Breaking the silence: Join us in raising awareness about eating disorders and offering hope for recovery.

Resources and Options for Help:
•  National Association of Anorexia Nervosa - 1 (888) 375-7767
• National Eating Disorders Association - 1 (866) 662-1235
• Diabulimia Helpline - 1 (425) 985-3635
• Feast (Families Empowered and Supporting Treatment for Eating Disorders) Remember, It Starts With Attraction is committed to supporting your emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physical well-being.

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Don't miss this powerful episode and share it with anyone who might need it. Together, we can make a difference.

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

Are you curious about what makes a marriage truly happy? In this video, we dive deep into the key factors that can predict marital happiness and overall life satisfaction. Our expert guest explores extensive research, revealing the surprising elements that contribute to a joyful and fulfilling marriage.

📊 Research Highlights:

 • Various surveys, including Gallup, General Social Survey, and the American Family Survey.
 • How good marriage surpasses education, money, work, and even sexual frequency in predicting happiness.

💡 Key Predictors of Marital Happiness:

 • Regular date nights and emotional engagement.
 • Strong sense of commitment and shared religious activities.
 • The protective nature of a spouse, particularly significant for women.

💔 Marriage Myths Debunked:

 • The “Soulmate Myth” and its impact on marital expectations.
 • Understanding that marriage is about more than just intense romantic or emotional connections.
 • Appreciating the broader goods realized in marriage, such as financial security, family, and support.

📈 Challenges and Realism:

 • Young adults’ high expectations and the fear of not having all their ducks in a row.
 • The importance of maturity and realistic views on marriage and parenthood.
 • The benefits of marrying in your 20s, including higher happiness rates and less emotional baggage.

Join us as we unravel the secrets to a happy marriage and debunk common myths that might be holding you back. Whether you’re married, engaged, or just curious about what makes a lasting and joyful union, this guide will provide valuable insights and practical advice.

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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

Are you looking to strengthen your marriage or learn more about the current state of marriage in America? Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and sociologist Dr. Brad Wilcox for an insightful discussion on It Starts With Attraction!

In this episode, they debunk common myths about marriage and explore the benefits of strong, stable unions. Dr. Wilcox dives into data on marriage trends, discussing the decline in divorce rates and the correlation between religion and family stability. They also address the challenges couples face today, including unemployment and unrealistic expectations. Kimberly Beam Holmes leaves the episode on a hopeful note, emphasizing that there is hope for a great marriage regardless of religion, social status, or background. She encourages couples to communicate openly and work together through tough times.

Key takeaways you will learn:
• The importance of spending quality time together as a couple
• How shared values and religious beliefs can contribute to marital happiness
• Practical tips for communicating effectively during unemployment
• Why marriage requires sacrifice and working together to meet each other's needs

Feeling discouraged about marriage? Kimberly Beam Holmes offers words of encouragement, reminding listeners that there is always hope, and a pathway to a fulfilling marriage.

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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

Is that afternoon slump hitting you hard? You might be parched! This episode dives DEEP into hydration, caffeine, and electrolytes. Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down why water is SO important, from flushing toxins to keeping your brain sharp.

Here's what you'll learn:

• The TRUTH about thirst: Is it the only sign of dehydration? We reveal the sneaky symptoms that hinder peak performance. It might surprise you!
• 2 Types of Dehydration: We unveil the difference between intracellular and extracellular dehydration and how it affects you.
• How much water YOU ACTUALLY need: Ditch the "8 glasses a day" myth! (It depends on your weight, activity level, and even climate!) We'll teach you how to personalize your hydration plan.
• Coffee Blues? We explore how caffeine impacts hydration and debunk some common myths.
• Electrolytes 101: Are they just for athletes? We explain why electrolytes are crucial for EVERYONE and how they impact your exercise performance.

Smash dehydration and unlock your body's peak performance! Hit that play button and get ready to LEVEL UP your health! Learn how to optimize your hydration, ditch the fatigue, and feel your best all day long!

I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes

How Digital Fasting Can Change Your Life

Are you addicted to your smartphone? Do you find yourself constantly checking your phone, even when you know there's nothing new to see? If so, you're not alone. In this episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes talks to Darren Whitehead, a pastor and author of The Digital Fast, about how to break free from smartphone addiction and live a more fulfilling life.

Darren shares his own personal experience with smartphone addiction and how he led his church through a digital fast. He also discusses the negative effects of smartphone use on relationships, mental health, and even brain development in toddlers.

If you're ready to take back control of your life from your smartphone, this episode is for you. Darren Whitehead will share practical tips on how to do a digital fast and create a healthier relationship with technology.

In this episode, you'll learn:
• How to identify if you have a smartphone addiction
• The negative effects of smartphone use on your life
• How to do a digital fast
• How to create a healthier relationship with technology
• What are the four areas of attraction and how do they relate to your overall well-being?
• How can you apply the principles of digital fasting to your own life?

Don't miss this episode! It could change your life.

Today's Guest: Darren Whitehead

Originally from Australia, Darren has lived in the United States for over 25 years. In 2013, he founded Church of the City, now with several locations across Nashville. He earned his Masters in Ministry from Wesley Seminary and his Doctorate from Capital Seminary and Graduate School, with his dissertation focus on Mil- lennials and the future of the Western church. Darren’s previous books include, Rumors of God (co-authored with Jon Tyson) and Holy Roar (co-authored with Chris Tomlin).

Darren lives with his wife, Brandy, and their three daughters in Franklin, Tennessee.

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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

New episodes every Thursday.

Don't just exist. Show up.

🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com

🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes